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New Year, New You, New Era: Release the Old, and Step Into Your Next Chapter

• Maria Rei

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Feeling squeezed by life—but sensing something bigger is trying to break through?

This episode of The Femme Cast is for the soul-led woman standing in the in-between: closing one chapter, one era, one cycle, and stepping into the next with courage, clarity, and embodied power. If you’ve ever felt grief, transition, or identity shift pressing on you, this is your invitation to transform it into momentum for a New Year, a New You, and a New Life.

I guide you through my slow, soulful reset ritual, designed for endings, beginnings, and every messy in-between. This isn’t about quick fixes or punishing resolutions—it’s about emotional alchemy: feeling your feelings, honoring what was, and consciously calling in your next chapter.

As we close a heavy nine-year cycle and enter a one-year of momentum, visibility, and forward movement, you’ll learn to see pain not as failure, but as a rite of passage. Grief, loss, relationship strain, and old habits aren’t setbacks—they’re the groundwork for transformation.

In this episode, you’ll discover how to:

🎤 Frame endings as the closure of a chapter, era, or cycle

🎤 Release old patterns, relationships, and identities with loving intention

🎤 Use solstice and seasonal energy to support shadow work and rebirth

🎤 Feel gratitude in your body—not just in a journal—rewiring attention toward support, self-respect, and serendipity

🎤 Call in the future you want to live through present-tense visioning

🎤 Translate soul-level desires into simple daily micro-habits

🎤 Build authentic connection, amplify your voice, and expand your visibility

🎤 Generate your core feeling (freedom, joy, power, peace) to collapse the gap between here and the next chapter

This practice isn’t just for January—it’s a ritual for anytime you’re ready to shed the old, claim your voice, and step into the next era of your life. Make space, make it sacred, and let your transformation unfold slowly, intentionally, and beautifully.

Step into this new year, this new chapter, this new life, and claim the version of you that’s ready to move, shine, and make an impact.

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SPEAKER_00:

