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The Great Awakening: How Pain, Disempowerment, and Toxic Relationships Are Calling You Back to Your Power

• Maria Rei

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The world has been designed to keep you small. Through conditioning, fear, and emotional suppression, women have been taught to seek approval, play small, and mistake peace for silence. But the collective energy is shifting — and your soul is demanding more.

In this raw, deeply practical empowering of The Femme Cast, we explore how painful relationship patterns — chasing love that won’t choose you, overgiving, staying silent, and enduring betrayal — are not failures but portals to sovereignty and purpose. Through the lens of my seven-year dating hiatus, we uncover how these experiences become the pressure cookers that forge self-worth, clean boundaries, and aligned action.

You’ll learn:

🎤 How wounded feminine and masculine patterns show up in love and life, and how to balance these energies to cultivate compassionate action and grounded intuition

🎤 Why the practice of process before you express can transform rage, heartbreak, and disappointment into aligned decisions

🎤 The truth about spiritualized role myths that keep women small — and how rejecting them opens the door to authentic influence and radiant presence

🎤 How following soul breadcrumbs and embracing your growth edges transforms heartbreak into purpose, power, and impact

Your relationships were never random. The people who hurt you, silenced you, or dimmed your light were mirrors showing where you still needed to choose yourself. Every betrayal, heartbreak, or rejection was not punishment — it was initiation. Pain is not a block; it’s a portal. Your emotions are not weaknesses; they are sacred messengers guiding you to your highest potential.

If you’re ready to turn disappointment into clarity, rage into power, and heartbreak into transformation, this episode meets you at the exact edge you’re standing on. Stop living as the version of you that survived — and step into the version of you that is becoming.

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Hey you guys, what is up and welcome back to the show. I'm so excited and grateful to have you guys here. We've been on a bit of a journey on the Femcast in the coming in the last couple of weeks. You know, we've talked a lot about betrayal and pain being this powerful portal of transformation. We've talked a lot about transmuting the suppressed anger and rage that we've been holding on to. And I really think it's very timely that we've been going through this. So I want to kind of shift gears a little bit on the Femcast and start to talk about a little bit more about, you know, the higher purpose of some of these experiences and patterns that we've been caught up in. You know, I think ultimately we've gone through this massive shift where, you know, the feminine or women have been kind of kept in a very disempowered state and been kind of been put in the in these containers where we feel like we need to play small, we need to dim our light, we need to silence ourselves, we need to keep our voices down, you know, we need to do all these things in order to be accepted, loved, um, or we feel we need to do all these things. But really, what's what's really coming to light in all of this discovery and all of this um beautiful transformation that we've been kind of talking about is that a lot of times that these containers, these relationships, these situations that kind of put this pressure on us to contain us is the exact medicine that we need to evolve and step into the fullest potential that we came here to be. And so a lot of these relationships that keep us small, these toxic patterns and conditioning that keep us questioning our worth or trying to validate our worth externally or trying to fit into someone else's expect expect someone else's expectations of what good enough is or lovable is, or you know, any of the above, right? I think is really the catalyst to our deepest and most profound and sacred transformation where we really start to step into our true power and potential and really just create the impact and the influence that we're meant to create in the world. Because I do think we're at this pivotal point where the collective is shifting. We're recognizing, you know, where the feminine has kind of been suppressed, both within men and women, masculine and feminine, non-binary. It doesn't matter what you what gender role, what your sexual preference is that you assign to yourself, it's all the same. We're all a collective, we're all a we're all a combination of masculine and feminine energy. Um, some will lean more towards one and the other. And it's become evidently clear um that the feminine has been suppressed in many of us, in all of us, really. Um, this leads to, if you know, I'm just trying to, it's hard to articulate um all the different nuances. So just for the sake of simplifying the conversation and not going into all the different aspects and how this could look, because obviously this will be unique to every individual. But if you're somebody who leans more towards, naturally leans more towards your masculine. Um, so typically this will apply to people who