The Femme Cast
Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship cycles, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria — Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor.
I work with the women who are cycle breakers, grid shakers, and truth layers — the brave souls who came here to dismantle the inherited beliefs that told them they had to chase love, prove their worth, and beg to be chosen.
I help them break free from the karmic cycles and generational patterns that keep them stuck in toxic relationships and self-abandonment — so they can unapologetically choose themselves, reclaim their inherent worth, and become magnetic to soul-aligned love, expansive opportunities, and the liberated life they were born to lead.
Without ever shrinking, settling, or self-abandoning again.
I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, begging to be chosen, and abandoning myself again and again in the name of love. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
Join me as we say goodbye to self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics, and hello to radical self-love, emotional freedom, and true empowerment.
It’s time to reclaim the version of you who never had to beg to be chosen.
You ready?
Let’s do this.
The Femme Cast
MASTERCLASS | Unlock Your Sacred Feminine Power | Discover the hidden gifts that make you magnetic AF
The world is shifting. The old, masculine-dominated foundation is cracking, and we’re being called into something deeper—an awakening of our sacred feminine power. This isn’t about gender—it’s about reclaiming the intuitive, magnetic, creative energy that has always lived inside you.
In this first episode of the Feminine Awakening Series: Rebel. Rise. Radiate, I reveal the 9 sacred feminine superpowers that make you instantly more magnetic, authentic, and unstoppable. These aren’t abstract concepts—they’re practical, easy-to-integrate practices to call your power back and embody the woman you were meant to be.
Most importantly, they are the powers they tried everything they could to keep from you.
For centuries, we’ve been conditioned to overthink, control outcomes, and chase external validation instead of trusting our inner wisdom. That conditioning leaves us disconnected, anxious, and powerless. But the discomfort you feel? That’s not weakness—it’s your power begging to be unleashed.
Inside this episode, you’ll discover how to:
🎤 Harness intuition to stop second-guessing and start trusting yourself
🎤 Use surrender and detachment to release control and open to miracles
🎤 Practice emotional alchemy so emotions fuel transformation
🎤 Set intentions that magnetize what you desire—without attachment
🎤 Cultivate presence to reclaim your power in the now
🎤 Build authentic connection through heart-centered presence
🎤 Embody radical authenticity to attract aligned people and opportunities
🎤 Master your energy by reclaiming it from people, places, and things that drain you
When you stop suppressing your feminine superpowers, you stop giving your energy away. You become magnetic AF, not by trying harder, but by radiating from your sacred center. Each personal awakening contributes to collective healing. The chaos in the world? It’s the prelude to transformation, and your awakening is part of something bigger.
This episode isn’t just something to listen to—it’s a masterclass in feminine awakening. I’ve also created complementary journal prompts, affirmations, and guided practices so you can begin embodying these superpowers today.
Your most powerful, magnetic, authentic self is waiting. Are you ready to rise?
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there is something so magical happening right now Like you have no idea. Oh my God, welcome back to the show. You guys, I am so excited to have you here. Welcome If you're new. We are starting a new six part series here on the Femcast and that is, you know, this feminine awakening. We're doing a feminine awakening edition. Rebel, rise and radiate into the feminine power that nature intended for you, that God intended for you. Universe, source, whatever you resonate with. Okay, and I say that it's such a magical moment right now.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I always feel the most powerful in a thunderstorm. I don't know why I love to sit back and watch thunderstorms. I'm obsessed with thunder, I'm obsessed with rain, I'm obsessed with lightning. I used to actually like would drive my car to the beach after a big storm so I could watch the lightning as it would move away and kind of like hover, like at a distance over the water. It was just such a beautiful light show and as I'm recording this because I usually record in the morning, when the lighting is nice and bright, it is thunderstorming. Right now it is so dark I have my lamps on to actually light up the room because it's that dark. So it's first thing in the morning although it probably doesn't look like it if you're seeing this on video anywhere and the rain and the thunder outside and the lightning so you might hear some thunder in the background is just miraculous. So this, I'm gonna take this as a sign that this is exactly where we're supposed to be right now and this is exactly what we're supposed to be talking about in this moment, and I'm feeling so charged, and I hope you are too. Okay.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So today is the first part of this six part series. There's going to be six episodes to follow where we're going to be going deeper into this conversation about, you know, feminine and masculine energies. You know where we kind of took a wrong turn and you know beliefs that are kind of blocking us from really stepping into our power and how we kind of heal both of these energies. Then I just want to start this conversation by reiterating that we all carry both masculine and feminine energy and we both need to learn how to have a healthy relationship with both of those energies, and that's what's been blocking us in many ways. Now, yes, as you know, we are all being invited, men and women. Doesn't matter what your gender is. It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is. That has nothing to do with the conversation.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Everybody on earth, as humans, are being asked to step into and embody more of their feminine energy, because we have been living in a very masculine, very patriarchal society for centuries and that we're seeing the cracks in that foundation. We're seeing everything starting to break apart. Okay, we're seeing where that way of living, that system of thinking, is just not working anymore. Um, we need to tap back in to our feminine, okay, um, or at least be able to harmonize the two energies. Right, that's actually the ultimate goal. The ultimate goal is to harmonize the two energies, um, within each and every one of us.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Now, everybody will lean a little bit more masculine or a little bit more feminine, and that's fine, and that's also not gender specific, okay, um, it does often dictate who you're in best suited in relationship with. So, if you tend to lean a little bit more feminine, sometimes you're better. You know, when you match with somebody who is a little bit more masculine, it balances out the energy between the two and it creates harmony. But it has again, I cannot stress this enough, you guys, it has nothing to do with gender. It has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Okay, that is not part of the conversation here today. If that's the conversation that you were hoping for, I'm sorry to disappoint you, but that is not what we're bringing to the table today. Okay, all right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So this episode is really for you. If you've ever felt like you, just you know, um, this episode is really for you. If you've ever felt like you, just you know you wanted to do more, or you should be doing more, or you should be doing some something else, or there's something more to life, or you know you're just feeling unsure of where you're even supposed to be, what you're, or what it looks like. And that's kind of the moment that I had when I went through my awakening, right Is that I kind of felt and I've talked about this so many times on the podcast there was that moment where I was laying on the beach, where I was just like like fuck, there's got to be more to life than this. You know, I closed my eyes and I was watching the water like kind of glisten off in the distance and I didn't know this at the time, but glisten off in the distance, and I didn't know this at the time. But I was basically going into a meditative state and I heard a voice say to me there's so much more for you out there.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you would be willing what was the word? If you would just be willing to go for it or be willing to leave, or basically be willing to make a move right, like, have the courage to go for it right and go into the unknown. And that's often where this journey begins it begins in the unknown. And so today we're going to be talking about the nine. I think I narrowed it down to nine. There's many, but these are the nine sacred feminine superpowers that, once you start to like I'm going to give you some practices and some tools and tips and techniques to do this you can, in minutes, tap into your most powerful, most authentic, most magnetic self.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, and it all begins with embracing the unknown, embracing what's what you can't see in front of you, embracing uncertainty, embracing the question marks that may be looming over your life, and just trusting yourself as you move through the process. Right. So it's a completely it's not a surrendered state like. It is a state of surrender, but it's not where you're not taking. You know, sometimes I think surrender is misinterpreted as kind of laying back and doing nothing. It's not. That's not what this is about. This is surrendering control, this is surrendering overthinking, this is surrendering attachment work. So these are some of the things that we're good at, the themes we're going to be talking about today.