Hey guys, what is up and welcome back to the show. I'm so excited and grateful to have you guys here. Welcome if you're new. I have no idea what I'm gonna call this episode. Just saying I this is my this is my reset practice that I typically maybe I should close my window. Sorry, that was a honking horn in case you didn't hear that behind me. Okay, so I have no idea what I'm gonna call this. This is my reset practice that I typically do usually every New Year, but also like I don't know, like I don't reserve this just to New Year's. That's why I don't want to put a New Year's timestamp on it. Because it's really for any of those periods when you're letting go of something old and making room for something new or going through, you know, one of those massive transitions, like maybe it's not even a mass, maybe it's just a period, maybe it's just an era, maybe it's just a season, maybe it's a full-on death and rebirth. I don't know. But this is the process that I like to do, and I'm in the midst of one right now that is very intense. I think for me, like astrologically speaking, for me, I'm ending a 13-year cycle that has been very intense. And I know this and I feel this and I've been feeling this in my body, and I've been, you know, it's something that has made itself present its presence very well known. But I think in general, like I talked about in the last video, like we're not just coming on to a new year, it's a whole new era, right? We're letting go of this very heavy nine-year cycle and entering into a new nine-year cycle. So it's very important as we make this transition into 2026 that we not only just look at, you know, what have we, what have we learned this year, but what have we, what have we learned the last nine years while we've been in this cycle, right? And what do we want to take with us? What do we want to leave behind? And what intentions do we want to set for the period to come, right? Like this is a great and auspicious opportunity. And I think it's really magical. And the fact that, you know, like I also mentioned last week, we are going into a one year. There's so much supportive energy. It's also the year of the horse, right? And momentum forward and movement forward. Like there's just so much supportive energy around us. And, you know, whatever you're going through right now, and and you you guys know, like I've shared kind of what's been going on, you know, with the loss of my fur baby. We've also got some stuff going on with my parents that have it that has been really heavy. It's made the caregiving responsibility burden almost unbearable at this point. And, you know, we've been kind of moving through this phase of, you know, just kind of feeling like life is squeezing, right? And I know it's because, you know, we're shedding some layers, we're shedding our snakeskin, if you want to call it that. And we're just moving into this new era where the things that were once part of our day-to-day, part of our habits, part of our routines, part of our behaviors, you know, all that's so much of that stuff is being brought up to the surface because it needs to be let go so that we can, you know, move forward into 2026. So I really wanted to share kind of like my periodic reset formula, right? Again, I do this every year. Sometimes I do it seasonally. Sometimes I just do it when I'm just I know I'm going through a major transition in life and I feel it's supportive. I'll do it then as well, right? And I don't, you know, like usually I do it like for the period or for the year, but honestly, this time around, I'm doing it for the whole mother effing nine years of stuff that I've moved through, released, healed, learned along the way, like really taking a look at what I want to bring forward with me into this next cycle. And I would strongly encourage you guys to do the same because this nine-year cycle is something that we've all kind of felt. So take advantage. I mean, if it doesn't feel resonate for you, then leave it. I always say this, you know, anytime you take any kind of advice from a healer, a coach, an intuitive, take what resonates, leave the rest. If that sounds too daunting for you or you don't resonate with that story, then by all means, just do it for the year. You know, use this any which way serves you the most. Leave it, I'll leave it at that. But definitely I would say, and this is new that I'm doing this year. This is this is kind of and maybe this is part of you know what I've learned in the last like nine years, kind of going through this, right? Usually I will sit down and I will light a candle and I will sage my space and sage myself, and I will do this in like an afternoon with some music playing and a cup of tea. This year, I don't know. I might try and do it a little bit different. Like I might try and kind of break it up, and that's why I'm kind of you know hoping to launch this earlier. Originally, I had planned to post this episode on the 29th. I'm actually thinking I might actually get it out for the 22nd. Because I want you guys to spend time doing this. Like, I don't want this to be a process that you rush. Like, I want you guys to like, if it's if it's available to you and if it feels aligned, you know, I want you to immerse yourself in this. I want you to dive into this practice and let it unfold on its own. Give it a life, give it a give it an entity of its own to unfold, to breathe, to grow, to show you, to reveal to you what's time to a let go of and what it's time for you to start calling in, you know? So I would say do this over a couple of days. You know, spend a few days on