identify as men or male. Um, this will leave you in your wounded masculine where you're completely out of touch with your feminine, right? So you're completely or don't feel safe getting into your emotional experience, getting into the emotional body, trusting your intuition. Um, you know, you are conditioned to use logic, control, force, um, and physical strength to make um to do what it is that you need to do in the world. And on the opposite end of the spectrum, you know, if you lean more feminine, right, which typically is mostly women, but again, all of these will vary depending on the individual. And it has nothing to do with sexual orientation, gender identity, or anything like that. Each of us have our own unique balance of masculine and feminine. So, but if you lean towards more towards the feminine, so for the simplicity's sake, we'll say mostly women, um, then you've probably been, you know, mostly in your wounded feminine, where, you know, you're kind of you're either like heavily relying on your masculine or you're using wounded feminine behaviors of like codependency, trying to manipulate, coerce, um, and emotionally blackmail people into literally doing the things that you wanted them to do. Um the beautiful thing that happens when we bring these two energies into balance is that we are able to, number one, within ourselves, harness both the healthiest version, the highest expression of our masculine and our feminine energies to create what we want in the world and then create harmonious relationships as a result because we're able to respect the balances of masculine and feminine within within each other and not compete with um suppress or um reject them for stepping into and embodying any of the above. And that is really when we're in our most empowered state. Unfortunately, um, through patriarchal conditioning, a lot of us have learned to suppress our feminine, um, which is what has kind of kept us in this disempowered state. So for most of the women that I work with, right, this looks like, you know, being um in relationships that are manipulative, hurtful, betrayal, painful, um, making you feel less than, unloved, emotionally unavailable, chase, constantly chasing emotionally unavailable men, um, and always trying to always feeling like you need to give more, be more loving, um, be more accommodating, be more understanding, right? This whole concept of the unconditional love, right? Give, give, give, and give, and hope that they'll one day give in return, only to end up receiving less and less. So it keeps us in this constant cycle of giving more and receiving less, giving more and receiving less. And in the end, we end up feeling betrayed, um, hurt and abandoned, right? And rejected. Um, but what we see again and again is how the pain and the heartbreak of a lot of these relationships actually become the catalyst and the portal for the transformation to step into our power. I can speak to this one specifically because for me, you know, when I had, you know, I've talked about, God, have I talked about my douchebag era on these podcasts. But, you know, as I came out of my douchebag era and the last person that I dated um before I went into my relationship, seven-year relationship hiatus. Um, and he wasn't by any means a douchebag. He still wasn't the healthiest of relationships in the world, but he wasn't by any means a douchebag. He's actually very loving, um, but still feeling still this energy of um, as loving as he was and um as sensitive as he was, you know, there was still this fear to kind of like let his guard down and commit, right? That was still there. And I and that was one of the things that, you know, as I kind of was moving along my journey, I needed to learn and love and accept about him and let him go. Because he did he wasn't, and no matter how much love was there, no matter how much affection was there, no matter how much closeness and intimacy was there, you know, there was still a part of them that was resistant to choosing me. And so I had to choose myself and I had to walk away from that and I had to put an end to that. Um, and so, you know, sometimes unconditionally, being unconditionally loving means, and I really want to stress this because I've heard so many people like say just the most inaccurate things about this. Sometimes being unconditionally loving and doing the unconditionally loving thing is just accepting what someone is willing to offer and being able to say, okay, I see you. I'm gonna go someplace else and find somebody who is willing to give me what it is that I'm looking for in a relationship or is willing to be in a relationship with me. Loving someone and saying attached to someone who's made it clear they're not ready to be with you for whatever the reason, whether it's right or wrong, or fear or trauma or bad past hurts or whatever baggage they might be carrying doesn't matter. The point is that they've clearly said, whether verbally or or in, you know, with their intentions, that they're not ready to be in a committed relationship. And you need to respect that and not try and um either manipulate them into changing their mind or sticking around until they change their mind or trying to show them just how worthy and beautiful and amazing you are and trying to like