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The truth is, you know, you may be feeling, I know you may be feeling unsure of what to do next and you feel this sense of powerlessness to do anything about it, or uncertainty of where to go or what to do. Just know that, if you're feeling that you're not alone, okay, the truth is that the pain and discomfort that we feel when we deny or suppress our feminine power which I can't stress this enough Like this feminine power was instilled in humans, humans for a very powerful reason. We need like this is how we connect with a divine, this is how we create, this is how we nurture, this is how we love, this is how we're meant to move through life, if you think of it as feminine energy is really that intuition, that healing, that nurturing, that inspired creativity. Yes, we're here to create life, but we're also here to create many other things. Okay, um, but and, and, and.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Then, you know, the masculine is more of the structure, the, the, the foundations, the building, the protection, the, you know, like the, the, the logic, right, but the logical mind. And then we've got the creative mind right, the higher level, the higher wisdom, the higher perspective, right, and so these two energies need to work together. The problem is is that as a society, we've leaned so much into our masculine qualities, men and women alike, that we've completely disconnected from our feminine. And when we balance these two energies, we as beings become freaking unstoppable. And, if you ask me, I don't think it was an accident that we were kind of limited or conditioned to rely very heavily on our masculine energy because there's somebody out there that doesn't want us in our most empowered state, which our most empowered state is.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:When we start to harmonize both of these energies within ourselves and within each other, with with each other, so, um, so here's the thing. Um, if you're feeling the discomfort, right. If you're feeling that, oh, I need to be doing something, or there's gotta be more to life than this, or I know I'm supposed to be doing more, but I have no freaking idea what that looks like or what I'm supposed to be even doing. I just know that I just want to crawl out of my own skin right now, because I know this isn't it. It's okay, I've been there.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And that's what's happening when these energies start to awaken within you, they start to become this energetic force that is unattainable anymore, and the more we hold on to it, the more uncomfortable it gets. And it truly is miraculous that it does that, because it's actually begging us to let it out and let it be seen and and to really harness it and use it to our advantage, because that's how we're meant, that's how we're meant to be in this world, that's that's the energy we're meant to lean on in this world, right, and so suppressing it, the more uncomfortable it gets. It's actually a blessing, because it's actually forcing you to kind of you know, very intentionally unleash this. You know, secret, sacred part of you out into the world. Know that, and I'm just going to make this point and then we'll go on to the. You know, talking about the different superpowers.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Like I said before, tapping into this energy, like using the tools and the techniques that I'm going to be sharing with you on this episode will literally have you tapping into your most powerful, most magnetic version of yourself within minutes. Okay, so you know you can use them all at once. You know binge watch this whole episode, keep it somewhere so you can kind of refer back to it. I'll try and put some posts up to kind of as like use as quick reference guides, but so make sure you're following me on Instagram for that at the Femcast. However, you know you don't have to use them all at once, all at the same time, all every day. You can kind of interchange. If you want to focus on one at a time, if you want to use them interchangeably as situations come up, you know that's entirely up to. If you want to use them interchangeably as situations come up, you know that's entirely up to you how you want to use these and use them to your advantage.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But please know, when you start to fully use and integrate these into your life, this is when you really step into and embody that most empowered, sacred, feminine version of yourself and you are capable of creating powerful change and transformation, not just in yourself but within people around you. Now that change can't be forced. Okay, I want to make that perfectly clear. Just because we're going through this transformation, we have this incredible experience. I do. I see this all the time. I see my clients do it. I used to do it. Oh my God, I had this.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Like we go home to our like our boyfriends and our husbands and we're like, oh my God, I tried this amazing practice today. You have to try Right, and we start to force like all our personal development and shit onto them. That's not how this works. Just be in the energy of and I always say this with everything, with everything we do in personal development and energy healing. Be in your most empowered state and then just hang back, just embody it and watch the effects that it might have on people around you.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, we never want to cram. We never want to cram our ideologies or whatever on people around us. That's just not cool. Our ideologies or whatever on people around us, that's just not cool. That's just not how we roll here. Okay, please don't do that. Okay, so here we go. This is going to be so much fun and I cannot wait. And please know that what we're going to talk about today, like the techniques I'm going to give you, of course they're going to feel a little weird or uncomfortable or maybe some uneasiness at first. Some of them might even feel flat out wrong to you. That's okay and that is because I want you to remember, we have been conditioned for centuries to not tap into these superpowers, because I believe that, as beings, it makes us way too fucking powerful for some people, and so I'm just going to leave that there. If you caught my last episode with Crystal Dawn, you'll understand what I'm talking about. Okay, all right, now here we go.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Nine sacred feminine superpowers that are guaranteed to make you unstoppable and magnetic, and all of them focusing on taking your power back from the external, bringing it back to the internal. So external, that can be thoughts too, because we're worried about something going on outside of ourselves. We're thinking about stuff going on outside ourselves things, people, places, things we're attached to. We're going to take our power back from all of that. We're going to reel it all in and bring it back into your center. Okay, and that's where all your power lies.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So, um, number one intuition. So, um, first and foremost, most powerful sacred feminine superpower. I believe we all have the ability to tap into this in the most powerful way. I'm going to move my leg here because it's getting very uncomfortable. I'm hoping I don't punch my mic. Okay, there we go, kick my mic. So here's the thing Without our intuition right, which we've we talk about it, we say you know, oh, but my, you know, I listen to my instincts.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The reality is is that, as a society, we have taught for generations that we need to be in our mind in order to make decisions, in order to navigate life, in order to tap into knowledge and wisdom. And it's not to say that the mind is not a valuable thing. Of course it is Like we need again, we need logic too. We need both masculine and feminine expressions of this energy. But we can't rely on the mind alone, because sometimes the mind gets you know, it can be impressionable. It can only take its cues from what it knows, what it sees to be true, what it sees as fact and what it sees as possible in the world around it. Well, sometimes we are capable than so much more than we even realize. Sometimes there's so much more for us out there that we can't see or comprehend, and so that's why having a strong connection to your intuition is so vitally important.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:When I left my job and when I went down, you know, when I did the whole burning down my life thing, and I knew that there was something more for me out there and I had no idea what it was. And you know, I did this meditation that I shared with a class, that I did a couple last week. I shared this meditation where you kind of, you know, step into the future version of yourself and in your most embodied state. And I remember I was speaking. I was speaking in front of an audience. I could see the lights and I could see that there was a lot of people, like it was almost like. I can't remember if I see the outlines of their heads or I saw their eyes, but I couldn't see their faces. That's all I remember. I remember seeing that I was on a stage, the lights were kind of blinding me and there was a lot of people in the audience but I could not see their faces and I was standing in front of a mic and talking, right, and here's the thing At the time I got the impression okay, yes, I'm supposed to be a public speaker, but why couldn't I see the faces?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:This is why I could not see the faces, because I was going to start a podcast. I don't even know if podcasting was a thing at the time and if it was, it was very new. So my logical mind would never have sent me down that path. I had to rely on my intuition to get here, otherwise I never would have like, I never would have saw the way. I would have totally missed it if I was relying on my head, because podcasting wasn't even a reality, right? So you see how sometimes your intuition can guide you places that your mind never could.