it. Focus maybe one day on the releasing part, and you know, maybe one day on the intentions part, and you know, you make it your own and maybe have like a ritual that you that you do every time you do it. Like maybe you do light a candle every time you sit down to do this, or maybe you do play certain music, or maybe you do make your cup, your favorite cup of herbal tea, or something, like something to make it magical, right? Just make it magical when you do it, make it your own, but do it slowly. Let, you know, we've got such there's always that lull between, you know, the holidays and the new year where you know, we're kind of like we're online shopping, we're eating, we're like, you know, just kind of loafing, right? Do this instead, or at least make some time for this in those in-between days, right? I know obviously, like, you know, maybe the 21st might be too busy for you guys to do this, but or the 22nd might be too busy for you guys to do this. You know, you're probably like, you know, last-minute gift ideas, attending events, visiting with friends and family for the holidays, you know. You know what? I will leave this with you to figure out what the best time for this to do is. But anyway, I'm also recording this moments after the winter solstice, which I think is kind of auspicious. So it's tw it's December 21st right now. It is 10:37 my time, Eastern time, and the winter, the exact mark of the winter solstice was 10.03 this morning. So it was like just over half an hour ago. So I'm pretty, I'm pretty in line with the winter solstice, which for me is always a time of releasing and letting go. It's the longest night of the year. It's when the shadow, you can, you can, it's almost like you can gently spend time in the shadows because it's it the the the the timing of it all is is supported. It's very aligned. It's like we're supposed it's it's like we're supposed to be in the darkest day of the year, right? So it's kind of it's kind of very supportive of shadow work, actually. And and the fact that, you know, it we have this cushion between the holidays, which I mean, depending on you know your situation, can be very comforting for many, can be very triggering for many. It really just depends, right? So use this as you see fit, schedule some time, try to do it in multiple sessions instead of doing it in one like full on afternoon. And if it's available to you, if it feels aligned, try and focus on the last nine years, not just this current year, this current season that we're in, okay? All right. So the first step is you want to release, you want to let go of anything that's no longer serving you, that you don't want to bring with you, that you're done with, that you, you know, want to see come to an end. And there's so many ways that you can slice this. You know, for me, it's always about taking inventory of, you know, maybe some of the harder experiences that I've been through in like the period that I'm reflecting on. So for me, it'd be some of the harder experiences of the last nine years. You know, what they taught me about myself, how I would look at how they help me to grow and how they help me to evolve. I would look at the lessons learned. I would look at how, you know, they changed me. I would look at patterns, like behaviors that I know aren't serving me anymore that I want to leave behind in the end of this period, even if I'm not sure how or not sure I can, or if I if they're behaviors I feel ready to break, I just want to acknowledge that, you know what, I'm ready to kind of put this down. I'm ready to put this bitterness down. I'm ready to put this unforgiveness down. I'm ready to put this hurt or this trauma down. I'm ready to put down maybe some negative thoughts that you've had about yourself. You're ready to put down maybe some things you've been, you know, you've been kind of putting more energy into that you've been getting than you've been getting back. Like I want you to to really explore the period that you're reflecting on, whether it's just this year or whether it's the nine year, right? I want you to explore what has been working for you and what hasn't and what you're ready to leave behind. And again, leave no stone unturned. That's why I would say spend a couple of days on this, right? And write them as intentions. I lovingly release X from my experience, right? Whatever X is. And I would just list these all down. I lovingly and with gratitude release whatever it is from my experience. Here's what I learned, here's what it taught me, here's how it transformed me. Because even in the most difficult situations, there's always a blessing, even though we can't always see it at the time, right? Like recently for me, like I as I shared in last week's episode, as we lost Pippa, my fur baby, right? You know, I lovingly, you know, I have been saying again and again, I lovingly release her and thank her for being a part of my life and thank her for the love and the joy that she brought me. You know, I lovingly release the fact that, you know, we did have this soul contract together. She came in into my life in a very difficult time and she left, although in a very painful way, in a time when my life, when that phase of my life was over, and she kind of marked the beginning of the end, the end of that cycle. She was almost like the bookend, right? So with her comes this omen of good things to come. And she's kind of sent me that message from beyond the veil again and again. And so I'm grateful for that. And so I lovingly release, you know, her to the light, to, to, you know, whatever, whatever comes next for