get them to change their mind. You just have to let it be. If they are meant to be with you, they will come back. And if they're not, then you will find somebody else who's ready to love you the way that you want to be loved. And that that in itself, like that, that I think is probably the first step. At least it was for me in my transformation and really coming back to myself and stepping into my power, right? And so, you know, I can remember going back to when that happened, and I kind of made that choice where I said, okay, you know what? I need to just choose myself and and focus on myself and and and be, I needed to, I knew there was a part of me that just knew I needed to become the person who I wanted to date. I needed to treat myself the way someone who I dated would the way I would want them to treat me. I needed to show up for myself the way someone who I was dating, who I how I would want them to show up for me, right? I needed, I needed to reverse engineer all of that and do it first for me and show up for me in that way. And I don't know where I got this idea, but it just felt like this internal pull of something that I really desperately had to do for me, right? Oops, I just hit my mic. And so I I that's when the seven-year relationship hiatus began. And I literally cut myself off from relationship until I was in this place where I knew that I could attract a healthy, loving relationship who was who was ready to commit to me, right? Until so until somebody was ready to commit to me, I was committed to myself. And that was the end of the conversation, right? I was not wavering on that. I was, it was a non-negotiable. I had made my decision. And I can remember because I had kept in contact with that person for quite some time. And he would always tell me, you know, are you seeing anybody? What's going on? What's new with you? And I would tell him, you know, this, this, this, and that, blah, blah, blah. He goes, Yeah, but are you seeing anybody? I'm like, no. He's like, you have to start out, good, get out there. Okay, I think he was partly thinking that I wasn't dating because I was hanging on to him, um, which totally wasn't the case. And I kept trying to assure him of that. Um, but it was so funny because he kept saying it again and again. Finally, I was like, no, I don't want to go out there and date. I refuse. Because I was really just in this place where I knew it wasn't, there was nothing wrong with dating. Please hear me. Because I always, you know, I get, it's funny, we're gonna talk about this, but I always get so many hate, not hate comments, but like rebuttals on some of the things that I say, thinking that, you know, people think out there thinking that I'm hateful towards men or I've shut out men, or then none of that could, then nothing could be farther from the truth. It was just a season where I knew I needed to be on my own, right? And and I knew I needed to give this to myself, and I knew that this was important. I didn't know why, I didn't know how, but I knew it was something that I absolutely needed to move through. And when I was done and I was ready to get out there again, and I was ready to start connecting with people again, um, you know, I was able to to to start to attract some really just emotionally conscious and available relationships into my space. Still not the one, but you know what? It I have had some of the most loving and intimate experience as a result of doing this work and taking that time for myself. But, you know, it still is an evolution because I'm still I'm still evolving, I'm still evolving in my work, I'm still evolving in what I do, I'm still evolving in terms of what I want. And I'm still I'm still in a position where I'm I'm needing to say and state again with my intention and my decisions that yes, this was loving, yes, this was magical, yes, this was amazing, yes, I loved every moment of this, but I'm still choosing to say no because I know I am meant for more. So even though it was great, it still wasn't the thing that I would commit to for a lifetime. It was a great experience, it was a great relationship, but still not the one that I would commit to for a lifetime. And until that relationship does show up, or at least the kind of um hint that it could be that relationship, I have literally zero desire to date anybody until I know that there's that possibility of yeah, this person has the potential to be my person, right? And I I'm not looking to date for entertainment. I'm not looking to be out there dating to kind of kill time. I have my passion projects for that. I have a lot of things to keep me busy in my life rather than entertaining relationships that not that they're bad, just I know aren't for me, you know? And that is a really conscious choice that I make and I make it every day. And I think that's been part of how I really just stepped to stepped into my power again and really embodied um my worth as a woman and what it is that I bring to the table in a relationship, right? So really important, you know, the the relationships that we move through, um, you know, the ones that we're so we feel that we need, because the world has, you know, in so many ways taught us that we need that relationship in our life to feel safe, to be okay, to be love, to prove