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So, when it comes to tapping into your intuition and this is going to take time, you know I always tell my clients and we do a lot of work on, you know helping them to harness the power of their intuition. I am one of those coaches, slash healers that I don't like to keep my clients with me, like I don't believe in having lifetime clients. I like to graduate my clients. My clients aren't leaving at the end of six months a year at most, but that's rare, usually six months. If they're not leaving at the end of six months fully empowered to tap into their sacred feminine superpowers and manage their own emotions and use them to create alchemy in their life, I'm doing something wrong. Okay, that's not to say I'm responsible for your healing. Obviously, everybody's responsible for their own healing, but I give you the tools and the techniques to do all this. So for yourself.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So one of the first things we always tap into is intuition. So what I always tell people is okay. So here's what I, here's what I always want people to do when, when, when, they're working with me. I want you to move through life trying to make as many small decisions with your intuition as you can. This is how you're going to flex the muscle, make it stronger and also build trust. We're going to go way over in time.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Today, guys, this is like a full-on masterclass, like this is not a normal episode. So just keep that in mind and maybe keep a journal with you as well. But again, I'm going to be sending out some materials on my Instagram to kind of give you some cheat sheets on this. So make sure you're following me at the Femcast. So for intuition a practice that I always love to share with my clients again you know, make sure you're making all your small decisions intuitively. So, what to eat for lunch today? What should I wear today? Um, where? Which route do I want to should I take to work? Be careful with the eating thing, because sometimes your body will tell you that you want a cheeseburger but you don't. So be careful with that one, or your body will tell you that, yeah, you should totally hook up with that hot guy that you've been eyeing, but you shouldn't. So be careful. Be careful, but you'll know when it's your intuition, and here's how I always describe intuition.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Intuition is that quiet voice that you can barely hear beneath the surface, and that's why meditation is so important right when you quiet the mind. That's why meditation is so important, right when you quiet the mind. That's why meditation is so important, because when we can get the mind quiet, we can actually hear our intuition more clearly, that voice that's panicked and frantic in your mind. Oh my god, don't go there, don't do that. Oh my god, they're going to judge you. That is not your intuition, that is your fear. Just acknowledge it. You don't even have to shame it, you don't have to. You can just acknowledge this and be like okay, I hear you. All right, I'm just going to check in with what my intuition is telling me, though instead. Okay, so that's how you know you're speaking to your intuition and what I like to do.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I like to treat the intuition as a very binary tool, in that it likes to answer yes or no questions, or this or that questions. Right, should I go to the movies today and listen to the answer. Should I wear the red dress or the green dress and listen for the answer? Do I want broccoli as my vegetable tonight or do I want Brussels sprouts? My intuition will never fucking say Brussels sprouts. Just saying that's a good test. You can test it too, right, and so practice making small decisions like that.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I want you to become really aware of what your yeses feel like, what your no's feel like and also what you're like when you're making a this or that, what your choice like, what you're choosing, feels like okay. So for me, my yeses and what I choose feels very open, it feels very light. It feels very open. It feels very light, it feels very expansive, almost energizing, and it makes me feel like a sense of relief, right, when I tap into what my yes feels like. My no feels very restrictive, very constricted, it feels very dark. It feels like contracting right, and that's how I know it's a no or that's not the right path, right? So if I'm driving to the market on a Saturday and I'm saying to myself, okay, should I take the main road or should I take the side streets? Here, if I say take the main road I'm immediately constricting because I know there's going to be lots of traffic on the main road. There's a farmer's market going on and it's creating parking and driving chaos. So if I take the side streets, I feel like I feel open, I feel expansive, I feel like I can be hearing the birds chirping as I'm driving to the market, right. So that's where I know my route is and that's how I make a lot of my decisions throughout the day.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And as you start to use this muscle and flex it and strengthen it, you can start to use it for the bigger decisions. And another good practice that I'm going to share with you, that I want you to start to implement, is I want you to journal not just what it feels, what your yeses feel like, what your no feels like and what your choice, like option of choice, feels like, which will feel a lot like your yes, right, but I also want you to journal on what happens when you follow your intuition versus when you don't. So this is all strengthening and building trust strengthening your intuition and building trust in it and building trust in yourself. Your intuition and building trust in it and building trust in yourself, because for many of us, you know, this does take time because we have made bad decisions or we have been too much in our head and it has sent us down the wrong path. And we do overthink and overworry and overanalyze about every little fucking thing and for many of us, like I, used to get stuck in complete indecision, like I wouldn't do anything because I couldn't decide, and I would constantly be going back and forth and back and forth and back what if this happens? What if that happens? And this worst case scenario and that worst case, oh my God, it was exhausting, and do you know how much energy that burns. This is where the magnetism part comes in, because now we're freeing up all that mental energy that you've been kind of using just to, like you know, keep that brain turning, and now we're actually going to now be turning that outward.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:This whole process is about taking all of the energy that you've been putting into and worrying there's something coming through. Hang on, I'm trying to explain this because I'm feeling it, but I'm trying. I'm having a hard time trying to articulate what's coming through. You've been putting all your energy and focus, yes, based on what you're fearing, what you're thinking, what they're going to think, what they're going to say and what the right thing to do is and what the wrong thing to do and what's the worst thing that can happen, and all these worst case scenarios floating through your mind. So you're constantly externally focused and because you're externally focused, your energy, your energy, your life force, energy, your energy, your life force energy is sucked in to like it's inside, trying to like, decipher and think through all this information and process all this data and and create all like, use all this momentum just to process your thoughts and make decisions. We are going to reverse that. You are going to focus on feeling internally, how you feel internally, and letting that be your guidance. So now all that energy is pushed out as magnetic energy.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Wow, I actually have never explained it that way before you heard it here. First, you guys Okay, okay. So that was a while to get us through the first one, so this might be a two hour episode. Okay, number two surrender. So, and number two and number three are actually very closely aligned, so I'm going to try and be as clear as I can when I'm speaking about them so they don't sound like they overlap. But basically, surrender is you know. Sound like they overlap, but basically surrender is.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, this is what we do, this is what we use when we're constantly worrying about the things that we have no control over, and this is part of what inspired this whole series is I've not been having a good time watching the news like and seeing what's going on in the world. Like it's it's not fun, like it's not. It has me, um, I've actually been going through an existential crisis, actually, if I'm being quite honest, of like, how do I live in a world where this is happening? Because I don't know, um, but I do know that this is a sign of this great feminine awakening. And if you don't understand why all of this that's happening right now is a sign of a great feminine awakening, if you've ever been through an awakening experience, you know it's always darkest right before the dawn.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know things get fucking crazy as hell right before you're about to go through the awakening, triggering starts to happen. Your ego starts to get louder and start screaming because it senses change and transformation and healing coming and it scares the crap out of it, and so it does everything to try and distract you and and and draw you back down into um. You know what you've always known to be true, to kind of keep you where you're at because that's what feels safe, and I do believe that that's what's happening on a larger collective scale right now. And like that is not to put light on anything that's happening in the world today, that does not excuse anything that's happening in the world today, that does not make light of people's hardships and suffering, and we're not even going to go down that road. But all of that to say, when you start to, I believe, when we all start to harness this energy, each of us individually, that creates a cascading ripple effect from one person to the next, to the next, to the next. When we focus on changing ourselves and changing our internal state and our energetic state, we have the power to influence those around us. They influence more people and then more people. Before we know it, we have a collective change and transformation happening, but it has to start with ourselves.