her, right? Knowing that I release the pain and I release the sadness and knowing that it's there and giving it time and giving it space, but also recognizing that maybe this is a beautiful unfolding of beautiful things to come. And just kind of, you know, holding space for that, right? It's so important that, you know, as we move through difficult things, that we remember that everything is serving us in in the most powerful way. And even though it's painful and uncomfortable and we don't always, it's not always things we would choose. You know, that's where faith comes in. That's where trust comes in, that everything is always working for our highest good, even if we can't see it in that moment. And that's, hey, listen, I'm gonna do a whole episode just on grief alone. It's not to say that I'm not grieving, it's not to say that it's not been uncomfortable, it's not to say that, you know, I have not ugly cried more times than I care to count in the last few weeks, but it is to say that I always try and remember that I I know that there is a good reason why she chose that moment to exit this life and the way in which she exited. I know that there's a reason why she chose it. And so I'm just gonna trust it. I'm gonna I'm gonna trust in the unfolding and I'm gonna trust that in some one day this is all gonna make total sense to me, right? Even though it doesn't feel good right now, right? And that's kind of where we bring in the higher perspective to some of the more difficult situations, you know, that we've been through. Also take note of the unexpected support that showed up, right? Like, you know, who showed up for you in the times when you least expected it, who revealed who they really were in those tough times. And even though that might in itself might be a hard pill to swallow, I know I've had to let go of a ton of relationships just in this last nine years in general, but in this last year alone, I've let go of so many relationships because in the in when times got tough, they showed me who they really were. And as painful as a lesson as that was, I'm so grateful that I now know who they were. So I know who it is that I should be investing my time in and not wasting my time or my energy on anything that isn't aligned for me and isn't aligned with my highest good. Because when life got difficult, they showed me. They showed me who they were by their actions, by their the way they did or did not support me, by the things that were said or unsaid, right? The people will show you who they are. And when they show you who they are, what do they say? Believe them. So I did. And so I let a lot of relationships go by the wayside as a result. And I always think back to as painful as it was, like I said, to find out, you know, these how these difficult times showed me who I can count on and who I can't. I try to be grateful for the ones I know that I can count on who did show up for me for the unexpected support and miracles that came along the way. But I'm also grateful for those times for showing me who I can't count on. Because I don't have to waste my time and energy investing in those relationships anymore. Even though it hurt. Do you see what I'm saying? So there is even in the hurtful situations, there's always a blessing, right? And we have to always look at it that way. Those moments also teach us, you know, about what we want and don't want. You know, when we look at and take inventory of the stuff that we want to let go of, what did it teach us about what we want and don't want in our lives anymore? I can tell you right now, and and you know this because I've I've said this a thousand times, you know, as you know, when I was, you know, more focused on relationship coaching and and and breaking toxic patterns in my romantic relationships, one of the things that this next nine years have taught me is I definitely don't want to entertain emotionally unavailable people anymore. I don't want to play games, I don't want none of that. And so I'm thankful for that. I'm thankful because even though in the beginning of this nine year cycle there were some hard lessons there to be learned, I'm so grateful that I did because I'm in a place right now in my life and I I I as you know, it's not to say that my life is perfect. I would never put that out there to the world because it's not like it's still like there's still like there's still fires being put out left and right. Okay, I'm not gonna lie to you guys. But if there's one thing that I'm really fucking happy about in this point in my life, I'm 51 years old. I've learned time and time again that I would rather much be here on my own, living my best life, doing my shit, doing my thing until the right person comes along rather than settling for the wrong person. Because I would rather be on my own living my best life than sharing my life with somebody that doesn't deserve to be there. And and it's not because I'm a man hater, believe me, and I know a lot of people would say that because of some of the content that I've put out when it comes to like my beliefs around feminism and and the and femininity and the feminist movement, and I get that, and that's fine, and that's that's all well and good. But please know, like anyone who's been in relationship with me will tell you I'm I'm one of the most loving and kind like people to actually be in close relationship with. But having said that, I'm also very careful about who I invest that with. Does that make sense? Like, I would be more than happy to be in a in a harmonious relationship with the right person and be willing to have that give