to ourselves that we're even worthy of love, you know? And I think that when we can break away from that, you know, we really start to discover who it is that we are and what we're really capable of. But I think also the pressure that I would, and I can remember the pressure of chasing, of convincing, of waiting, of persuading people to choose me, to love me, and finally just being at this point where I was like, I just done. I'm just so done, I'm tired, I'm exhausted, I can't do this anymore. I need to give to myself. And that I think was the power in that toxic pattern is that it finally got to the point where I just couldn't keep up anymore. It became too exhausting, it became too depleting, and my soul knew it was time to take a different path. It was time to take a different approach. And so the problem, you know, I always say this divine solutions, right? Where the problem, the exasperation of the problem becomes a solution. The exasperation of my toxic relationship patterns literally became the solution that I needed because I could not fucking stand them one more minute. I needed to just take a time out, focus on myself, become my own best partner, right? Treat myself the way I would want my best partner to treat me. Um, and keep doing that again and again and again until that time came, knowing that the time will come when that person comes into my life and I'll know, I'll know, I'll know right away. I know I will know right away when that person comes into my life, and that there's not gonna be a question about it. Sure, there's gonna be work. Relationships always take work, they're never perfect. You know, waiting for the perfect relationship, never gonna happen, right? Relationships always take work, they they are our most powerful mechanisms for growth. So, yes, often they are not easy, right? And I think expecting relationships to be easy is just like the biggest way we set ourselves up for failure, but they should at the very least be emotionally available and on the same page as you, and you know, really be aligned with your values and your worth. And if they're not, you know, those are like the big red flags, right? Um, but you can see where like a lot of this conditioning has really, you know, number one, kept us this in a disempowered state for a very long time. But then there's comes this moment where we part of us, I don't know what it was. It was an energetic, no fucking more of this, right? Where we just declare we deserve better. And then we kind of evolve past that. So again, the exasperation of the problem becomes the solution. So a lot of the times, you know, these relationships are showing us, um, you know, especially if they make us feel like um like we have to jump through hoops for approval. You know, it's showing us where we might need to start approving of ourselves. If we feel like we're being silenced, like I did in a lot of my relationships, I felt like I couldn't speak up. I felt like every time I did, I was met with apprehension or defensiveness or punishment or retaliation. It's really showing you where, you know, the power of your voice and and your potential once you start using your voice, right? Um, if you felt like you had to dim your light or, you know, hide parts of yourself, you know, the discomfort in doing that when you start to, when you get to the point where you're so exhausted of hiding and dimming and pretending and putting on like pretending to be something that you're not, that you just want to unleash this most authentic, wild part of you that you've been holding back for so long. So the compression, right? It's almost in like the compression and the duality of what we experience, where the restriction on our voice and our expression and our authenticity and in who we are, and and and and everything that's holding us back of who we came to be in this world suddenly becomes so impossible to stay in as a container that we have no other choice but to blow it the fuck up and step into our fullest potential. And that's really what a lot of these toxic dynamics and relationships have done. And this is not just in our personal relationships, this is in our friendships, this is in our work relationships. This so this shows up in so many different environments and how we interact with other people. Because I really do believe that they're showing us number one, where we're being limited because of toxic and patriarchal conditioning, right? And where our soul is when we start to feel that discomfort, the no, I don't like this. No, this doesn't feel good. No, this doesn't feel right. No, I have more to say, do or be. When we start to feel that, that's our soul saying, yeah, you do, right? So we need to start paying attention to where those discomforts start to happen in our relationships, in our our in our surroundings, in our environments, in our um the dynamics that exist around us, right? In our friendships, in our work relationships. Um, look at when you're feeling silenced or muffled. And what would you say? What is it that you want to say instead? Look at where you're suppressing what you're feeling and trying to sweep it under the rug or pretend that it's not there. And what would that emotion say if you just kind of let it speak? And that's not to say, you know, I