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, so, um, surrender is worrying about the things that we can control. We have no control over what happens in the news cycle. We have no control a lot of the times over you know what our leaders choose to do. You know, yeah, we can protest, yeah, we can do this and that, whatever, but at the end of the day, they're going to do what they want to do, right? So, instead of worrying about what you can't control because, again, that's just using all of your life force, energy, to try and make sense of all of this and try and figure out a route for you to do something when really there's not I mean there's. There are things we can do. It's not to say that we're completely helpless, but you know everything. You know we'll only know the path of how we can make an impact when we surrender, because here's the thing, when we're in our head trying to figure it out, all we're doing. All we're doing is oh my God, how do I stop this person, how do I stop that person, how do I keep this from happening? And that's not the path.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The path might be very indirect, right. The path might be, again, not to pull on this as an example, but the path might be to start a podcast about something that you're passionate about and that's going to create a ripple effect of change. Or maybe the path is starting a group in your community of like-minded individuals and creating more of a grassroots movement. Or, you know, maybe the path is starting a group in your community of like-minded individuals and creating more of a grassroots movement. Or maybe your path is simply like being the ground or the grounding force in your family or in your community, to bring people together, to be the voice of reason. Whatever For each individual, it's going to be the voice of reason. Whatever For each individual, it's going to be different, right, and so the only way we can tap into what that correct path is, or what the solutions are, or how we fix things that seem to be out of our control, is to surrender it, to let it go to a higher power and trust that we're going to receive the guidance through our intuition, which we worked on in the previous one, of what to do next when the time is right, without trying to force it.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So what I usually like to do with this, this is a very simple practice. If there's anything that I'm worried about or obsessing over or can't stop thinking about, I'm going to literally see it. I'm going to see two hands in front of me and I'm going to literally see this like a box, like a gift box or a lock box or something, or even a cloud, whatever, what a bubble, thought bubble, whatever works for you and I just literally like imagine taking it out of my head slowly, putting it into divine hands and saying I'm giving this over to you because I know, I know that you have access to wisdom and solutions that I just can't I can't see right now. So I'm putting this in your hands and I'm trusting that it's going to be taken care of to the highest good for everyone involved, and then just letting it go. And then, every time that thought comes into my mind, I keep doing that over and over again, until it's slow and I you know if feelings come up as you're thinking it. It's important to feel those feelings and we're going to talk about that in number four. But and so acknowledge those feelings and acknowledge that they're there and validate why you're feeling that way, but then still keep giving it over.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Keep giving it over and ask yourself what can I do right now? Or, if you, what, what do I feel guided to do right now? Or where do I want to put my energy and focus and intention right now? What is within my power? Right? And then just keep shifting your thoughts to where your power is and that takes you away from this idea where I feel powerless to do anything and it brings you back to. But actually I do have power to do something right and it brings you back to. But actually I do have power to do something right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It just may not be the big thing, right? Maybe it's a little, maybe it's not the big fire, maybe you can't put up the big fire, but maybe you can put out a little fire, right, that's going to eventually contribute to the big fire and make it even bigger, right? You know what I mean. So we have to get, we have to get out of that blocker white thinking and we have to get out of that black or white thinking and we have to get out of. But this is the problem and I can't fix it and therefore I can't do anything. There is something we can all do and sometimes that thing, you know again, the inspiration will come when it's ready, when you're ready to receive it, and it may not even make sense. It may not make sense, it may seem totally random. Trust it, just trust it, and trust where it is leading you and try to use this a little less.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, detachment this is very important, especially actually in relationship. Believe it or not, this is the one thing that's going to actually transform your romantic relationships like tenfold, but it's also like a really good practice just in general, and this is really about detaching from outcomes. This is about not needing things to work out a certain way that your mind again your mind is telling you they need to work out. I love this person. I need to marry them. We need to be together forever, happily, ever after this. I love this person. I need to marry them. We need to be together forever, happily, ever after.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I need to have $10,000 in my bank account by Friday. I need to have this job, otherwise I will never be happy. I won't survive. This has been the answer to my prayers and if I don't get this, then I'm a failure. I need this business to work. If I don't get this business to work, then I'll never make it in life. Like I'm literally going to die of starvation. I'm painting all these like grim, like all of. Some of these are thoughts that I've had. A lot of them are thoughts that my clients have had, but some of these are thoughts that I've had in the past and I laugh because it's true.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But when we attach to something and we attach this energy of need to it. We number one. We naturally repel it. That's number one. So, whether it's a relationship, a job, a circumstance, a financial situation, a promotion, you know, whatever it is that we've attached to, right, that needy attachment energy is going to push it away. Okay, and that's actually, I think, by divine design, because, ultimately, our soul knows we have everything we need within ourselves in order to be our highest version of ourselves, right? So when we think we need something that's giving power to something else, to say I can't be whole or complete without that thing, and our soul's like fuck that, yeah, you can Like, yeah, you can, you absolutely can be whole and complete without that thing.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Right and honestly, like being on this journey that I've been on going through this, like feminine healing, feminine awakening that I've been going through like I started, like back in 2012,. Everything that I thought that I needed, I had to lose and literally learn to walk again without those things Money, relationships, career, like all the things that I got worth and value out of were literally ripped right out of my life more than once, more than once, and I basically had to stand firmly in my own worth without those things, and that was like. That felt like a slow, painful death to me, because so much of my worth and value came from these external things that I validated my existence with, basically Right. And it wasn't until I had to face life without those things that I really started to see who I was and what my soul wanted to create in this life and what, what. What my soul wanted to create in this life and what it is that I brought like to the world. Right, um, and that was. That was probably, I think, the out of all the things that I, you know, the big transformations that I had, like over like the last, like 10 years, I think that was probably the biggest one. I think it took the longest um of all of them. And there was, it was a multi-layer approach to healing, with that, you know, coming into those beliefs.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But I do believe that you know you can take a head start and not have to go through the long route the way I did and take an inventory. You know, what is it that you think you need in your life, right, what is it that you think you need and that you can't live without? And even to this day, sometimes, like I, like I'll panic, like, oh my god, like stupid example, but like I have the cutest dog in the world, you guys and I love her to bits. And sometimes like I worry about the day that I lose her and like like oh my god, please don't leave and hurt mama one day, and I'll start crying on her ass. And she's looking at me like the fuck is wrong with you woman, like I'm fine, right, and then so. And then I have to bring myself back to know you know what, no matter what happens, I will love you and I will be grateful that I had you and I know that I will be okay, right, and I will just feel that love that I have in my heart for her, right, and that kind of. That kind of helps me to move through that experience.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But I'm and that's a comedic relief example of how this could look. It could look as being afraid to lose a loved one. It could look as being afraid to lose a partner. It could be afraid afraid of losing a job. It could be afraid of losing money, a home. All of these are very scary things, right, and so we don't want to think about losing them. We don't want to think about life without them.