The Femme Cast | Visibility & Impact For The Unapologetic Woman

The Courage to Speak: Transform Your Emotions into Powerful Posts & Podcasts

• Maria Rei

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Your feed feels loud. Your heart feels heavy. Every post, email, or video you try to create sounds either too soft or too sharp. If you’re a conscious creator, empath, or healer, you know the fear of saying the wrong thing—and right now, it can feel paralyzing. In this episode of The Femme Cast, we sit with that fear, unpack the myth that naming grief, anger, and injustice is “negative,” and reveal a clear, repeatable process to turn raw emotion into aligned messages that actually support your audience.

You’ll learn how to:

🎤 Journal the messiest truths, step back, and highlight what resonates
🎤 Choose your lane and role as a creator, whether artist, space-holder, or encourager
🎤 Set boundaries and ground yourself before showing up online
🎤 Transform grief and anger into fuel for creative, compassionate impact. 

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about courage, authenticity, and moving through emotional intensity to speak your truth unapologetically.

Whether you’re navigating fear, overwhelm, or the weight of the world, this episode gives you a roadmap to step fully into visibility, make an impact, and create posts, podcasts, or videos that are deeply human, deeply felt, and deeply needed.

You are seen. Your emotions are valid. Your voice—messy, raw, and real—is the portal to transformation, for yourself and everyone you reach. Step into your courage, speak your truth, and alchemize your pain into infinite potential.

