The Femme Cast
Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship cycles, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria — Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor.
I work with the women who are cycle breakers, grid shakers, and truth layers — the brave souls who came here to dismantle the inherited beliefs that told them they had to chase love, prove their worth, and beg to be chosen.
I help them break free from the karmic cycles and generational patterns that keep them stuck in toxic relationships and self-abandonment — so they can unapologetically choose themselves, reclaim their inherent worth, and become magnetic to soul-aligned love, expansive opportunities, and the liberated life they were born to lead.
Without ever shrinking, settling, or self-abandoning again.
I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, begging to be chosen, and abandoning myself again and again in the name of love. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
Join me as we say goodbye to self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics, and hello to radical self-love, emotional freedom, and true empowerment.
It’s time to reclaim the version of you who never had to beg to be chosen.
You ready?
Let’s do this.
The Femme Cast
Stop Watering Yourself Down To Please Them: How Authenticity Unlocks Love, Success & Your Highest Potential
Have you ever felt like you’re living two (or three) different lives—shifting your personality, silencing your needs, or watering yourself down just to be accepted? The truth is, every time you hide your authentic self, you’re not only draining your energy—you’re unconsciously sabotaging your relationships, your career, and even your ability to reach your highest potential.
In this episode of The Femme Cast, I pull back the curtain on the hidden cost of inauthenticity and reveal how trying to be a "palatable" version of yourself keeps you stuck in a cycle of burnout, unfulfilling relationships, and missed opportunities. We’ll unpack:
🎤 Why compartmentalizing yourself across work, family, and friendships blocks you from real connection
🎤 How pretending to be more flexible, easy, or accommodating than you truly are repels aligned people and opportunities (even if it once worked for survival)
🎤 The massive energy drain of living life as a “16-hour-a-day performance” instead of your authentic default setting
🎤 Why showing up as a crisp white shirt pretending to be a sleek black turtleneck will never magnetize what’s actually meant for you
🎤 A simple yet powerful daily practice to step into more authenticity, attract aligned love, and create success without sacrificing who you are
The journey to your next level of love, fulfillment, and abundance doesn’t come from becoming “more” of anything—it comes from stripping away the layers of performance and remembering that your truest self is your greatest magnet.
If you’ve ever wondered why you feel drained, stuck, or unseen—even though you’re doing “all the right things”—this episode will feel like the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.
Because here’s the truth: You will never reach your highest potential as a watered-down version of yourself. The moment you stop performing and start embodying your whole self is the moment you unlock the love, opportunities, and freedom that have been waiting for you all along.
Tune in now, and let’s talk about how to stop hiding, start aligning, and finally step boldly into the life that was made for the real you.
PS: Still bending, chasing, and settling? That ends now.
In a 90-min Sacred Reclamation Intensive, you’ll break the cycle, reclaim your power, and step into the woman who never begs to be chosen. Spots are limited — grab yours here: 👉 [Book now]
But fair warning—authentic connections, aligned opportunities, and breakthroughs in love, money, and purpose are inevitable.