never, I am never an advocate of unleashing your unprocessed emotion or trauma onto other people. Process your emotions first and make sure you're kind of coming into uh balance, equilibrium. Like, you know, emotions always have this wide spectrum. You know, whether you want to label them as good or bad, it doesn't matter. Rage has the spectrum where, you know, we we go into the ego and we start projecting it on everybody else around us. Then when we come back to the sole truth of why that rage is showing up, it's usually because it's wanting us to take a different action or take a different approach or be honest about a perspective or truth that maybe we've been hiding or a boundary that we want to set. So we always want to come back to that heart-centered expression of that emotion. We never want to just spew the projection onto other people. And I think that's where a lot of the times people make the the dis that people make the mistake of, you know, just you know, going full throttle on expressing themselves and just emotionally dumping on the people around them. And that that creates a lot of discomfort. It can create a lot of damage in relationships. Um, you can be you're capable of saying and doing a lot of things that you actually don't really mean in that heightened state, right? And so that's something that we really want to try and avoid. So I'm always a big believer in processing before expressing, um, so that you make sure that the the parts of what you're feeling and that you express are of the truest um expression of yourself and not just an exaggerated um response to an emotional state. And I think that's really the important distinction in a lot of these things. Um but you know, all these relationships are showing you something, right? Where you're dimming your light, where you're silencing, where you're not being the most authentic expression of yourself. And it'll start to feel really uncomfortable right before you have your breakthrough. And so a lot of these relationships, these toxic patterns that we're trying to break, yeah, they're awful, yeah, they're gross, yeah, they're not nice, but they're actually the evolution and the medicine that we didn't, or sorry, the medicine that we didn't know we needed so that we could evolve and listen to, listen to that discomfort to see where it might be inviting you, how it might be inviting you to do things differently, to show up differently, to be in a more empowered state. And that is really the beauty. Like when I when I look back on, you know, some of the toxicities that I experienced and some of the relationship traumas that I experienced, they were fully leading me to where I am today. And so what I want to kind of, you know, open the conversation to, and where I want to start going with the podcast is opening up to what were these toxic relationship patterns preparing you for? What was being silence and feeling like you couldn't speak your truth? What was that preparing you for? Hiding your parts of yourself, feeling ashamed, feeling unloved, feeling afraid to be abandoned and rejected. If you let people see who you really are, what was that preparing you for? Right? Being able to kind of step out on your own and choose yourself and make that promise to yourself to be that person for yourself until that person showed up without any shame, regret, or apology, what was that preparing you for? Because chances are if you've gone through these cycles, it's been preparing you for something freaking amazing, right? Whether it's to, you know, create an impact in your community, in your family, or in, you know, in a larger, in a larger capacity, you're meant to create some sort of impact and influence with what you've just learned and what you just experienced. You're meant to evolve in ways that you did not see coming. You're meant to break cycles that have been probably going on in your in your lineage for generations. And that is a lot of work. And that is, those are the things that, you know, we come into this life and we think, like, my God, like, why did I keep attracting these people? Why did I keep settling for these like like douchebags? Why did I keep attracting all these emotionally unavailable partners? Or, you know, why did I keep attracting, you know, friendships that weren't really like my friend at all. They were just kind of like superficial acquaintances that love the way I made them feel about themselves when I was at my best and really weren't very supportive when I wasn't, you know? Um, that's when you really start to see the beauty in all of it, right? And what it was preparing you for. Because here's the thing, and here's what I always believe. Um every relationship cycle, every trauma that we've experienced, every heartbreak, every disappointment, every letdown, it's always been there to help us evolve and to lose to learn a lesson. Every emotion that we've ever experienced, whether we've suppressed it, expressed it, or tried to sweep it under the rug, doesn't matter. Every emotion we've experienced has been trying to help us to evolve in some way, right? Um, your emotions are not a weakness, right? And I think we need to we need we need to start looking at emotions so differently. We need to start looking at emotions as those whispers from our