and take and you know, support them and feel supported and you know, do all those amazing things, but I am not gonna settle for it with the wrong person. And I'm so fucking clear on that. Like, so clear. And honestly, I have the last nine years to thank for that. Because especially in the beginning, like the first three or four years, that's where I learned some of the hardest lessons around this. So for me, this was great. Like this, and and that's actually when I'm trying to remember when my relationship hiatus started. I think it might have actually started at the beginning of this cycle. If I think about it, yes, it did. So coming into this nine-year cycle was when I had put an end and walked away from the toxicity and actually did my seven-year relationship hiatus, which in itself was the most empowering thing I ever fucking did for myself. I'm actually gonna do an episode just on that and how much of my own power it helped me to call back from taking a break from being in relationships where my energy just did not belong. And then, you know, being thankful for the space that they made, like whatever you're letting go of, whatever left your life, even if it was painful, recognizing, and this is one of the messages that I shared in last week's episode that Pippa has been coming through with again and again and again, is that sometimes we lose what's good so we can make room for what is great. So if we can just hold space and intention, that anything that's been lost, no matter how painful it was, that it is going to be returned tenfold, we'll be fine. And that's the intention. That is one of the intentions that I'm bringing with me into this experience is that anything that's been lost in the last nine years, relationships, friendships, financial stability, you know, whatever whatever has been lost in the last nine years is going to be returned to me tenfold. I claim it now. I say it out loud. And that's the energy you have to bring to this experience is being thankful for the letting go, being thankful for the things that left, even if they were fucking amazing. Be grateful because it because you have to be of the mindset of, because that must be proof that something better is coming. Instead of meaning it making it mean something like you fucked up, you lost, you're never gonna get that back. That was, you know, like don't make it mean anything like that. Even Pippa's passing, she was such a joy, like a source of love and joy for me that it, you know, I had a moment there where it's like, well, where am I gonna ever get that love and joy back? Like, how is that even possible? Like, she was just such a light in my life, right? And then, you know, I look at, you know, my, you know, I my oh my god, can I actually say my great nephew? God, I don't, I don't feel 51, you guys. I am 51, but I don't feel 51. Like I look at him and I think, okay, well, yeah, there's a there's a massive source of love and joy. Every time I hold him right now, it's medicine for me. Right? And who knows what else can come into my life. Will another animal ever come into my life and be like Pippa? I don't know. She was pretty fucking darn special. Like I've had animals my entire life and I've never experienced anything like that. I just saw a flock of birds floating around. Every time I swear, every time she every time I get a message, I get like this whirlwind of birds floating around my apartment. I have a corner unit so I can see them kind. Of funneling around my unit. Anyway, I digress. So yeah. So recognizing, you know, whatever has been lost will be returned tenfold, even if it's in a different way that we lost. Like maybe it's a different relationship, maybe it's a different area of life altogether. Who knows? But just trust that whatever is lost, number one, it's because it meant to, especially if it left your life in this last year. If it left your life in this last year, it meant to. It's not because you screwed up, it's not because you did anything wrong. There's nothing you could have done to keep it. If it left, it's because it's meant to, and it's time to let it go. And trust that if it did, it is making room for bigger, grander, better things to come in, even if you can't see it yet. So just hold that intention that they're coming. It's that that is proof that better is coming. And if you just can hold that intention, I promise you, you will open yourself up to receiving so many more miracles. Okay. So hold the so that's the releasing part, right? So we're letting go of all the people, places, things that aren't serving us, our own patterns and behaviors that aren't working for us anymore, the things that we've been, the identities that we've been kind of committed to that maybe aren't serving our highest good anymore, you know, being really mindful about that. And just listing out what it is, whatever it is that you're letting go of, what identities, what patterns, what triggers, what behaviors, what self-sabotaging beliefs are you no longer entertaining, right? Write that all down. I lovingly release X, Y, Z, and I thank it for showing me what, because there's always something. And if you can't see it yet, if you can't see what the blessing was, just say, and I trust that there's a blessing in this somewhere, even though I can't see it yet. And let that be done. And that is your first part of the process. Okay. So spend a couple of days on that. Give yourself time, have a good cry if you need to, have chocolate if you need to, keep clean X around, please. And feel the feelings. Feel the feelings as you go through this. If feelings come