You guys, what is up? And welcome back to the show. I'm so excited and grateful that you're here. In this episode we're gonna be talking a lot about how powerful the powerful connection between your authentic self-expression and the ability to magnetize the right people, places and opportunities and experiences into your life, and the two are so much more powerfully related than I used to realize, honestly, when I was younger. But now it totally makes sense to me, but I didn't always know that then. So we're going to talk about how we and we talked a lot about this in the ASMR healing that we did at the beginning of the month, right In the month of August, where we talked about how we compartmentalize ourselves to fit into different environments, different relationships and we know we have all these different versions of ourselves that we bring to the table at each and every interaction or environment and how that dilutes our energy.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Right, this is actually taking that one step further. You know, when you're silencing your needs, watering yourself down, pretending to be, you know something that you're not, or easier or more flexible or more accommodating than you really are, how it's unintentionally having the opposite effect of what we want, because what we usually want when we do those things. We want to be loved, we want to be accepted, we want to be, we want to feel like we're part of the tribe, we want to feel like we've pleased everyone around us. But what we don't realize is that that behavior works when we're younger, but then at some point, it stops working and it actually starts to repel very powerfully, I might add or at the very least, it starts to attract all the wrong people into our life and all the wrong opportunities into our life and into our reality. So we're going to talk about recognizing how, you know, hiding different parts of ourself or compartmentalizing ourselves in general is blocking your success in love and career and various other opportunities. We're going to talk about how to step boldly into your authentic self and let your true self be seen in all of these different areas, and how to use your authenticity to attract, you know, more aligned relationship, deeper connections and opportunities that match your highest potential. Okay, and that is really important. So here's what we're going to. So here's where we're going to start today. So, first of all, I want to I want to touch on that note that we just ended off, those two words that we just ended with, which were highest potential.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You cannot reach your highest potential by being a fake ass version of yourself or a watered down version of yourself. Let's just, let's just, let's just say that We'll end this episode, we'll call it there, take that away, have a think on it, let me know what you come back with. Okay, you cannot, you will not. I can guarantee you. You will not ever reach your full potential as long as you water yourself down, keep yourself small, hide parts of yourself right. You have to bring your whole self to your life and to your experiences if you really and truly want to reach your full potential.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And this is hard, this is not always easy, because we just want to be liked. We want to be liked, we want to be fit in. We want to fit in, we want to please everybody, and so we kind of tend to edit ourselves a lot and alter ourselves a lot and camouflage different parts so that we are adaptable, palatable. Love that word palatable, yes, no, let's not be that. But in doing so, we will never, ever ever reach our full potential. Okay, and so, as difficult and as uncomfortable as it might be, the challenge for us is to how do we show up more like our authentic selves each and every day.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And if that can be your process, if that can be your process, if you can come to every day, come wake up every morning, get out of bed, stretch. You know, if you're like me, you walk with one eye closed immediately to the coffee maker, you push your button to make your coffee. If you haven't actually set the alarm because I never actually do that I'm notorious about like in case I like sleep in, I want my coffee to be, like, perfectly made. I don't want it to sit there if I happen to like hit the snooze one too many times. So if you're like me, you've made your coffee from the night before. You have everything ready and prepped. All you have to do is push the button and then you pour your cup of coffee and then you start your day. So if you can do that, if you can have a nice stretch and get out of bed and push the button and make your fresh cup of coffee and sit down and ask yourself how can I be more myself today than I was yesterday, then you're good. You're good Every little day. Every day you do something little to bring you closer to your true authentic self, your true, authentic expression and to do so in every area of life as much as you can.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Understanding, obviously there's certain parts of you that you can't bring to work, I get it. And understanding, obviously there's certain parts of you that you can't bring to work, I get it, but for the most part, like you should, you may not be able to bring all your quirks to work, but you can bring your personality to work, you know. And if you can't, then maybe you have the wrong job, you know. You know it's like they say you have to get the. You know when people always say this when they go shopping for wedding dresses, you have to get. The people always say this when they go shopping for wedding dresses you have to get the dress that fits the bride, not the bride to fit the dress. It's the same thing. You have to get the job that fits the person, not the person to fit the job. So think about that. And I'm not saying quit your job tomorrow, but I am saying have a think about whether or not you're really in alignment if you have to really and completely alter yourself in order to get to your job day to day. So have a think. That's some homework I leave with you. Okay, think on that.