soul to kind of guide us along our path and let us know which direction is working, which one's not, and where we want to make adjustments along the way. There are guides, they are the literally um, they are the the the roadmap to where we're going, you know? Um, and they the the energy that is contained in emotions when we have the, when we can sit down and intentionally transmute them into what it is that we want to create, we are so much more powerful than any mindset work. Like we tap into so much more power than more so than any mindset work can do, any vision board, any affirmation, because there's so much energy being stored in our emotion. There's so much potential there to create shit. But the problem is that we're always sweeping it under the rug and avoiding it. So I think all of this, all of this stuff, all of these patterns, all of these limiting beliefs, all of these ways that we've kept ourselves small and kept ourselves silent, and all this power that we've been disconnected from in our emotions. I honestly believe all of this is coming to a head so that we can step up and play a bigger game. Because I do believe that as souls, we all have a reason for being here. I believe that we all have a reason for being here. I believe that we each play a part in a greater good. Um we each have a tiny part to play, okay? Um, and like I said, that'll look different for everybody. But how we get there is by following and honoring our soul's true essence. It's by listening to what our desires are telling us, what our emotions are telling us, what our life path has told us and taught us, and how it has helped us to evolve. All these become powerful pieces in a greater purpose for why we're here. And I do believe that we all have a purpose. And I do believe that the desires that live in our heart that we secretly think about but are maybe are afraid to say out loud are very important in terms of us guiding us along the path to fulfilling that purpose. I don't everything, I don't think anything is an is random. I don't think anything is an accident. Yes, I do believe we have free will choice, and a lot of what we experience in this life is also a result of our free will choices, but the soul ultimately has a goal. It has something here to accomplish, right? And I think there's, I think there's, it's almost like I think there's like a collective goal of, you know, all of us being able to tap into more divine love where um we are completely unattached and and and um what's the word? I can't find the word divine love where we are completely unattached to uh labels or how we think we should and shouldn't act in this lifetime where we're kind of able to see the God in everybody, but or the the source or the universe um or that create creative force in everybody, but also being able to recognize um, yes, although there is their source, there is source energy, I believe, running through each and every one of us. Um that doesn't mean we're all in our, you know, that doesn't mean we're all uh how do I put this? That doesn't mean we're all in our highest expression in this lifetime. You know, we've we've we're all we're all moving through karmic patterns, we're all moving, breaking generational conditioning, we're all um balancing out karma from previous lifetimes. So, you know, not everyone is always gonna be in their highest expression, and some people veer off the path and you know what, to each his own. The only thing we can do is make sure that we are showing up, we are doing everything that we can to show to show up in our most empowered and um aligned state. And I think, you know, when we can love each other that way and love ourselves that way and and set that intention for ourselves and let people um, you know, focus less on what other people are doing and blaming other people and getting angry at other people and focus on how we're showing up and how we want to use this moment to evolve. I think that's when we become really powerful as spiritual beings because we can waste a lifetime looking at what everyone else is saying and doing. And how they're acting and how they're behaving and how that makes us feel. But that will never keep us. That that that will never that will never help us do the inner work for what that is triggering. So I guess the point that I'm trying to make is lay pay attention, pay less attention to what's going on out there, pay more attention to what's going on in here. What is where where are the triggers? Where's the frustration? Where is the the impatience? Where is the I just can't do this anymore, right? Pay attention to that because that is a big and powerful clue. Now, again, you want to process before you actually take action, right? And I talk about that a lot. Always process what you're feeling first, then make decision to take action. Don't just take what you're feeling and project it out into the world and act on it and burn shit down and blow that relationship up or take it out on that person or blame them for what you're feeling. No, you take it with, you take it internally, you process it, not suppress it, process it, which means moving through it, asking questions. Why are you here? What is it that you're trying to show me? What would you like me to do differently? Three powerful questions