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If somebody says well, what would you do if you lost your spouse or your house or your job or your career? Like you lost your license one day. Like how would that feel for you? Right, and it can feel very overwhelming, and that's when we know we have a lot of attachment, right? Or what if this relationship didn't work out? What if he never called you back? What if he's not the one? You know that can that can bring up a lot of like I don't even want to go there kind of energy, right? That's when you know you're attached. That's when you know you're attached to an outcome. And while I think you know manifesting for a certain result is great, but I do think we need to surrender and detach from the outcome, even if anytime we're wanting to manifest anything, because sometimes you know what the universe really does know better from what our ego tells us we want or thinks that we need to have, you know.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So start to pay attention to those things that you're afraid to lose, because as soon as you're afraid to lose something, you've already lost yourself. You've already lost yourself because you're already bargaining bits and pieces of yourself in order to keep said thing in your life that relationship, that money, that house, that job, right as soon as you're afraid of losing it. You've already started like what's it called Gambling away little bits of yourself, trying to hold on to that thing, whatever that thing is. So start to pay attention to what are those things that you're afraid to be without, what are those things that you're, you know, maybe subtly kind of giving parts of yourself away in order to keep into your life? And how can you create some distance from those things? Or how can you paint a possibility? I mean, you can't keep your distance from your job, but how can you open up to the possibilities of other career opportunities out there for you that you could actually do enjoy? You know, start to make a list, start to look at what other possibilities are out there for you. You know, if it doesn't work out with this partner, or if this marriage doesn't survive, you know, maybe there are a million other people out there for you that you could be happily ever after with. You know, or you know, maybe life looks completely different.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The point is is that we have to open ourselves up to other possibilities. That's not to say that we're going to go after them. That's not what this exercise is about this exercise is about this person, this place. This thing is not the be all, end all and I will be fine, no matter what, and then just breathe into the emotion, whatever that is, that fear, that anxiousness, that attachment? You know, with my dog maybe for me it was you know it started as anxious attachment, but when I calm myself down and I bring myself back to healthy attachment, I'm able to just focus on the love that I have for her right now, in this moment, right, and so you get to cultivate the emotion that you want instead, regardless of what the circumstances may bring.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I think that's the important thing, because when we're attached to something, it's because that person, place or thing makes us feel something that we don't think we can feel for ourselves. So what is that emotion that they're making you feel and how can you tap into that on your own? So for me, like with my dog, the example I gave it's pure love, right, it's pure, unconditional love. So I recognize my fear, I recognize that, no matter what, I will be okay and I will be grateful for the love that she's brought to my life, and then I just focus on that love and I just see her face and I feel the love in my heart and I let that expand and that then brings in more of that into my reality. Okay, okay, why do I feel? No, we didn't, we didn't skip anything. Okay, number four emotional alchemy.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So for many of us, we've learned to suppress most of our emotion. Okay, and this has been very deliberate, and this is a lot of the work that I do. If you've ever worked with me one-on-one, you know that we do this a lot. I believe that emotions are our most powerful energy and resource, and I think the reason why we've all been discouraged by feeling them is because it does keep us very much in a disempowered state where we're now reliant reliant on the world around us to make us feel something that we can't tap into internally. And the reason why we have that problem is because we've been taught to shut off all of our negative emotion, or what the world sees as negative emotion.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Right, teachings for this went back as far as, like you know, biblical times, you know? Well, I actually don't know. I don't know when the story of Pandora was written. Actually, it's a myth, right, mythology is a big thing in my house. I grew up with orthodox. I don't know when Pandora, the story of Pandora was written. To be honest, I don't. I don't have a clue.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:What I do know is that Pandora was given a box by her husband and she was told never to ever ever open said box. Okay, okay, yeah, tell, give a woman a box and tell her never to open it and see what happens. It's almost like. It's almost like. But he wanted her to open the box, like he was begging her to. Okay, honey, here's a box, but you have to promise me you're not gonna open it. Okay, yeah, sure he was. It was like he was basically begging her to open. Please, I beg you to. As soon as I leave the house for work, as soon as I'm out the door and I hop in my car, as soon as you hear my car out of the driveway, open that fucking, you know, but anyway. So in doing so, she unleashed all this like toxic emotion onto humanity. Right, so right away.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, we're conditioned not to feel our feelings. We're conditioned not to feel rage. We're conditioned not to feel anger. We're conditioned not to feel hate. We're conditioned not to feel guilt or shame, all of which has kept us codependent on the world around us to distract us from the emotions that we're holding onto and suppressing inside. So now we're dependent on the world around us to distract us from the emotions that we're holding onto and suppressing inside. So now we're dependent on the world around us to make us feel anything other than all of the shit that we've suppressed internally. So we need our environment to make us feel joy. We need our environment to make us feel love. We need our environment to make us feel peace and harmony. And that's just bullshit, right? And because we have all the suppressed stuff going on inside, it's completely mucked up our energetic signature. We're like all a bunch of highly strung, emotionally charged ping pong balls in a ping pong machine, like firing off on one another Because we're holding on to so much internally and we're acting it out like we're acting it out and projecting it on one another and harming one another and hurting one another and projecting our crap on one another instead of actually doing the internal work.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:When we start to reverse that, when we start to actually feel through all of our emotional, when we start to feel through the uncomfortable emotions and start to process them and allow them to be there and to move through this and to express themselves and, to you know, use them as powerful guideposts in our life right, as markers, as directional errors and guides. Once we allow those emotions to kind of move through us gently and just kind of be present with them in the process and breathe our way through them until they kind of naturally settle down, then we can tap into any emotion we want, and we don't need anyone or anything externally to make us feel that way. Like, imagine not having to go out and buy a new outfit to feel good about yourself. Imagine not needing somebody like the perfect man to propose to you on one foot in order to feel lovable. Imagine not having to you know, mortgage your life away to have this amazing home that you can't really afford until you've mortgaged yourself for the next 50 years to pay it off, to feel good about yourself and to feel like you're successful.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know All these things, that, all these ways that we would take our power back if we could actually stop help, like seeking our outside world to soothe us, to distract us, to convince us that we don't need to worry about our worth, or or all the the emotions that we're avoiding, that we've buried so deep inside. We can just keep turning to the world and stay addicted to it to distract us from it, rather than making the conscious choice to say no, I'm going to actually move through and acknowledge and enjoy feeling my feelings and trust that it's all helping and aiding my evolution in a beautiful way, even if it is uncomfortable in the moment it's going to pass. You know, we're meant to feel everything. We're meant to feel and process every emotion. We're meant to feel it fully, and it's all meant to expand us, it's all meant to transform us, even the stuff that we've been told is bad, even from the personal development community.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We've been told it's bad. It's not, it's what we think about it that makes it bad. We think it's bad. We've been told it's bad. It's not. It's what we think about it that makes it bad. We think it's bad, we've been told it's bad, and so, therefore, we think it's bad. And so when we think it, we immediately start to spiral that we're doing something wrong. We're nuts, we're nuts. Yeah, it's uncomfortable, yeah, we don't like it.