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Hey you guys, what is up? Welcome back to the show. Let's dive right in. Last week we talked about the five core, or last episode, we talked about the five core visibility wounds that I see coming up again and again. And I shared a little bit of how they showed up for me. Today I wanted to talk very deeply about the fear of speaking your truth because, like I said in that episode, this is something that's been really coming up for me lately. And I'm sure if you're a content creator who, you know, is highly empathic, who has gifts or a message or a story to share with the world, you're probably feeling this on some level too. And that's why I wanted to kind of create its own episode, right? There's so much happening in the world around us. There's so much happening in the world around us, and that can create so much anxiety around visibility, right? Because emotions are so high right now, you know, there's so much grief, there's so much anger, there's so much sadness in the world. We could be terrified of saying the wrong thing. Should we be saying something? Shouldn't we be saying something? I feel bad if I do say something and show up online. I feel bad if I don't. What if I say the wrong thing? What if I piss people off? This fear of speaking your truth in times like this gets so amplified. And that's why I kind of wanted to devote just, you know, a little short little talk about that in itself. When things get intense the way they are right now, when, you know, emotions are high, stakes are high, people are moving through a lot, we're feeling a lot. Whether you're in it or not, you know, whether you're experiencing it firsthand or whether you're, you know, like me, like you're, you know, you're just kind of watching the world unfold on the news and you're thinking, where the like, where the fuck are we going? Like what's actually happening in the world? Is there, are we actually gonna be okay? Like I wonder sometimes, you know. It can be all that emotion can be very overwhelming. You know, if you're an empath who's here to do good shit in the world, you know, you're a conscious creator who wants to make a positive impact in the world, you're gonna be feeling this. No doubt. Maybe you're even maybe you're even experiencing it firsthand, in which case my heart and my prayers go out to you. Like, there's no, there's, there's, there's, there's no words that can express how much I feel for the people who are witnessing this unfold in their homes and their communities. And and, you know, it's not just in one area, it's in, it's all over the world, you guys. Like it's all over the world. There's just so much unrest and you know, suffering and you know, human rights violations happening. And it certainly is eye-opening of you know how much work as a collective we still need to do, right? Having said that, coming from you know, being a highly empathic conscious creator who wants to just do good shit in the world and have a positive impact, this can be a little daunting, right? Because, like I said, you're afraid to say the wrong thing, you're afraid to say it at the wrong time, say it in the wrong way, offending this group, offending that group, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Listen, there are so many ways that we could respond. Sometimes, you know, I feel like, do I say something? And then this is, I'm just gonna let you into what's going on for me personally. Sometimes, like, do, you know, do I say something? I don't really know what to say. I don't really have the facts. So what do I say? But I am angry. I know that I'm angry. I'm angry that this is happening, and I know that this is not right, and I know that this is not justice. So what do I say here? I have no facts, I have no proof, I have nothing really to offer other than just my own anger. I I feel like, you know, sometimes, you know, we kind of get in your head, and you know, you kind of hear the spiritual, you know, the same spiritual guidelines, you know, everybody loves to regurgitate, which is, oh, don't give anything, there's anything that you're seeing in the world that you don't really like, you know, don't give it any of your energy. Otherwise, you're just, you know, putting more energy into creating it. I'm like, well, that's a pile of like, that's just a pile of crap. Like, I believe that that's true. And, you know, if you if you've been kind of, you know, debating on this, and and and I think this is probably why I didn't say anything in 1020, is because I didn't want to put any energy into creating obviously what I didn't want either for myself or anybody else. But what I've come to learn since then is no, actually, putting your energy in what you don't want is it's putting your it's putting your your energy into worrying about fear or limiting beliefs that don't really exist, or negative thought patterns, or judging other people, or being mean. Like that's what you don't want to pour your energy into. But calling out injustice and suffering and actually acknowledging that it's happening in the world, that's not negative. That's actually being a compassionate and empathic human being. And I have no desire to be anything else. So I'm I'm not I'm not holding myself to this impossible standard of constantly being in love and life because I I just don't think that that's what we need right now. I think we need kindness, I think we need compassion, and I need, I think we need to really empathize with what it is that people are going through and acknowledge what people are going through right now, even if I'm not experiencing it firsthand. So I didn't resonate with posting my usual content and pretending as though nothing was happening. I also didn't want to piss off my subscribers and my followers and start throwing out content that they didn't really want to see. So I'm like, where do you find the path? Like, how do you speak what's in your heart to be like, how do you share what's on your heart to share in a way that is purposeful, that creates the impact that you want to make, but also honors your truth and where you're at and what's coming through you to be expressed, right? Because ultimately, like I said in the last one, we have to trust the messages that are coming through because they're coming through for a reason. And so my process for doing this, right, in this moment was to just write down everything that I was thinking and feeling. I