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But I want you to be aware of how and why, when you're hiding parts of yourself, you are blocking yourself from the relationships you want, from the opportunities you want, from the career you want, many times even the money. I know I've learned this the hard way because you guys know I've shared my financial challenges with this group before. Like I've told you guys, like you know, I am not a stranger to financial collapse. I am not a stranger to you know losing my business. You know losing jobs. You know I've been through some stuff, right, and that's why I'm up here telling, talking to you guys, you know, every single week, because I get to share what it is that I've learned from those experiences. Right, and a lot of it did come down to I was being an inauthentic version of myself. Sorry, I'm just gonna take a sip of water really quick, sorry, guys.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So when we're looking at, you know hiding parts of ourselves and how it impacts the type of people and opportunities, let's just, you know, the best example is you know you're a blue shirt, you're a blue shirt. Who doesn't love a blue shirt? Actually, I don't love a blue shirt. Let's come up with another example. You're a white men's shirt. I love a nice white men's shirt, especially in the fall. Oh, I love it. It looks so good. You can wear it with a blazer, you can wear it on its own, you can wear it with jeans, especially if it's oversized. Right, I love a white men's shirt, but maybe the look of the season is a black turtleneck.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So now you're out there trying to be a black turtleneck, a fitted black knit turtleneck, when really your nature is to be a crunchy. I don't know if crunchy is the right word, but you know what I mean. Like that, that cotton, neat of twilly kind of fabric, that shirts are, that crisp men's shirt fabric. Right, you're a cotton, crisp, collared, loose, fitting men's shirt in white, not black. Now you're starting to now. But now you see, the market is like everybody. Oh, but nobody wants white men's shirt anymore. Everybody wants a black turtleneck. You know, nobody's going to want me. Everybody wants black turtlenecks. Now I've got to morph myself to be a black turtleneck.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Do you know how much energy it would take that white shirt to become a black turtleneck? Just think about that for a second. No, I'm kidding, that's just a silly example, but you know what I'm trying to say. Number one when you try to become something that you're not, you're burning a lot of energy because it takes so much energy for you to be anything other. Your authentic self, anything your authentic self is your default setting. You don't have to think about that, okay, you don't have to try at that. You don't have to strategize how to be that. You simply are. I think you know I was.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I just finished my trauma certification course and I think there was a stat in there and don't quote me on this I should probably have Googled this, but I didn't know. I was going to pull the stat out during this conversation, but I think there was, if I'm not mistaken, the. The number was and please don't quote me the 95% of the energy that our body uses is our brain and that's just regular day-to-day function, right? So our brain uses a lot of our energy. So can you imagine now adding to our day-to-day, like our daily activities, that the brain normally does and normal thinking processes the brain normally does? Can you now add to that the full-time job beyond full-time, like the, how many hours are in a day? 24. We sleep for eight, let's say maybe. So how many hours are left. How many does that make 16?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Can you imagine the 16 hour a day job of trying to be anything other than who you are and having to filter each and every one of your responses, your reactions, every little thing that you say, every little thing that you think, every action you take through this lens of trying to be something other than who you are? Can you imagine for one second the amount of energy that would take? Tons, tons of energy, tons. Like you are in deficit now, okay, you are literally. This is where burnout happens. Right, because you're in a deficit, you're burning more energy than you actually have.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Right, and it's because you're spending so much of your energy trying to be this inauthentic version of yourself, trying to think of okay, well, what would this fake version of me say next, what would the fake version of me do? What would the fake version of me wear and how would the fake? What movie would the fake version of me want to go see? And I know I'm exaggerating, but you get the point of what I'm trying to say. Right, you're trying to be someone other than who you are. That takes thought, that takes strategizing, right, that takes premeditation Anytime you go somewhere or do anything so that you can figure out the steps that you're going to take, because you're not doing it from a place of authenticity, right, you're doing it from a place of strategizing, to fit in, to please, to prove something, to convince someone of something you know it's not coming from.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know who you naturally are and who you're naturally being right, and this is where sometimes I think, like you know, I'm a firm believer of embodiment work, but you know, to a degree like it does need to be aligned with who you really are, who you really want to be like, really, really at the core, want to be like. It has to be aligned for you. You know who you are right now and being able to be you in the moment and accept it fully and live from that place and be able to recognize your right to be loved, to have joy, to have fulfillment, to have success just from being who you are, that is probably one of the most self-loving stance we can take, and life has taught me that many times. They're not always easy lessons, you guys, okay. So just, life has taught me that many times. And they're not always easy lessons, you guys, okay. So just learn the lesson, honest to God.