that you can ask yourself every single day. Um, when you start to feel, when you start to have an emotional experience, especially an uncomfortable one. Um, and then let it just be present until you can come back to kind of a neutral state and say, okay, this is what I think the aligned choice needs to be here, right? And you can feel that in your heart space, right? Then that's when you take the action. That's when you make the decisions, that's when you have the conversations, okay? Um, the problem is so many of us are kind of just taking our emotional state and just like just, you know, exploding it onto the world and making decisions, and like I said, blowing our lives up, quitting that job, ending that relationship, letting that person have it, blaming them for our total experience in this life when really it needs to be internally processed first, right? Because whenever we do those things, um, we do create a ripple, we do, we do, we do damage relationships, we do hurt people's feelings, we do say things that we don't mean, right? And we do create an emotional burden for the people around us. And, you know, that never feels good. And I would never encourage people to do that. But I would encourage you to look at your emotional experience, to move through it, process it, allow it to transmute itself, and then have really honest and sometimes difficult conversations with people once you've processed what's been coming up for you. Very, very, very important distinction. Okay. So I think we're in this place right now where, you know, we are at this collective awakening where I think the feminine is really coming into her power. And I do believe, and I do believe that, you know, and this, I know this gets a lot of mixed, mixed um, this can be uncomfortable for some people to hear. Um, but there's light feminine and there is dark feminine, and both of them have their place. And I think that, you know, a lot of us are really stepping into this dark feminine energy where it is about speaking your truth and setting boundaries and taking a stand for your worth, right? But doing so from a very loving and empowered place. It's not about taking power over other people, it's not about controlling other people, it's not about getting other people to do what we want them to do. It's really about taking a stand for who we are, what we want, and what we deserve, and being able to, you know, kind of be sovereign in that, right? And being able to hold that energy without needing the validation or the approval or um of anyone else around us in order to do these things, right? We're kind of taking the stand for ourselves, and this is what's really helping this sort of feminine collective heal um so that we can balance out those masculine and feminine energies, so that we can balance action with intuition and strength with presence and you know, um, logic with emotion, all these beautiful things, so that we can start to balance all these out and have a place for both to coexist in harmony. And I think that really becomes a solution to so many of the struggles that we're experiencing as a collective, you know. Um because I always say, like, with the union of the masculine and the feminine energy comes compassionate action, comes divine creation, comes inspired evolution. You need both. We can't rely on just the one. We need both. And I really believe that you know the suppression of the div of the divine feminine energy has really been the key that's been missing for us to tap into our power as spiritual beings. And I think it was intentionally planned that way, to be quite honest, because I think people knew how powerful we would be if we would ever actually discover how to use this energy and how to bring it into balance with our masculine. I think people didn't want us to have that kind of power, to be honest. No, I'm just being honest. And I see people in the spiritual community right now in the personal development space that, you know, are almost I don't want to say um uh what's the word they're still influenced by these beliefs. Even though they're speaking beautifully and they're speaking from this beautiful, heart-centered place, there's still this ideology within them. We'll take women for because you know, obviously the a lot of my show is about the you know, women and what we struggle with in terms of um how we show like how we show up in the world and what's available to us and what is in what we feel like we have to fight for. It's you know, a lot of times there's a conversation that, and I see this so much now in the personal development space in the spiritual community, where it's like, you know, the woman is meant to be home with the family, taking care of the children and supporting her divine partner in divine union so that he can be the best version of himself. And, you know, I hear that and I I almost want to cringe because actually there's so much more that you're capable of. And this isn't about, this isn't about a 50-50 relationship. It's not about that. It's about understanding that each of us has a unique purpose as a soul. We don't all have the same purpose. The purpose for all women is not to have children, the purpose for all men is not to father children and provide for their families. There's many ways that we