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But the worst thing we can do is, number one, suppress it. And number two, project it, which usually comes after we've suppressed it long enough, we start projecting it on people around us, right? So what if we just felt it? What if we just felt it and allowed it to be there and didn't make it mean anything about who we are, what we're worth or what we deserve in this life, and just allow it to be present and allow it to guide us, and allow it to deliver a message for us in terms of how we want to live and shape our life, and then just let it, like you know, think of it as a guest coming over for coffee, like they're going to come, they're going to tell you everything they need to tell you. They're going to get it all off the chest and be like, okay, I got to go now, I got to go pick up the kids from school, boom out, and now you can move on and do whatever else you wanted to do or feel whatever else you wanted to feel, because you've allowed, you were present with it and you allowed it to be there and you allowed it to live its purpose. Because, believe it or not, every emotion has a purpose and once it's done, you can choose.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, now I want to. I felt that hate, I felt that anger, I felt that rage. Now I just want to tap into a little bit of peace, or maybe I want to tap into some joy, which is something that I've actually been working on a lot lately After doing a lot of rage processing over the last couple of weeks. Let me be clear so how do you do this? So you feel it fully, you sit with that emotion. You try not to distract or soothe yourself from it. Just let it be there. Have a good cry. If you need to Scream into a distract or soothe yourself from it, just let it be there. Have a good cry.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you need to Scream into a pill, rage, journal it out, whatever makes it easier to get that those emotions moving, you know, depending on whether or not you're in a parasympathetic state or whatever, you know, if you feel depressed, you know you can just journal it out or cry it out. If you feel like, where it's very activated and aggressive, you could, you know, have a like, you know, rigorous workout. You could punch a pillow, you know whatever in that moment is going to help you move through that emotion in a way that feels aligned. Just, you know, just do that. And then, you know, once you kind of started to calm yourself down, you feel like you've cried enough, you've screamed enough, you punched enough, you've written enough.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You just ask that emotion. Why are you here? What is it that you're trying to show me or tell me that I'm not seeing? And how do I apply that to my life today? And just allow that to be there and then think about what that message means. Why is that message showing up? Where have you maybe, like, maybe, betrayed yourself a little bit or kind of went against what you deem valuable or important to you, or where to maybe need to set boundaries? And then you know, once you've kind of figured out how that applies to your life and and and what you're going to do with it, then choose a different emotion, you know. Choose a different emotion, um, and you have the power to do that, but don't do that until you've come back to neutral. Okay, very, very, very important. Um, okay.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Number five we have more. This might need to be a two-part episode, you guys, this is getting long. So intention number five is intention. So hoping that the world is going to create what you want it to create is a waste of time. We know this. We have to create our days and our experiences with intention. Um, this is where we're taking our power. We're not giving our power away to the people, places and things around us to show up the way we want them to. We are going to take that power back and choose how we want things to work out. Now. We're not. We are not going to put our intentions on how other people show up. That is their choice, okay. Remember that everybody has free will choice and you may not agree with what they're doing or like it, but that is their choice, okay.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The important thing is is that you set the intention for what you want. So, what do you want out of your work experience today? What do you want to get out of your day tomorrow? What do you want to get out of this conversation that you're going to have with this person that's been kind of weighing on you for the last like several days? You know, think about whatever the thing is, whether it's your day the next day, or if you're doing this in the morning, the day that you're about to have, or the work that you're going to walk into, the meeting that you're going to walk into, the conversation that you're going to walk into I want you to set an intention and decide how you want things to work out for you, or how you want to feel at the end of it when it's done, even though it may not look the same.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Like you know, if you're working, if you're walking into a difficult conversation, that person might be upset. You know they might not like what you have to say, and that's okay, right, but how do you want to feel at the end of it? I want to feel like I've said my piece. I want to feel like I've said everything that I've had to say and I don't want to have that awful feeling like I left something unsaid. But I also want to feel good about how I said it, like I want to do it in a way that um is alignment with my values, so that I'm I'm you know I'm, I'm doing it in a respectful way, right, in a way, not in a way that I feel icky about after you know, and maybe that's an intention. So it's all about you, not about other people. It's about you and how you feel and what you take from something and how you walk away from something.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, so set that intention always before you know if it's like just, I try to do this actually in the morning, every morning when I do my morning practice, but you can do it the night before you go to bed, or you can just do it when you have, like, big events coming up. You know you. Maybe if you have a date coming up, a first date, maybe you're setting the intention that you know what. No matter what, I'm going to have a good time, I'm going to show up as my best self. I'm going to show up as my best self. I'm going to feel confident, um, and I'm just going to let the pieces fall where they may. You know, um, and so that is really taking your power back from people, places and thing to make you feel something, and you're choosing how you're going to feel at the end of it, regardless of how situations unfold. Okay, let's see what else have we got here, oh, and then you know, once you've kind of set your intention, I want you to see and feel what that outcome will look like or feel like for you, like what would it feel to be in that, in that energy, when it's all said and done, and then be grateful for it as in as though, as though it's already happened, but very important again.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Going back to number three, we have to remain very unattached from that outcome of what, like how the other person's showing up, how things are going to unfold, like. All of that stuff is not up to us. Everything in life is a co-creation. Yes, we have a say, but so does everyone else, and so does our highest good has a say, but so does everybody else's highest good, and if what you want or what you've decided is best for you is not in the highest good of everyone involved, you're going to have a really hard time with that one.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The same Okay, sixence, so important, and this is something that I think for the longest time I struggled with. I still have to pull myself back sometimes, because I am a bit of a daydreamer too. So this is about worrying about things that have happened, worrying about things that may happen in the future, or not even worrying, like thinking, thinking about things or worrying about things that have happened, worrying or thinking about things that might or that haven't happened yet, or about thinking or worrying about something that's going on in a whole other part of the world of where you are right and that you have no control over. Again, what do you have control over? Right? Bring yourself back to where you are right now, not the past, not the future, not imagining being someplace else. Oh my God, if I have one more daydream about me being like in Hawaii, surfing, I'm going to lose my shit and actually the last thing that I want right now is to travel. The last thing I want right now is to travel, maybe a short trip, but not a lengthy trip like that. My whole body aches just thinking about it right now, actually.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you know, always bring yourself back to the present moment where you are right now. Right here, right now, in this moment, when you feel yourself kind of floating off to another timeline, space or reality, bring yourself back to the present moment. This is where all your power is. Again. Your energy is out there, your mind is out there. Your mind is out there, so your energy is all up in here processing it. We're going to bring all of your feeling and your knowing and your sensory, your senses, here so that your energy can be out there working for you and magnetizing for you. Okay, so a good, a good way to do this.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The hard part really is catching yourself. That's the hard part. Once you've caught yourself, it's pretty easy. You're going to go through your five senses. What do you smell, what do you see, what do you hear, what do you feel? Right, wait, taste. I'm like I'm forgetting one. What do you taste? So, activate all your five senses in this moment. What do you see, what do you hear, what do you feel, what do you smell, what do you taste? And that will help bring you back to the present moment in reality. And keep doing that until you can kind of you know, imagine yourself kind of anchoring in there and anchor into that present moment, and keep doing that until you feel like you've anchored in and that you're no longer like kind of floating off into the ether somewhere.