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So the first part, that the first way that it's blocking you is that it drains a lot of your energy, right. And so, with all that energy drain gone and, you know, constantly dealing with burnout, we have less energy stores available to actually do and create the opportunities and the relationships that would really be meaningful for us, because we're operating on a deficit. So now we don't have the energy to put into our passion project, we don't have the energy to make the lifestyle changes that we know would make us feel more fulfilled, we don't have the energy to invest in and nurture the relationships that we would really thrive in, because we're too busy wasting all our energy, being an inauthentic version of ourselves, and so we've left little energy for anything else. And that's literally what happens, because you do deplete so much energy that you don't. You know all these things that we want to do, goals that we have, dreams, aspirations they do take energy. They take energy, they take commitment. Sure, it's fun, sure, it's great and it's inspiring, but you know we have to be able to pull that energy from somewhere, otherwise we're just going to continue to burn out, to be able to pull that energy from some somewhere. Otherwise we're just going to continue to burn out. Um, and you know, yes, of course, doing the things that excite us and delight us always create energy as well as take energy. Obviously, they actually usually sometimes create more energy.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But when you're in a deficit right, when you're already burning yourself out and you start to add more to your list of things to do, it doesn't matter how much you like those things, sometimes you know that burnout just starts to snowball and you know you can't. It's like you know you can't charge yourself fast enough for how much you're burning through your energy stores. You know, like that little charge is just not enough. You're just going, going, going, going going and eventually you just burn out completely. And so you know that if you've worked really hard for something, if you're working towards a dream, a goal, a relationship, and suddenly you can't devote the time that it needs to really see it through, you know it could cost you a lot of opportunities. You know when you do that, you know because you're not energetically available to invest in the things that you want to see for yourself and the changes you want to make for yourself, you're not energetically able to invest in the relationships that you really want to see thrive. Because you're burning your and I know it sounds like I'm being dramatic, but I'm not Because you're burning your and I know it sounds like I'm being dramatic, but I'm not it gets to the point where it burns you out Because, again, this has now become your 16 hour a day job.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The only time you're not doing it is when you're sleeping right. For 16 hours a day you're trying to figure out who it is you need to be and who you need to show up as, and how you need to act and what you need to say and what you need to look like and how you could. It takes energy and you probably don't realize you're doing it because you've been doing it on default for so long. But it is there right and the way that you know that you're doing it the quickest one way. This is if you can look at who you are in your friendships and if you can look at who you are in your family and if you can look at who you are at your workplace and if you can look at who you are at any other place.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You spend significant amount of time churches, social clubs, whatever. Are you being the same person at each of those places or are you different? If you're a different person, chances are you're morphing yourself, you're hiding parts of yourself, you're diluting yourself or making yourself more palatable to fit into all these different places. If you're almost pretty much consistently the same person across the board, like I said, maybe you don't show all your quirks at work or whatever, maybe you don't swear as much and cuss as much at work, but you're still relatively the same person, then you're good. If you know that you're being a different person in all of those areas, like I used to be, you would see me at work. You'd be shocked If you, if you were somebody who knew me at work, you'd be shocked if you saw me at home. And if you were somebody who would spend time with me at home, he would be shocked if you saw me at work, shocked, my friends would be shocked by all of it. Who is this person? You know, and again, like leaving, like obviously you know there are quirks that we can't bring to all of these environments. Of course. Of course I'm not going to talk the way I talk with my friends, the way I talk with my co-workers and so forth, but you know, for the most part. We have to be able to show up as our authentic self.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:When I first started this podcast, I wasn't myself on the podcast. I don't know who I was. I listened to old episodes. I'm like, oh cringe.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But now I'm, you know, I'm able to be more myself, and that has come from always asking myself that question how can I bring more of myself to the day today? How can I bring more of myself to work today? How can I than I did yesterday? How can I bring more of myself to my relationships than I did yesterday? I bring more of myself to my relationships than I did yesterday. How can I bring more of myself to my podcast than I did yesterday?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Right, always asking myself how can I be more me?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:How can I bring more of me and stop?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Where am I hiding and why am I hiding that part of myself? And what would it look like if I stopped hiding? Right, maybe it would be uncomfortable, yeah, sure, but wouldn't it also be like a whole found sense of freedom? You know, to be able to out that and just like be open about who you really are and what you really want and what you're all about, rather than trying to pretend that you're something that you're not right. So I looked at it that way, and each day I literally challenged myself to say how can I be more myself each and every day?