up, stop, pause, cry it out, scream it out, journal it out, rage it out. Whatever you need to do. Let that do its thing, run its course, right? And then when you feel kind of complete, then you're gonna go to the gratitude, right? So that's step three. Step three is the gratitude. So you're gonna write a list of all the things that you're grateful for. What came in that supported you? What were the blessings in disguise? What were the lessons that you learned? How did these experiences make you the person that you are today that you're fucking like obsessed with, right? Like for me, like thank God for my seven-year relationship, hiatus, because I am the woman that I am right now, and I am not willing to entertain a relationship with somebody unless I know that they are like good part, they don't have to be the one, but they have to be good partner material, right? Because I think you have to you have to be in relationship with somebody before you can figure out if they're the one. You know what I mean? But as long as I know that they're solid relationship material, you know, and that they're that they're they're in it with me, they're willing to do the work, they're willing to open up to communicate and to invest in the relationship, you know? And if I don't get all of those green flags, it's it's a no. Right. And I'm so, I'm so grateful for that because old me wasn't like that. Like old me would just cling to any relationship that came along and just hope that it would eventually turn out to be the one that she needed, even though they were showing her all the red flags that they weren't, right? And I've I've been able to be in a relationship that where there was a lot of love and there was a lot of connection and there was so much emotional stuff there, but I knew it couldn't work and I was able to walk away and choose myself because those elements that I needed weren't there. And I was able to say, I love you, I see you, I appreciate you. I'm so grateful you've come into my life, but I know you're not my person, so I need to, I I we like it done, you know? And I that is something that I'm so proud of for me because that was not me before, and it's this whole nine-year period that helped me evolve into that and become that person. And so for that, I am so fucking grateful. So look for the look for the places where you can hold gratitude and write a long, extensive list. The blessings, the the challenges that taught you something or that changed you in some way, the support that came in, the miracles that came in, the surprise, the the way you know, the people who showed you who they were and you realized you had to let them go, the people who showed you who they were and you realize these are your people and you can count on them, you know, to see you through thick and thin. Like all of these things are things to be grateful for. So write a very long, extensive list. And again, spend some time here. Get into it. And when you write what you're grateful for, just write, I am so grateful for XYZ because they brought in or were that made it made me able to, or whatever. You know, give a reason and feel it. It's not just writing it, you have to feel the gratitude. I almost want you to hold each one of them in your heart with a vision of thank you, thank you, thank you. And and and feel those words coming from your heart as you visualize each and every one of these things individually. And that is so important because the feeling of gratitude is so much more than the writing of the gratitude. Everything comes down to emotion, you guys. If you've if you've not learned everything, anything from me, like it, I and I say this again and again emotion is everything. That's where all your power is. So feel the fucking gratitude. Don't just write it, feel it. Put it down, like put it down on paper, yes, but also put it in your heart. Hold the vision of the thing. Hold the vision of the friend that you know came out of nowhere. Maybe it was a friend that you reunited with after a long time that was there for you and helped you through this last leg of your journey. Hold the gratitude in your heart for that. It was an online friend who, you know, saw you, who supported you, who was there for you, and and and gave you support along the way. Hold the love in your heart for that. It was your family who kind of came to you and supported you in your time of need and made a what was a very difficult experience for you, otherwise easier. You know, hold the love and the gratitude in your heart for that. Right. And just visualize each and every one of those things and hold the love and the gratitude and let that be. That's the magic. Yes, the writing is good, but the feeling is so much more powerful. Okay. Also want you to feel into the letting go part as well, right? So, like I said, let the feelings come up, rage it out, do what you need to do, cry. Always, always, always honor the emotions that come up when they do this because that is where the magic is in this process. Now, when that's done and that feels complete, then you're gonna go to phase three, which is what you're calling in. And this is the fun part. Okay. So this is where you I want you to sit down. I want you to play some music, I want you to clear your space, I want you to sage if you can, or whatever, burn some incense, something safely, obviously. Light your favorite candle, play some soft music, some solfegio frequencies if that's available to you. I want you to grab a journal and I want you to sit down, make an herbal tea, make it really comfortable, do it in a setting that feels good to