wrote it down to I had nothing until I had nothing left to say. I wrote everything down, journaled it, got it out, got angry, I cried, I got angry again, I prayed, I I I sat I stepped into some I I tapped into some positive intentions, and then I got angry again. And then it's just like I just kind of let it be as messy as I could possibly, excuse me, truth bubble, as messy as it possibly could. And then I just kind of let it sit. And then I did it again and again, and I just let it sit and I did it again and again. And then in the end of the at the end of that exercise, I said, okay, well, what is here for me in these notes that I've taken so feverishly? What is in these notes that I'm feeling the pull to share right now with the collective, with my audience, with my followers? What feels like the aligned thing here for me to say? And how can I say that with the most love? And so I finally filtered out what that was and I created a post around it. I I the time that I'm recording this, I haven't posted it yet, but I probably will have. And I, you know, I created a post that that felt truly aligned and that that felt resonant for me and what I was feeling and what I was moving through and what I wanted to, how I wanted to offer support in this time that we find ourselves in. And I felt good about that. And I'm still sitting with it, and maybe I'll tweak it again before I post it, or maybe I won't, or maybe I'll come up with two or three more posts. I'm not sure because the original one actually was sounded like five posts, if I'm being completely honest. We'll see. Maybe I'll create a couple more. I don't know. But what I do know is that, you know, we can easily get caught in our head that we can't help, that nothing we can say is gonna make a difference. We don't know enough. We're not there. Maybe we're not there, maybe we don't see what's happening, maybe we don't know the facts or the details of what's happening, or, you know, maybe we can't, you know, be on the front lines and really be able to make a difference in any of this stuff. We're kind of, we're far away, we're, we're, we're out of the, we're out of, we're out of the, we're, you know, we're not where everything's kind of going down, where it's all unfolding. So we we feel like we have very little impact that we can make. Listen, in times like this, I do believe, like I said, if you're being called, if you're being pushed, if you want to share something, there's a reason, right? If there's on your heart, if if there's on if on your heart there's something that needs to be expressed, I need you to trust that. And I think the world needs that now more than ever. Now, not everybody's gonna be able to help in the exact same way. You know, some people are really on the front lines and really like, you know, really fighting the good fight. And other people are, you know, they're delivering the facts, they're doing the research, they have the, they have the data, they have the, you know, the articles to back up what they're saying. And, you know, those are the information showers, right? Then we have other people who are, you know, maybe we're sharing some spiritual truths, maybe we're holding space for people to move through some very difficult emotions. Maybe we can share another perspective, maybe we can share just how we're moving through it so that other people who are moving through it and can't make sense of all everything that they're feeling know how to do it too. Like everyone has a part to play in this. Otherwise, we wouldn't all be getting, you know, impacted by it. And please, dear God, please don't feel bad that, you know, you feel sadness and you feel grief for everything that's going on in the world or think that you're gonna create negativity or you're pouring energy or intention into something that you don't want to create. Please just let that go. I'm actually more worried about the people who aren't feeling something right now with everything going on, you know. I'm actually more worried about them than the people who are. I think it's very natural to be feeling a lot right now, and I think it's very natural to be angry and to be in grief and to have so much emotion that you just don't know what to say. And maybe you get in your head a lot, and and maybe even have like multiple things that you want to say, but it's all coming out at the same time and it's a jumbled fucking hot mess, and that's okay too. I think it's normal with the intensity of everything that we're moving through and everything that we're feeling right now, and I think we can all kind of cut ourselves some slack, and I think you know, you can let go of having to be perfect and say the perfect right thing. I think that where you're at right now and what you're feeling is probably exactly what people need to hear, right? So, you know, last time I did this, like I said, I ghosted social media for two and a half fucking years because I was afraid to say the wrong thing. I was afraid of pissing people off. I was afraid of getting canceled. I was afraid of getting all these hate comments. I was afraid that I would hurt somebody, that I would make somebody feel sad, that I would make somebody feel unseen in some way. And, you know, I really just wanted to do the right thing and I didn't know what that right thing was, right? So I'm here to tell you that the right thing is the thing that is on your heart right now. Whatever that thing is. Upside, you can move through the anger, if you can move through the sadness, if you can move through the grief, you know, just let it be there, let it take up space, journal the fuck out of it. Like I mean, journal it for hours or days if you need to, and just let it all out. And then when you feel like you've come to a place of neutral, I want you to highlight the stuff. This this is what my heart wants to say in all of this with everything going on and whatever I'm seeing on the news and and whatever I'm seeing and witnessing firsthand, and my I can't express how much I'm sending love and prayers to everybody who's experiencing any of this first hand. And I'm I do apologize because I'm getting a little emotional. But I can tell you that my soul knows, and I know that this is not this is not where we're meant to land. We get to transform through this, we get to we get to create a different experience on the other side of this for everybody. And you know, whether that happens a week from now or a year from