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Bottled Anger | 4 Ways Suppressing Emotions Blocks Your Magnetism, Purpose & Manifestation Power

• Maria Rei

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Think your anger is the problem? The real block isn’t that you feel rage, resentment, or frustration—it’s that you’ve been conditioned to silence it. To suppress it. To make it wrong. But what if your anger isn’t a curse… it’s a compass?

In this powerful episode of The Femme Cast, we dive deep into the energetic and emotional cost of suppression—and how bottling your emotions quietly drains your energy, kills your magnetism, and stalls your manifestation. You’ll discover the four hidden ways unprocessed anger sabotages your purpose and potential:

This is not another “just think positive” conversation. It’s a no-bypass journey into emotional alchemy—where we explore how to give your anger motion, meaning, and purpose so your nervous system can finally feel safe holding the expansion you’ve been manifesting.

We’ll talk about:

🎤 the cost of emotional containment (and how it dulls your magnetism)

🎤 how projection and people-pleasing create chaos and self-betrayal loops

🎤 anger as an initiation into power, clarity, and self-respect

🎤 why mindset tools fail without body-level processing

🎤 how to move up the emotional scale without bypassing your truth

🎤 reframing manifestation from “outcome first” to “feeling first”

When you stop stuffing down your emotions and start listening to them, everything shifts—your energy steadies, your boundaries sharpen, and your desires finally have space to land. You stop chasing flow and start embodying it. You stop seeking validation and start radiating power.

If you’ve ever wondered why your affirmations collapse by Wednesday, why your manifestations feel like stop-and-go traffic, or why your “high-vibe” practices leave you exhausted—this is your missing link. Your body can’t hold a mindset it’s fighting.

This episode is your invitation to turn rage into radiance, resentment into recalibration, and anger into the alchemical fire that forges your next evolution.

Ready to stop shrinking for others? Let this episode be your sign → Step into your Unapologetic Era: https://thefemmecast.com/breakthrough

SPEAKER_00:

Hey guys, what is up and welcome back to the show. I am so excited and grateful that you guys are here. Welcome if you're new. We are continuing down the journey through the rage series and um, you know, how we cope with emotions of anger, rage, and resentment, especially if you resonate with being a people pleaser. This series is totally for you. Um if you haven't listened to the first two episodes, go ahead and have a listen to those after you're done here. But stay with me, don't leave. Um, today what I really wanted to talk about is just to give you some motivation why you want to do this work and the four ways that um not moving through, acknowledging, processing, healing, whatever you want to call it, um, your stored anger, rage, and resentment is literally blocking your own success, your energy, your magnetism, your purpose, your impact, your influence, everything that you're here to do, be and create. And it's also blocking your desires. Like it is blocking you on so many levels. And I really want, there's one thing I really want to say before we get into it today. It is not feeling anger or rage or resentment that blocks you from success or the things that you want, or your manifestations, or money, or love, or career, or whatever, whatever it is you're trying to call into this life. It is not the anger, the presence of anger, rage, and resentment that is blocking you. It is you're suppressing it or you're projecting it. It is the unhealthy ways that we've learned to cope with anger or resentment or rage that fucks it up and gets us into trouble every single time. If you can learn to be present and move through these emotions in a healthy way, the world is your fucking oyster. Like, seriously, like lucky fucking you, you finally like found the secret to life. Like, honestly. Um, but you know, having said that, I want to give you some motivation to do the work. So here's four ways that, you know, holding on to and and and repressing and denying some of these emotions or projecting them is actually like doing more harm than good and holding you back from what it is that you really want. And here's the kicker. You might be suppressing it because you think that acknowledging it is gonna be the thing that blocks you, but it's not like the very thing that you're doing that you think is actually good for you is the very thing that's fucking blocking you. It's not feeling the shit and moving through it and acknowledging it and being present with it. So just sit and be present with it. And I promise you, all this stuff will start to unfold for you. Um, it's so crazy how that works. And I I honestly, like I sometimes I blame the personal development community for that, but we'll get into that in another episode. Um, so number one, when we repress emotions like anger, rage, and um resentment, these are all very powerful emotions, especially rage, right? So when we're trying to contain it, suppress it, deny it, pretend that it's not there, ignore it, and just kind of move through life, there's a lot of energy that that takes. Like a lot. Okay. It's exhaust, it's physically draining your body. It is draining you of your magnetism because all of your energy is actually being funneled towards controlling and containing that rage because it takes that much energy to control and contain it. So instead of your energy being out there in the world, creating magic for you and attracting for you and bringing in all the right people, places, and things for you, it's too busy trying to contain all your rage or dealing with the aftermath of your projections. Either way, your energy is completely being wasted. Your magnetism is being wasted. Everything that keeps you into this beautiful energetic flow of everything you're here to do, be, and create is literally occupied with all of the rage that you're refusing to deal with. Okay. And so you lose when your magnetism is shut off or um, you know, being funneled or used non not productively. Um, you're you're you're you know, you're you're not you're not out there in your essence. You're not out there being who the world created you to be and do doing the shit and making the moves you came here to to do. You know, you're just not being, you're just your life force energy is literally draining. And this is where oftentimes burnout happens because we've got so much of our energy and our magnetism wrapped up and trying to control and the rage and and and suppress it and keep it down and put out the fires of our our projections have created, right? We've got all our energy tied up into that that we can't let our energy be out there doing the work for us. So, who's doing the work? We are in the physical. We're hustling, we're grinding, we're pushing, we're fighting for things to happen instead of letting the magnetism do it for us. And so, not to mention, you know, how much energy is being drained just by you know containing all of that. And so what ends up happening is we end up in burnout. We end up burnt out, we end up exhausted, we end up depleted, we end up unmotivated because we're supposed to be using our energy, our magnetism out there making moves, making shit happen, not in here trying to control and contain and suppress, right? That is not how this works. Um and so that's where our energy stores are being depleted, literally right from under our noses. Okay. And so, right, so what you want to do is actually start to take that energy away from containing and suppressing and cleaning up the chaos, the mess, the hot mess we've created, and putting it out there where it works for us, right? This is a process. This is not something that happens overnight. It happens in stages. It starts with letting go of controlling the rage, it starts with letting go of cleaning up the mess, it starts with letting go of the projections, processing the rage. And then once we start to do that effortlessly, our our magnetism, our energy starts to flow outwardly, where we can start to create and work work with universal energy to start um really being who we came here to be and making the impact we came here to make, right? Um unrealized potential is another cost. Like I said, not just because of your magnetism, right? Like that's the one part of it, right? The magic, your essence, your spark, your life force, all that's being zapped right out of you, yes. But also the wisdom that the anger holds for you about where you're supposed to be placing boundaries, where you're supposed to be saying fucking no, where you're supposed to be saying yes, fuck yeah, my soul wants that. Where you're supposed to be like raising your standards, raising the bar in your expectations, what you will and won't tolerate. All these things are vital, vital to being who it is that you came here to be. The world has taught you boundaries are bad. The world has taught you that asking for what you want is bad. The world has taught you that putting your needs first is bad, asking yourself what you want is bad. All these things are bad, bad, bad, bad, bad. But the reality is, is that these are really good, noble things for you to do, not just because how do I put this? Your soul, like you know, you know your blueprint, you know why