are meant to support the collective good. There's many things we are meant to we are here to be, see, and become, right? And I think that's you know, slapping labels and roles on people is just nothing more than a different version of patriarchal conditioning, really, that is keeping us small in a disempowered state. Because I think that when we can step into our full potential as spiritual beings and really pay attention to where our heart is guiding us and what it wants to create, we become completely unstoppable. I know I had so many powerful experiences during my awakening of my of my heart kind of unveiling this whole other life that I had never even given any thought to. I didn't even think was a possibility. It wasn't even on my radar. The fact that I wanted to speak to people in large audiences that I could and I had would have visualized, I would have these visions where I would be speaking into a microphone. And I knew I'd be talking to thousands, hundreds of thousands of people, but I couldn't see any of their faces. I had no idea that was a podcast. This was years ago. Podcasting was barely a thing at the time. Certainly wasn't anything I would do. It was what the nerds were doing in their mama's basement at the time, you know. Um, it wasn't a mainstream thing. Um, the fact that I saw myself, you know, walking through uh this beautiful sort of all these like tiny tropical villages, kind of, you know, dressed in these boho outfits and meeting people from all around the world and greeting and and connecting with people from all over the world. I had no idea I was gonna be traveling through Asia and meeting all these amazing people along the way. Like so many, so many inklings and visions and clues that my soul was giving to me as to as to what my purpose was and what I was meant to do. And it was so beyond what I was doing. And I was meant for so much more impact and influence that I even knew how to comprehend. And my soul had been literally preparing me for my entire life, if not lifetimes, to do the work. And so I think when we can just embrace where life has brought us, what our relationship has taught us, when we learn to look at our relationships as teachers and ask ourselves, okay, what is this relationship trying to teach me? What is this pattern trying to teach me? What is this feeling that I keep manifesting in my connections where I'm feeling like I feel small? I can't speak my truth. I need to silence my voice. I need to constantly give and and not ask for anything in return. What is it that all these patterns have been trying to teach me and show me about who I am and how my soul is asking me to involve, evolve, and pay very close attention to the pressure points, right? Those points of friction, the edge where it starts that that really uncomfortable, that edge where everything starts to feel really fucking uncomfortable and borderline triggering, but you can't figure out why it's triggering you. It just feels like I just want to get out of here. Pay attention because those are literally the the pressure points where that are the it's your growth edge. That's where that's where the pressure is building, asking you to grow and evolve into something different. So start to really pay attention and go back to the last couple of episodes because we talked a lot about rage and alchemizing rage and balancing the masculine and feminine energies, and that I think is going to really support you. Um, but I just wanted to acknowledge all of that and and what we've been talking about because I do believe it's lending to a much bigger conversation, a conversation not just about our relationships, but about who we are in the world and the purpose, impact, and influence that we came here to have and to create. And I think that get that, I think that is the bigger part of the conversation. And I think that's what I I if I would love, I I I definitely have so much more to say about going forward, right? Um, so have a think on that. Think about what your life path has taught you or has been trying to teach you, what your relationships have been trying to teach you, what your patterns have been trying to teach you, about where you want to grow and evolve. Where are those growth edges with the discomfort, the triggers where it starts to get really uncomfortable? And you know, you know you would not want to stay in this pattern much longer. Like if the pattern is getting so uncomfortable, you don't want to stay in it any longer. You know that something needs to change, even if you don't know what that is just yet, just pay attention to those. Note them, write them down and ask yourself, what would I do here if I wasn't afraid of being abandoned or rejected or unloved or left alone or whatever? Really start to pay attention to those because that's I think where a lot of the evolution starts to really show itself is in those moments, those pressure cookers of you know, how we've been living up until this point, the patterns we've been perpetuating, and that invitation to finally break those patterns. That's that's what that growth edge, that that discomfort, that pressure point is trying to show you. Okay. So that is all for today, you guys. Until next time, massive love.

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