you. And I want you to close your eyes, and I want you to envision if anything at all could be true. Anything, regardless of whether or not you think it's possible, regardless of who may or may not get upset that you want this, regardless of whether or not you think you can or you can't, or what's available to you, like leave all that aside. If anything could be possible, what would you have be true? And I want you to just play in that vision, and I want you to let it, and I want you to feel what it feels like to be in that version of you. I want you to feel it, and I want you to feel it with every cell in your body. And I want you to immerse yourself in the experience of it already being true. And then I want you to write a journal entry as if that's already all happening. Like step into the person that you want to become, step into the life that you want to make real, step into the experiences that you want to have, feel them as though they're happening now, and then write a journal entry write as if it's already happening. And write gratitude that it's happening. And again, feel that love, that gratitude, and that excitement. Now it's very important, and I know this is something that I always got stuck in. I always created separation with where I was to where I wanted to go, right? Like I'm as I'm doing this, I can remember doing this exercise so many times and feeling like okay, yeah, okay, but I want that, but I'm all the way over here. So I, you know, doing this exercise, all it does was make me feel farther away from it and more disconnected from it than I would have wanted. So, and I know that this is a lot of you. So here's what I'm going to recommend. Hold that vision, step into it and like feel it as though you're already in it, as though it's already happening. Write the journal entry as though it's already true. Okay. And write it in point form. Maybe do it as like a diary of all the things that you're doing today and you're enjoying, or the things that you're grateful for. I'm grateful for waking up to a beautifully made, I don't know, double shot latte from an amazing partner. Or I'm I'm I'm so I'm so grateful to wake up in this beautiful bedroom, this beautiful bedroom space with the big overarching sun kissed windows. I'm so grateful for you know my dream apartment. I'm so grateful for, I don't know, whatever, whatever it is that you're grateful for, right? Whatever it is that you're calling into this vision. I want you to feel it. I want you to feel the gratitude. I want you to write them down one by one. Okay. And then when you're done, I want you to take that list and I want you to circle. Okay. This is very important. I want you to circle all the things on that list that you can start implementing today. And maybe you don't implement them all at once. Maybe you implement them one at a time, or maybe you, their daily habits that you bring in. Some of them will be, you know, what check off the box. Some of them will be, you know, daily habits. So maybe, and this is listen, listen to me, guys. This is not about coming up with New Year's resolutions to lose 50 pounds by the end of March. You know what I mean? Or to work out for two hours a day and to eat like rabbits only to fall off the wagon a weekly. That's not what this is about. This is about changing who you are and how you show up each and every day so that the person that you're showing up as supports the person that you're wanting to become. Okay. Or or the way you want to transform your life. So if I don't know, if writing a book is in the foreseeable future for you and that's something that you've saw in your vision, maybe it's having a 15-minute writing practice each and every day, right? Or writing a chapter per week, right? It'll be different for each and every one of you. If being more confident and taking better care of yourself, you know, uh, you know, is something that you wanted to do, maybe it is doing a simple stretch routine in the morning, every morning, or hydrating yourself every single day, or making smarter food choices, right? Make it make sense. Make it make sense and make it something that you can stick to, right? And and and do day over, day over day. If cultivating healthier, more intimate relationships is something that you that you're wanting to call in, maybe it is, you know, sharing yourself a little bit more authentically with the people around you, right? And and letting your true self be seen. This is what we talk about all the time in visibility. We build connection through letting ourselves be seen, right? So let yourself be seen, right? Let yourself be yourself. You're fully like unapologetically, you unabashed, like, like don't hold back. No more veils, no more performing, no more hiding certain parts of yourselves because you think you know that that's not likable or that's not lovable, or no one's gonna want that. Fuck that. Trust that who you are right now is enough to call in healthy, loving, supportive relationships, whether it's romantic relationships, friendships, whatever. And just make that commitment to be more of you so that people can see you, people can can connect with you, people can recognize you, right? Because I do believe that your tribe finds you when you are most authentically yourself. Because if you're not authentically yourself, your tribe will never find you. They can't see you. They can't feel you. They need to feel you. Okay? They need to know that you're in the room. And how will they ever know that you're in the room if you're hiding like 95% of yourself from them, right? That's how we often attract