you're here, and your soul is drawn to doing the things that are going to bring you in alignment with your purpose. And so when we start to deliberately choose ourselves and prioritize our needs and our gifts and our goals and our ambitions and our inspirations, that we start to trust in the flow. We start to trust in what our guidance is telling us. We start to trust in the natural inclinations of what we're wanting and desiring for ourselves and for our life. This leads us down the path to purpose. Anger, rage, and resentment is showing you where you're turning your back on all of that, where you are betraying yourself when it comes to all of that. Because the world has hardwired you to prioritize everyone else's needs, their feelings, their wants, their desires, let them cross your boundaries, let them, like, you know, do all these things because you think that's the good thing to do. But actually, what you're doing is a disservice because in doing that, you're not able to be in your fullest potential and the fullest expression of yourself. You are some watered-down version that you have created in order to keep everyone else around you happy instead of living up to your potential, which is hard. And that that's where the challenge is. So that's why sometimes, oftentimes, personal growth is not in the path of least resistance. It's in the path of the most fucking resistance, actually, because it's the stuff that you're hardwired not to do. Like, I don't know how else to say this. Like, if you're meant to be out there speaking, you're gonna be afraid to use your voice. If you're meant to be out there visible in front of audiences, in front of people, or on social media, you are literally going to be afraid to be seen. If you're if your uh purpose is to be out there helping people break toxic patterns, chances are you've had a ton of toxic conditioning in your relationships. All of which, by the way, is really vital information that you are going to completely miss if you're not listening to paying attention and giving space for your anger and for your resentment and for your rage to guide you in the way that it's trying so desperately to guide you along your path to reaching your fullest potential in this life. And so um, we need to start paying attention. We need to start listening, we need to stop suppressing, avoiding, and bypassing and projecting and making it mean something about us that's just not true. Um, you know, that's all based on conditioning that I believe has really been trying to keep us out of our power for centuries. Um next is it's completely mucking up with your energetic signature, right? Emotions are energy in motion. Okay. And I want you to pay attention to this part. Emotions are energy in motion, and we've heard that said a thousand times, right? So, and we've also heard that energy cannot be what's it called? Um, created or destroyed. It can only be um like changed form, transformed, right? So if it can't be created or destroyed, it can only be transformed. And if it's constantly moving, if it's energy and mo, if emotions are energy in motion and it's constantly moving, why the fuck are we trying to contain it and hold it in and pretend that it's not there? Right? How do we think we're making it better by projecting it out into the world? Or what are we what are we saying when we make it mean something about who we are and what we're worth and how lovable we are and how deserving we are? None of that is true. The all energy emotions are energy and motion, they cannot be created or destroyed, they can only be transformed. So start fucking transforming them. The power of your emotions is in the transmutation of them. Nothing will manifest faster or is more powerful in terms of a manifestation tool than your emotions. Everything we do in order to manifest is to trigger an emotion. Affirmations, mantras, visualizations, vision boards, all of these things, meditations, they're all designed to make us feel something. Because yes, it's good to believe, but it's in the feeling that we manifest. Emotions are what manifest. And so if we're holding on to all of this anger and rage and resentment, and we're not letting it move like it's meant to, transform like it's meant to. We're just holding it and stuffing it down and pretending that it's not there, that is fucking up our energy, that is messing with our energetic signature. It is gonna keep us in a cycle of constantly attracting what we don't want and blocking what we do because it wants us to pay attention to what it is trying to say. And the problem is that we keep ignoring it, suppressing it, projecting it, making it mean something about ourselves. We're not, we're not using it, we're not feeling it, we're not moving through it the way it is meant to work, we're just keeping it stuck energy. That then puts us in a pattern of manifesting shit we don't want, puts us in a mindset of I suck, I don't deserve good things, I must be doing this wrong, I must be doing manifestation wrong, there must be something wrong with me. Enter more psychotic manifestations we don't want. Do you see where the cycle just keeps perpetuating? And you know, when we do the mindset work, when we do the visualizations and we feel money is good, money loves me. Love comes easily. Everyone loves me. I find love that is unconditional, but we do all these affirmations and we start to believe them, we feel the emotions. And the minute something happens out there in the world that triggers the um the duality within us, the contradictory emotion that's stuck, whether it's the anger, rage, resentment, whatever's going on, we immediately our mindset completely shifts to the opposite. We complete, we keep it's hard to hold that positive mindset. Whereas if we do the work on the emotional body and do the work there and pay attention to what our emotions are trying to tell us and how they're trying to guide us and how they want us to move through this life, especially when we're talking about anger, rage, and resentment, and we start to apply those to our daily life, then the mindset work becomes easy because we don't have all this anger, rage, and resentment that we're trying to bury beneath the surface. And we're not projecting all this crap onto our relationships or telling us ourselves all these stories about how much we suck because we're angry all the time. Right now, the mindset work is easy. Now the visualizations are easy to connect to and if you have an emotional experience. Like now, all these tools become easier because they're not in resistance to what's going on, they're not, they're not in complete opposition to what's going on inside of you and creating this like painful tug of war that often happens when we're trying to manifest good shit, especially if we're holding on to a lot of stuff that we're not paying attention to. Suppressed emotions will fuck with your manifestations. Trust me on this, okay? Um, because it creates this push-pull tug of war energy that will drive you bonkers and have you think that you are doing everything wrong. So, yes, well, the affirmations are good, the mindset techniques are good, the visualizations, all good stuff, but focus on the