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I'm telling you, I was notorious for this. I was always daydreaming about something. Daydreaming can be great because it's like a visualization exercise, but it can also yank you out of the present moment if you can't be content with where you are. Manifestation is great, like it's great to visualize things and set intentions, but if you can't be happy where you are right now or find some sort of joy or something to feel good, it's that feel good energy, it's how you feel, that magnetizes what you manifest, right. And so that's why, like feeling your uncomfortable emotions is so important because otherwise it just gets stuck in you and that's where you're manifesting from. You actually want to feel them, you actually want to move through them, you actually want to allow them to take all the time that they want to move through you and then, when you're neutral, choose a different emotion. Right? There's always ebb and flow, always, and we need to honor that.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We've been focused too much on trying to deny one half of who we are as human beings, one half of our energy, one half of our identity, one half of our emotional experience, and put all our focus onto the other half. Right, we can't. We have to learn to live and play in both, otherwise why even like, that's the whole part, that's, the miracle of being a human being is that we get to live in duality, right? So we have to stop avoiding duality. I think that's the human condition that I think gets us into trouble all the time.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, number, should we end this here? I'm debating you guys. I have three more. Okay, let's just try and get through these quickly if we can.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, so number seven is connection. So this is really important, especially if you are a people pleaser. Okay, you're always worrying about what to say, what people are thinking, how they're perceiving you, what witty thing to say next in order to be liked or entertaining or or not to trigger somebody or not to upset somebody. You know connection is, you know we've made it mean, I don't know, I don't know how we got here, but connection has become, if you're, especially if you're, a people pleaser, connection has become all about how we're portrayed or perceived or, um, how we're portrayed or perceived or how we show up versus and this is what connection really is active listening and relaxing into the moment with someone, with, you know, inter exchanging with someone and being able to kind of meet them at the heart. That's where connection happens. It happens in the heart space. But again, we're all up in here, all up in here, and we're trying to think of what to say and what's witty and what's funny and what's right and what's true and what do they want to hear versus.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:How does this feel being in this interaction with this person? You still get to have boundaries, right, you still get to have boundaries. You still get to practice discernment. Of course that never goes away. But how can you settle into an experience with somebody that nurtures and creates connection? We do that by dropping into our heart space and active listening. So feeling what the other person is saying, feeling what's coming across from them and relaxing into that present moment and being present with them fully Again, not someplace else, not having a conversation with this person and thinking about what your to-do list like, okay, this person better finish saying what they're saying, because they're taking forever to get this out and I go do a million other things. Right, we do this, we do this. Like I have like hours of okay, I have like I still have like 20 social media posts to plan. So can we like get this conversation on right? And so you know how can we you know we don't have to do this every time, we don't, we don't always have the time to drop everything and you know, practice active listening with everybody that we come into contact with and so set the boundary. You know, now is not a good time for me, actually. Can we come back to this and come back when you can be fully present, be fully there? So practice presence and then practice active listening and feeling what that person is trying to tell you.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:A really good exercise that I do often when we do group sessions is we get in front of one another. I actually got this from another coach that I worked with in the beginning of my journey. It's such a great exercise. So, basically, you sit in front of one another. You don't say a word, or you can do this one of two ways. You can say something that's on your mind or you can just stay quiet and while you're talking, the other person is feeling what you're saying and they're totally attentive to what it is that you're saying, what it is that you're the feeling that you're putting across. Then they write a little message to you Again, and I've seen this used where you know is just thinking something, and then that person is writing a message back to you. And that's actually more powerful if you do it that way and then you exchange. You do that for one, each other, and then, once you're done, you exchange your messages.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Some of these messages that come through when just tuning into people's energy and how their energy body is feeling, and tuning into that and focusing on that, like the way that people feel, seen, witnessed and heard, is absolutely miraculous. You guys, okay, you basically just want to relax into the present moment and imagine feeling what the other person is saying, not just hearing it and really imagining a heart-to-heart connection between them. And you can see that as kind of like, not an attachment, like a cord of attachment, but energy, kind of coming back and forth from one heart to the other and making a heart connection with that person. And you can do this with everybody. It doesn't have to be just with partners. It could be with friends, it could be with co-workers, it could be with family members. You can practice this with everybody.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But again, be real about when you can and can't practice this, like if you don't have the time to really connect with somebody in that moment. Be honest, you know, don't fake it, because people can feel that and that that actually creates that, creates a um, a fracture in connection. When we try to pretend like we're really there and we're not, that can be perceived as you know we're not being, um, vulnerable, or it could be perceived as you know we're being insensitive. Or it could be perceived as you know we're being insensitive. You know, whatever the case may be, be really honest about that, okay.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Next number eight authenticity hiding who you are because of what you think people will think or how they'll feel You're afraid you won't be loved. You know that is actually sabotaging you more than you'll ever know. We talked about this in a previous episode. Your authentic self, who you are at the core, is key to attracting and magnetizing the people, places and things that are going to light your soul on fire. Okay, but if we keep hiding that and pretending to be something that we're not, that's why we keep attracting people, places and things that don't really align with us, that don't feel good to us, that kind of drain our energy to be around, because they're not made for the authentic version of who we are. They're made for some other version that we've fabricated because that's what we think we need to be. So I shared this practice in another episode a couple weeks ago. So same thing.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I want you to take your relationships into three categories for this. Okay, I want you to take who you are with your friends, who you are with your family and who you are at work, because that's usually where we have the most discrepancy, right? I want you to take who you are with your family, who you are with your friends and who you are with work. I want you to write down who you're being. So characteristics characteristics I'm coming with and then you can write down, like, who you're being with each of those groups and who are you hiding. So what parts of yourselves are you hiding? So two lists for each, and of the ones that you're being, I want you to scratch out anything that's fake Like, just scratch it out.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Scratch out anything that's fake that you're putting on a show with, okay, and then I want you to see where you're being your most authentic self. Usually this is with family or friends, depending, right, and I want you to imagine, like if you were to be all of who you are. Like, now that you've scratched out the fake parts, you have a good idea of who your authentic self is. So how can you start to add some of those parts to yourself that maybe you're hiding? Or how do you like, how can you stop trying to pretend that you're something that you're not in all of those different buckets and what would that look like? And maybe it's just implementing one at a time and you know just showing the world who you are a little, slowly right and slowly becoming.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know putting away this idea that you have to constantly be altering or confining, um, or you know molding yourself to fit your environment and just trying to be as authentic as you can across the board, cause that's what's actually going to make you magnetic, understandably. You know there's stuff about yourself that you probably wouldn't want to show Like I'm a potty mouth. I probably wouldn't want to bring that to the office. You know Probably wouldn't, and you know I probably wouldn't be as strategic as I am in the office when I am with family and friends. That's fine, I'm okay with that. But everything else, everything else should be pretty consistent, you know. So there will be some nuance, yes, but for the most part, your personality, who you are, should be consistent with all three boxes. So keep checking those three columns, right, keep checking those three columns to see how you can move more parts of you, um, unhide more parts of you, show more parts of you. And, you know, just keep scratching out the stuff that's inauthentic until you become the fullest, most authentic and express version of yourself. In all of these circumstances, okay, um, and last but not least, oh my God, we did it. I think we're at. Oh my God, we're at. An hour and five minutes, I think, give or take, because I had to cut off the call in midway.