inauthentic relationships or fall go-nowhere connections. So showing up more as yourself and then making the effort to talk to people, to make yourself open to people, to make yourself open to meeting new people, to new connections, to having conversations. Even if it's just, and this is something that I used to always tell my relationship clients, and this is something that I practice on the regular, when you're out and about, like, because so many of my clients were like, Well, I don't want to do the dating apps, I don't like dating apps, and this is I'm the same way. I'm not a fan of dating apps. Like, I'm not. Like, it's not to say that I don't think you can find real relationships on there. Of course you can. Of course, you can find a real relationship anywhere. I'm just not a fan of dating online. Because for me, I'd rather meet someone in person by happenstance. So, how do I support that? I support that by when I'm out and about in public. And I don't have to be out on like I don't have to be at a bar or I don't have to go off my girlfriends, or or it doesn't have to be anything like that. It could just be when I'm at the cafe and working. It could be when I'm at the grocery store or at the fruit market or at the fucking pharmacy picking up my parents' blister packs, is I will have random conversation with people that I'm in lineup with, that I'm sitting next to, that and not just, I'm not just talking about talking about cute, eligible bachelor people. I'm talking about all people. It's about setting the intention that you're open to meet new people and to actually act as if you're open to meeting new people. And you'd be surprised how many amazing people you meet in that way, right? Rather than trying to force it through. Cause for me, when I do it online, it almost feels kind of like force. Like I'm, okay, I'm sitting down for 20 minutes and I'm like responding to messages. No, it just doesn't feel good, it doesn't feel right, it doesn't feel authentic. Maybe one day it will. I don't know. But for me, I much prefer talking to people in person, getting to know like having those happenstance moments and seeing what transpires. And so I make it a point when I'm out and about to make sure like I have I strike a conversation with at least one or two people, right? And again, not just people who I think, oh, you're cute, like any people, children, older, you know, you know, men with their with their like, you know, shopping with their kids or walking their fur babies, or or you know, women doing their go doesn't matter, doesn't matter. Talk to a couple people, open conversation, open yourself up, let yourself be seen, let yourself connect. And just being in that energy of openness and connection, you will attract amazing people into your space. So look at ways, go back, read your, read your as if story, right? Point form notes, whatever. And think about okay, what can I implement daily and keep it simple and keep it bite-sized? What can I implement daily that is aligned with what that fee, what that's what I'm doing in my ideal world? What can I start to implement or take action on? What ideas can I put into motion in order to start moving towards what it is that I want? And then I want you to remember the feeling that that felt like. So give it a name. Did it feel like joy? Did it feel like freedom? Did it feel like empowerment? And then do anything and everything that you can to feel that way throughout your day every day, whether it's a playlist, whether it's a certain activity, you know, something to make you feel that way. So if you if your future version or future vision for your life or your intention for your life felt empowered, do something that makes you feel empowered. If it felt like joy, pure joy and bliss, do something that feels joyful and blissful every day. You know, just try and tap into the energy of the feeling because that's what's actually going to bring it closer, because that's where the separation happens. The separation happens because we think we need those things in order to feel that way. But when we realize that we can feel that way every day, regardless of what our life looks like, you know, on paper, that helps to close the gap. And it kind of closes that gap of separation between where you are right now and where you're wanting to step into. So that's kind of like my three-step practice. It's actually 11 steps if you break it down into the sub steps, but that's okay. And so, you know, let me know. And and make sure you bring, you know, make sure you bring those little elements that you've from your vision into your day every single day, and maybe change it up every single day. And I promise you, you will slowly, slowly, gradually, gradually get closer and closer to bringing in and bringing into fruition that vision for your life that is so deep in your heart. So, and that, you know, let that be, let that be what guides this next cycle that we're going into. Cause I think we can all use a much brighter cycle. And actually, as I'm saying this right now, it's so bright in here, it's crazy. I think we can all use a little bit of I think we can all use a little bit of bliss. That's just me. Okay, so that is my practice. Let me know what resonates for you in the comments below or reply to the email or wherever the heck you're seeing this. I'm not sure anymore. It's in all the places. And of course, if you love this episode, please leave a positive rating and review on iTunes or Apple, Spotify, or wherever. Until next time, you guys, massive love.

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