now or a decade from now, I don't believe that. I don't believe that this is this is where what's it called? This this is this is where humanity stops evolving. I believe that we are at our greatest precipice in our evolution, and I believe that things are getting so just so because you know, certain old patterns and belief systems and structures realize that they're changing they're gonna need to change, and they don't want to. And I believe that those energies are fighting like a cornered cat right now to hold on to patterns, to structures, to institutions that we know can't come with us. And so that's why I believe we're seeing all this. Now, that's not to say that everything's gonna get better tomorrow. I just we don't know that. We just don't know. But what I do know is that this is not where humanity stops evolving. This is just the beginning. And the only thing that's gonna help us smooth past this, I believe, is truly, truly moving through our emotional experiencing, uh, honoring it, holding space for it without projecting, without, you know, no projecting onto other people, no suppressing or denying or avoiding or scapegoating, none of that, none of that. Let's just be present with whatever it is that we're feeling. Let's write it on a page, rant it in an audio note, scream it into a pillow, do what we need to do, write it out. And, you know, if you're a content creator, write it all out, get it out of your system, you know, get it out of your body and onto a piece of paper. And then when you feel like you've come back to a neutral state, when you can ask yourself, okay, I've let, I've I've released all this anger, I've released all this sadness, I've released all this grief. What the heck do I want to create on the other side of this with that, with all of that? And what do I really want to say? What is really in my heart to say, and then just go back to the pages that you wrote with a highlighter and highlight the bits that you want to share with the world. That is what you're here to share. That is what you're here to put out into the world, whether it's a post on your personal page, whether it's a, you know, whether you actually have, you know, it doesn't matter if you have, you know, like I said, if you if it's a post on your personal page, if you have a business page, if you're creating content for followers, if you're creating a podcast, if you've got a blog, if you're creating other articles or art or whatever out into the world, trust that that is what is coming through for you in this moment in order to be sure with whoever your audience is, even if it's just your closest family and friends. Okay. And recognize that, you know, if the last few years have taught me anything, and they've taught me a lot, especially when it comes, you know, temp when it comes about emotional alchemy. Grief, and I talked about this in another episode, grief is just, you know, it's a whole lot of love with no place to land, right? Loss is place to land. Whether we lost somebody or the idea of somebody or the idea of something, right? And anger and rage is really just signaling that it's time for change. Whether that change is speaking a truth or setting a boundary or or just creating something different for the world. So if we take the fact that most people right now are in some form of grief or anger or both, then maybe what we're here to create is a change rooted in love. If we break it right down to a formula, maybe that's it. Who knows? But the point is the only way to get there is through the emotion that this is kicking up for all of us and sharing the message that is on our heart to share, especially if you're if you're a creator like I am. Like if you're here to make an impact on the world with your message, with your gifts, with your art. Use this as your creative fuel in this moment to create what the world needs because it does need it. And I don't think that, you know, ignoring this moment is the right thing to do. I don't. I don't think I don't think you need to come up with the answer for how to fix it. I don't think you need to solve it, you know, whatever that message is on your heart. Maybe that message on your heart is, guys, I'm fumbling my way through this as best as I can, and I'm not doing it perfectly, but here's what I am doing, you know? It could be that simple. And if that's what's coming through, that's what's coming through, and I just want you to trust it. So yeah, I lost my train of thought. I was gonna say something else with that, but it's gone. So maybe if it comes back, great. If not, we'll just call it there. So let me know if that resonates. Let me know if that helps. If you have questions, if this is something that you're struggling with, please don't hesitate to reach out for me with uh reach out to me at Maria at the femcast. No, wait, sorry, Maria at the femcoach.com. That's my email. Or you can head over to my Instagram page and send me a DM there. I would love to hear from you guys. I am here to support you. Let me know if this is something that you're struggling with. I do want to maybe bring back the rage circle, so that's something that I'm considering. Let me know if there's an interest there where we would kind of, you know, have a small, like little online intimate gathering where we could kind of move through the emotional experience together and then just try and see what wants to be created through it. Because I do believe that rage is a powerful tool for creativity and healing and solutions, right? When you have the courage to move through it, and sometimes it's easier to move through it when you're moving through it with other people. So I will leave that there. Let me know. Email me, message me, and let's see what we can do. So listen, I love you guys. My heart goes out to you guys, especially, especially if you're in any one of the regions that is going through all this change and tumultuous change and turmoil right now. But please know my heart goes out. To you, my prayers go out to you, my love goes out to you, and your family and your friends, and you know, I only pray that we soon see the healing side to all of this, and we end up on the other side where you know the transformation, the healing, everything has taken place, and all is good in the world. So I'll keep holding that vision for as long as I can from where I am. So I love you guys until next time. Massive love.

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