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Energy mastery and calling your power back. This is really important. You guys, this is going to be the biggest thing in terms of what makes you magnetic as you navigate the world around you. We give our power away to so many people for approval, for permission, for a paycheck, for a grade to be chosen. In relationship, like for so many things, we give our power away to so many people and we jump through hoops trying to gain that approval, permission or the being chosen, or getting the grade, or getting the raise, or getting the promotion or whatever. And, like I said, this goes back to that whole attachment. As soon as you think you need something, you've already kind of lost a piece of yourself. So this is where we start to call all those pieces of you back. This is where we start to call your power back.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, so the first part to this.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:There's two parts. The first part to this is to take note what environments you feel energized by and what environments you feel drained by. Okay, this is very, very, very important. So I want you to have like a list Again. Maybe you can use the same list family, friends, work, and obviously work will be draining, obviously, like you know I always say like you know. I mean I think everybody should do the thing that they would do for free, because then it doesn't even feel like work. Yes, I'm a firm believer of that and that's why, you know, this is so important to me, because I do.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:In many ways, there's a lot of the podcast like I pretty much do do for free, like I don't really make anything off the podcast. Yes, it brings me some clients here and there, but, like I mean, this is my passion. You know, this is something that I truly enjoy doing and I cannot wait for the opportunity to monetize it more. This is something that I truly enjoy doing and I cannot wait for the opportunity to monetize it more. But you know, that being said, many people, we always have to do things that we don't want to, not always, sometimes. Okay, here's the thing this is shifting and I'm not ready to have this conversation just yet here on the podcast. But we are shifting out of this paradigm where we feel like we need to trade our time and energy for money. That's all shifting, but that is not my conversation. I will leave it. I'm not ready to have that just yet. What I am ready to say right now is that, yeah, there'll be some trading time for money and you'll be having to.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know we all have to do things that you know maybe we don't really enjoy that much, Like I know that there's some aspects of even just the business that I don't really enjoy a hell of a lot. Like I don't appreciate all the back end work. I don't. I don't appreciate trying to, you know, create the emails and the landing pages, and it's not fun for me, you know. But I do have to do it and it is part of, you know, living my passion and doing the things that I love doing, and maybe one day I'll be able to hire somebody to do that part for me, but for now I do it on my own. So, but the point is, overall, you should, it should be something that you get something out of that gives you some sort of energy back, which this does right. So, yes, although I have to do some tasks that are draining and tedious I don't want to do it but for the purpose of this, overall, when I'm looking at it, I do get energy back because I'm doing something that I feel very passionate, excited about, and we should all have that.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And if you don't have that in your career, find it. Find a project that excites you in your workplace, or find a department that you can like volunteer with to get that experience from, or find a mentor that can do something to give you that, because that is very important. I just got completely derailed. So you're going to assess those three areas. You know your relationships, your friendships, your family, your work. Where do you feel your energy come alive? Where do you feel your energy pumped and flourishing, and where do you feel it sort of becoming depressed or depleted? Pay attention and, once you start to get a clear picture of what is creating more energy for you, do more of those things and less of the stuff that deplete you. That's going to help bring your energy back online and get you back into your magnetic state. And then another thing that you can do is you start to call your energy back from all the people, places and things that you gave it away to.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So these are the people who broke your heart. These are the people who made you feel insecure. Maybe they cheated on you, maybe they lied to you. Maybe they mistreated you. Maybe they took advantage of you. Maybe they bullied you. Maybe they put you down, maybe, whatever, whatever they fired you. You know all those people that you kind of left a piece of yourself with because you felt you didn't feel like you were good enough, or you felt like you know, that experience that you had with them somehow made you feel less about yourself or less worthy or not, as made you feel not good enough or not valuable enough or whatever, whatever enough you imagine.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Or this can also be and I've used this many times if there's somebody in your life where you feel like you're constantly thinking about them and they're constantly on your mind, or you're always afraid of what this person's going to think of you, right? We have that one person where you know when you, when you're deciding on whether or not to do something, you always say, well, how's that person going to respond, right, or what are they going to think, or what reaction are they going to have? Or maybe it's just even sometimes it's somebody who you know you had a relationship with or an exchange with and for some reason they're still on your mind, like ages later, years later, even right. That's when you know there's like a power imbalance in that dynamic. So here's a practice that I love to share with my clients and I do with myself many, many, many times. So you're going to imagine there's an energetic cord between you.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, so this is a visualization exercise. So you're going to imagine there's an energetic cord between you and said thing. You can even do this with money, because so much of our world has taught us to be dependent and give our power away to money. So you can take your money back from your power by doing this, and I've done this quite a bit. So what you're going to do is you're going to imagine a chord between you and person or said thing, and what you're going to do is you're going to imagine the energies between you balancing out.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You give back what's theirs, you take back what's yours. You give back what's theirs, you take back what's yours, you even out the playing field and then you start to see yourself getting bigger and stronger and elevated and then, when you feel complete, you snip that cord. It's like a cord cutting ceremony, but it's different. You know, just, you know I don't like cord cutting ceremonies, because people always forget the important part, which is to rebalance the energy between the two energies. Right, sometimes we cut the cord before we've done the balancing and we end up feeling we're never incomplete, but we feel incomplete, we feel like there's still like something off balance between the two. So bring the energies into balance.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:First, take back what's yours, give back what is theirs. Do this in the highest vibration of love and light, obviously, and then cut the cord between the two of you and send them off. Just if you can send them off, if they're still in your life, then I love you. But please stop. Can't put up a boundary right so that if you can do one of these nine things every day, pick and choose whatever floats your boat. Maybe try each of these practices for the next nine days, one a day, or maybe do one every day for one week to really like whatever. Whatever works for you, but literally doing one of these is enough to get your energy back and magnetized within minutes. Because, again, remember you're. You're taking back, worrying and attaching to what's going on externally and what your environment is doing and what people in your environment doing. You're bringing all that power back internally and conserving all that mental energy that you've been wasting trying to process all that data and information. And now your energy can be out there in the world making a magnetic impact in doing what it's supposed to do for you. So let me know which one of these really spoke to you. I'm really curious. Remember we had nine? I know it's a lot.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So again, I'm going to try and post like a cheat sheet on my carousels or something on my social medias.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So make sure you're following me at the Femcast and there's also going to be there's also going to be a download for you. I'm going to leave the details down below where you can get this masterclass, plus all the other series in the playlist. Plus you're going to get affirmations and journal prompts to really just start to what's it called just energetically integrate everything that we're talking about here today. Just energetically integrate everything that we're talking about here today. And then the following conversations are really going to be more about you know how some of these you know restrictions or oppressions, how they've impacted us through time, how did the evolution of the feminine and how she's kind of come to this point of healing and rising, and some of some of the hindrances and supports that have kind of come along the way, and how we can continue to support this journey forward as a collective. So really, really, really powerful conversations. I can't wait to share them with you guys, until next time. Massive love.