inner experience, focus on your inner world more than your outer world. The problem is that with manifestation, we always put too much focus on what we're manifesting. We pay very little attention to how those manifestations make us feel. If you really want to like flip this on its ass, and this is a totally unrelated thing that I'm point that I'm gonna make. But if you can, if you can, you know, there's an art to breaking the codependency to your manifestations in that if you can think of it as everything that you want to manifest, it's because it's trying to make you feel something. Because deep down you want to feel something. You want to manifest the partner because you want to feel love. You want to manifest this money because you want to feel safe, secure, empowered. You want to manifest the family because you want to feel joy, you want to feel support, you want to feel belonging. Start to manifest that also all those emotions within yourself and watch your reality start to change. But it has to, it's an internal job. And that's really why we often want external things. And when we get there, to when we get to joy, when we get to bliss, when we get to love, when we get to security, when we get to all these things, yeah, we may still want those things, or maybe we don't want them anymore because really we've learned we don't need them. Our soul can create those feelings for itself. Maybe we want different things, better things. Who knows? The point is that we have to break this attachment to manifesting people, places, and things in order for us to feel a certain way. Our emotions are our own. We own them, we have to cultivate them. And that's where suppressing your emotions and not moving through them, moving through the experience of whatever it is that you're repressing or ignoring or avoiding or projecting and making it mean something bad about yourself, moving through those so that we can start to access the emotion that we want, start to manifest what we want. Are you are you are you picking up what I'm putting down? Okay, there's nothing more powerful than doing the emotional alchemical work to transmute and transform your emotional experience. That's where your power lies in all of this. And they've been lying to you, telling you. Um, lastly, and and this is where I mean, this is this leads into what exactly what we've been talking about. It is blocking, suppressing your emotions and not feeling them and not honoring them, and not moving through them, and not, you know, picking up the little nuggets of wisdom that it has for you and and and uh doing everything in your power to avoid feeling them or projecting them onto other people. It is literally blocking your ascension. Okay. If you've ever seen that inverted cone of the energetics of emotions, right, where it kind of ranks vibrationally, right? I hate that word, but it kind of ranks emotions from low vibe to high vibe, from shame to ascension, right? It's this inverted funnel. Um, starts with shame, guilt, and it goes into um grief, anger, I can't remember what they are. Grief, anger, um, pride, courage, neutrality, and you know, up into the higher, you know, love, peace, bliss, ascension. Um that is the very rough version of it, but you get you get the gist of what I'm saying. So basically what it's saying is that everything below in the lower half of the cone is low vibrational, everything on the top half of the cone is high vibrational, and it's an inverted cone, right? So the widest is at the top. Um while I agree and disagree with many parts of this theory, I don't believe any emotion is low vibrational. I only believe it's low vibrational if we get stuck there. If we don't move through it, if we don't process it properly. So if we get stuck in shame, yes, it's low vibrational. If we get stuck in grief, yes, it's low vibrational. If we get stuck in anger, rage, and resentment, yes, it is low vibrational. Not the lowest, shame and guilt are the lowest. Um, but anger, rage, and resentment, and I think it's they only have anger on the cone, but anger is kind of lumped up with rage and resentment, a bunch of other ones. Um, but basically, you know, if we get stuck there, yes, it does become low vibrational. But if we learn to move through the cone and move through the emotional experience and ascend up to ascension, that is the work. There is nothing low vibrational about that. We are meant to have as humans, we are meant to experience every single emotion under the sun and move through it and experience it and still come back to ascension. We're not meant to deny or repress anything. We're not meant to feel bad or shameful about anything. That just creates more shame. Right? There's nothing that we feel that makes us a bad person, an unloving person, an unkind person, right? Especially as a people pleaser, like, oh my God, like, am I a bad person if I'm not always feeling love and joy and gratitude? No, you're human. Fuck that. Like, you know, we're meant to feel all of it. It only becomes low vibrational when we get stuck, right? And in many cases, we can't jump from guilt and shame to ascension. We have to evolve slowly, step by step, through the different emotions. So we have to honor where we are in that chart. And if we if we choose to hate on ourselves because we're in we're in hate and uh anger and rage and resentment, we have to know by suppressing it, we're blocking our ascension into the higher levels because we have to move through that before we can get to those higher levels of ascension. Okay. Nothing you feel is bad. Nothing. It is what we choose to do with it that defines who we are, what we're aligned with, and what we're energetically calling in. Okay. That is what it boils down to. There is so much power to be experienced and feeling all of your emotions, especially the anger, the resentment, the rage, because that is literally what is guiding you on your path to reaching your fullest potential. It is telling you where you're abandoning yourself, where your boundaries are being crossed, where you need to take a stand for yourself and what you deserve in this life, and raise your standards and what you're settling for. All of that is being communicated through your anger and the anger that you keep ignoring that turns to resentment, and the resentment that you keep ignoring that turns to rage. Pay attention. I promise you, it will change your life if you do. Next episode, we're going to be talking about some tools and techniques to move through anger and rage. So stick around. You'll wanna, you won't want to miss that episode. If you have questions, if you have comments, if you want to let me know what resonated, you can um we'll leave it in the comments below wherever you're seeing this. You can email me at maria at the femcoach.com. You can send me a DM on at that on Instagram at the femcast. I'd love to hear from you guys. I don't always respond, but I do try to. But every single one of your rest's messages is read and appreciated, and and I'm so grateful for. And who knows, you just might inspire another episode of the podcast. So until next time, you guys, massive love.

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