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So we talked about, you know, using all your energy trying to be something that you're not. But there's another way that it blocks you, and that is by false representing who you are. And so, therefore, the aligned opportunities and the aligned relationships that you're looking for, that would make your heart sore, that would make you shine from the inside out, can't see you Because you're this whole other version of yourself that they're not meant for. You know, they're meant for the white men's shirts, right? They're a perfect fit for the white men's shirt. They look awkward with a black turtleneck, so there ain't going to go for the black turtleneck, even though the black turtleneck is the more popular choice, right? But the things and now I'm trying to think of an accessory that doesn't go with a black turtleneck, that would go with a white shirt, and I can't think of one I'm like thinking a vest no, that would look cute About. No, that would look cute too.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:A tie you would never put a tie, or could you? I don't know, I wouldn't. I wouldn't put a tie with a black turtleneck. I would put a tie with a shirt, though, fuck yeah, and I would leave it nice and loose. Oh, it would look so super cute. I would not wear a tie with a black shirt.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So maybe the tie who would be the perfect fit for you, who would make you feel completely fulfilled and over the moon to spend time with, to invest energy in, to evolve with you know, whether it's a relationship or not, career opportunity or whatever it is, you know that tie ain't going to come looking for you because that tie is looking for white shirt, white shirt, white shirt where are you? White shirt, where are you? I can't see you. All I see is this black turtleneck. I ain't going, I ain't hanging out with that, because that's just going to look weird.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know that is literally what the people who are meant for you are doing. That is literally what the jobs that are meant for you are doing and that's literally what the opportunities are meant for you are doing. These are the things that would bring you joy, soul level, fulfillment. They can't see you. They are looking for you, but they cannot find you because you are wearing a mask and pretending to be someone else. What they need is you. Do you feel me on that, right? You think do you feel me on that right?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so you're missing out on so many things that would bring you joy and fulfillment and passion and inspiration, and instead you're forcing yourself to fit into these environments that, because are really looking for a black turtleneck, are never going to be happy with you because you have sold yourself under false pretense that you're a good fit for them. You've created this false illusion saying this is who I am. I am perfect for you. They've taken you on. You're expending all your energy trying to keep up this facade that you told them. I know I'm exaggerating, but believe me, take all of this, everything that I'm saying, with a grain of salt, because this is exactly what's happening on an energetic level. Everything that we're doing energetically is tenfold, okay? So, even though it sounds like I'm being a little dramatic, just go with me on this, okay?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You've told these people places, situations, opportunities, right Places of work that this is who you are, and you're expending all your energy trying to fit the mold that you created for yourself, right? And these places are starting to see the cracks in your story. They're starting to see the flaws. They're starting to see where the white men's shirt is starting to show through the seams of the black turtleneck. They invested in right, because you can only do it for so long before it starts to you know. People start to pick up that there's a lack of resonance there, that what you're saying is not really in alignment with who you're being, in alignment with who you're being right. And so you're around people now, where you're constantly having to work to please, where you're constantly having to work to prove that, are constantly doubting you because there's incongruency with who you say you are and who you're actually being. And so now you're stuck in these unfulfilling relationships that you're never going to fit into, that you're never going to feel like you can be yourself in, which is really draining. Now you're attracting more relationships that you can't feel like you're yourself in.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Oh my God, this is literally what led me to blowing up my life back in 2015, when I like packed my bags, sold everything, quit my job and, like hightailed it to Southeast Asia for like six months. Literally, that's what led to that right. It was a complete what do you want to call it? It was a complete profile. Collapse is what happened Because I just could not keep up with who I was pretending to be any more Like.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I needed to just drop the ball on that, because I was burnt out, I was exhausted, all my relationships were completely unfulfilling and never satisfied with anything because I was incongruent with who I said I was to, who I was actually being right. It was all based on a big, fat, ugly, fabricated lie and it was starting to fall apart and it was starting to show. And so what it cost me was really finding the right people, the right opportunities, the right career paths, the kind that would bring me joy and fulfillment, the kind that would create more energy. Rather than drain my energy, it would actually create more, a surplus of energy. So I could do and be and have so many more amazing things and experiences with and now I know better, obviously, but that was a very hard lesson learned back in the day. So you know how do you break that cycle?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Well, you know, when I was on my trip in Asia, you know, one of the beauties of being on that trip and being so far away from everyone and everything was being able to check in with myself and saying, well, what do I want this today. What do I want? What do I want? What do I want? I'm hearing what's his face? Was it Ryan Gosling? And, oh my God, that cute movie, oh, where he's. Oh, what was it the Notebook? I'm getting my movies mixed up? It was the Notebook when he's. Oh, what was it the notebook? I'm getting my movies mixed up? It was the notebook. Is that Ryan Gosling? Yeah, he was like what do you want? But what do you want? Like that, asking myself what do I want? What do I want to do today? What do I feel like? What do I need? What's important to me right now, what's important for me to do Right and how do I want to show up? How can I be more me today? You know, bring that. You know you don't have to like, you don't have to sell everything, quit your job and, you know, hightail it to Southeast Asia to do that. You can do that anywhere.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I just waited way too fucking long and my life blew up. Or I blew it up, I don't know, I'm not sure yet I think I'm pretty well. No, I am sure I did blow up my life. I did. I blew up my life. I did it very intentionally. Parts of it started to blow up on their own. But really, when you break it right down, I blew up my own life because I just couldn't do it anymore. I couldn't uphold the, I couldn't play the part anymore. I couldn't keep playing that same charade over and over again. It was too exhausting and it was too draining and I was done. I was so done.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So before you get to that point, you can start to ask yourself well, how can I show up more as myself today? How can I show up more of myself at work? How can I show up more as myself in my relationships? How can I show up more as myself in my family? How can I show up more of myself with my friends? What would more as myself and my family? How can I show up more of myself with my friends? You know what would it look like to be authentic.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Where am I different? Where am I showing up differently? Start there, even. Start with recognizing. Where are you showing up as a different person at work, versus with your friends, versus with family? And maybe even think about who you want to be right, because there's that whole other part that we don't often discuss, especially for people pleasers the who we want to be Like. Who are you when you're not pleasing everybody? Think about that. That's a very important question to ask yourself. If I wasn't worried about what everybody else said or thought about who I was being, who would I actually be? How would I actually show up? What are the things I would actually do? That is a very important question.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Start there, actually, and then start to look at where the differences are and then start to ask yourself well, how can I show up more as my authentic self in all of these different places, one by one, right, and just take that step to show up a little bit more of yourself in each of these areas, each and every day. And I promise you which, each step, these things that I share with you guys. It's always hard and uncomfortable at first because it's so tied in to so many of our core beliefs and wounds. But when you start to take those steps, the first step is always the hardest and then they get easier each and every time. You do it, I promise. And the last thing, you know, I want to say to you is when you do find who that authentic expression of you is, when you do find those aligned opportunities and those aligned relationships and those aligned careers and those aligned passions, purposes and interests. Just keep that momentum going and keep putting your energy into those things that feed you, that you get energy back from, and that is where you're going to create the momentum to really make positive impact and change and transformation and change and transformation.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I did this with the podcast. I did this with my practice. I did this with my last job, when I was working at the co-working space. Like, I just put my energy into all the things that really truly lit me up from the inside out and I let that be the juice that kind of saw me through my transformation. You know, I just used it, I milked it as far as I could and just used it to propel my transformation. Now, thankfully, this podcast is still here, because it's my favorite one out of all of them. So, and the practice is still here, obviously, the job, yeah, not so much, but whatever it is what it is, you know what I got, what I needed to get out of it, and then it was done, you know. So that is how I would use.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, go through your life, analyze who you're being, how you're showing up and where the incongruencies are where the misalignments are and who are you being in all the different places and who would you be if you didn't worry about what anybody else was thinking, saying or doing or whatever? And start there and make it very intentional, put it on your to-do list. Every day I'm going to show up a little bit more of myself than I did yesterday. And every morning you ask yourself what would that look like to show up more as myself? Maybe it's having a more honest conversation. Maybe it's saying no to something that I've been saying yes to. Maybe it's putting down the black turtleneck today and wearing the white men's shirt today that we love so much. You know, you know, maybe it's. Maybe it's. Maybe it is letting some of your quirks show at work or within your other relationship.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Whatever it is, whatever it is for you, make sure you make it, make sure you set the intention to do it every single day, that you show up a little bit more as yourself, and I promise you, each time you do it, it will get easier. It will get easier, I promise. I promise it may feel uncomfortable at first and that is okay. It's supposed to, because, listen, and if you take anything away from anything that I ever share with you. Take this If it doesn't feel uncomfortable. It's not fucking changing you, so it has to feel uncomfortable, and if it feels uncomfortable, it's because it's working. Okay, got it All right. So let me know, wherever you're seeing this in the notes, in the comments or whatever, or respond in an email what you're taking from this episode, what really stood out for you, what really like hit home for you. I'm curious, I want to know, and also, obviously, if you found this episode helpful, please, please, please, leave a positive rating and review on iTunes or Spotify or wherever you're seeing this. That is all for now, you guys.
