The Femme Cast
Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship cycles, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria — Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor.
I work with the women who are cycle breakers, grid shakers, and truth layers — the brave souls who came here to dismantle the inherited beliefs that told them they had to chase love, prove their worth, and beg to be chosen.
I help them break free from the karmic cycles and generational patterns that keep them stuck in toxic relationships and self-abandonment — so they can unapologetically choose themselves, reclaim their inherent worth, and become magnetic to soul-aligned love, expansive opportunities, and the liberated life they were born to lead.
Without ever shrinking, settling, or self-abandoning again.
I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, begging to be chosen, and abandoning myself again and again in the name of love. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
Join me as we say goodbye to self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics, and hello to radical self-love, emotional freedom, and true empowerment.
It’s time to reclaim the version of you who never had to beg to be chosen.
You ready?
Let’s do this.
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The Betrayal Series Day 1: Blindsided by Betrayal: How I Missed the Signs—and the Radical Self-Forgiveness That Finally Set Me Free
The signs were there.
The late-night disappearances.
The mystery phone calls.
The way the energy shifted the moment I entered the room.
My gut was screaming that something wasn’t right… but I silenced it.
I believed his words over my body’s wisdom.
And when the truth finally came out?
I was shattered.
And furious with myself for not seeing it sooner.
In this opening episode of The Sacred Reclamation Series: The Betrayal Edition happening here on The Femme Cast, I take you deep into the question that haunts so many women after betrayal:
How could I not have seen it?
And when I finally did… why didn’t I leave?
I was blindsided. Broken.
It felt like the ground had been ripped out from under me.
But what I didn’t know at the time was that this heartbreak—this betrayal—would become the catalyst for the most profound transformation of my life.
It cracked me open.
Pulled me out of the fog.
And launched me into my deepest reclamation.
What started as devastation became a spiritual awakening—
And ultimately, a return to radical self-trust.
But first? I had to forgive myself.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
🎤 The quiet signs I ignored—and why I ignored them
🎤 How self-abandonment disguised itself as loyalty
🎤 The nuanced truth about forgiveness (hint: it doesn’t mean reconciliation)
🎤 Why forgiving yourself is often harder than forgiving the one who hurt you
🎤 How betrayal forced me to stop outsourcing my intuition and finally trust my own knowing
🎤 The moment I stopped asking, “Why is this happening to me?” and started asking, “How is this happening for me?”
This isn’t about blame.
It’s about honoring the version of you who stayed—
And loving her fiercely.
Because she was doing the best she could with what she knew.
And when you're ready, healing doesn't begin with forgiveness.
It begins with reclamation.
Your power.
Your truth.
Your self-trust.
This episode sets the tone for the full 5-part healing journey inside The Sacred Reclamation Series: The Betrayal Edition.
If you’ve ever felt ashamed for not seeing the truth sooner…
If you’ve struggled to forgive yourself for staying too long…
This is your invitation to finally set yourself free.
🎧 Listen now and join me tomorrow for Day 2: The Rage You’re Afraid to Feel.
You’re not alone—and your healing starts here.
PS: Stop begging to be chosen. Choose yourself instead.
In case no one told you today, you’re not here to beg, chase, or perform for the bare minimum. You’re here to reclaim your power and become magnetic to real, soul-aligned love, success, and abundance.
Reclaim the version of you that never had to beg to be chosen.
Book your 90-minute Sacred Reclamation Intensive here:
https://thefemmecast.kit.com/products/intensive
But fair warning—authentic connections, aligned opportunities, and breakthroughs in love, money, and purpose are inevitable.
You guys, what is up? And welcome back to the show. I'm so excited and grateful to have you here and I'm especially excited and grateful for this frickin episode. I've been wanting to do this for so long and it is finally here. I've started a new series on the podcast, okay, so it's called the sacred reclamation podcast series and there's going to be different kind of series kind of spread out throughout the year. This one in particular is the betrayal edition. So if you've ever been lied to, betrayed or manipulated in a relationship or been made to believe that your partner was something other or someone other than who he was, you are in the right place. You guys, we're going to do five episodes five days in a row, back to back. I am so fucking excited. I cannot wait.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And the reason why I think I wanted to start with this one in particular doing the Betrayal Edition first and starting with this one was number one. It really did mark the turning point for me in terms of my transformation, my spiritual evolution, my healing, so many things that happened and occurred in my life as a result of being cheated on, basically, and lied to, manipulated for years. Right, lied to manipulated for years, right. It became my platform. It became my stepping stone to something that, honestly, had you told me before all of this went down, that what was going to how my life was going to turn out and the things that I was going to experience and accomplish in my life. I never would have believed it right, because I was, I guess you could, for lack of a better word. I was asleep. I was just kind of moving through life, going through the motions. You know, being a people pleaser, I kind of let people's external validation guide my life and my decisions and you know I didn't even stop to think what was possible or what I wanted, or you know what if I did want something out of the box right possible, or what I wanted, or you know what if I did want something out of the box right. So I think you know, going through that experience as painful as it was, of betrayal, of you know feeling the mistrust, the pain, the hurt, the trauma and everything that kind of it became my platform for literally the biggest elevation of my life and transformation. So that's kind of why I wanted to start there, also because for the longest time the top running episode here at the Femcast has always been and has been for my well, not for I mean.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The episode, I think, only came out within the last like year, maybe even several months, I can't remember when I actually launched the episode, but it is literally every week my top listen to episode again and again, which is, um, how to cope with being cheated on. Um, which you know, obviously, is something that we've all kind of struggled with and we're trying to navigate and there's no cookie cutter way of getting through it. And I think that, as women, you know there's many different narratives out there of how we should, what we should or should not do and we've been cheated on and how do we respond and how do we move through and how do we take that and move through life and heal from it and go past it? Um, there's tons of narratives out there. Some of my methods you might've heard other places, some of them might be different, but I'm going to tell you, as somebody who used being cheated on as a catapult for the rest of her life. I'm going to tell you what I did and you can take what resonates and leave the rest, but this is literally what I did in order to move through that experience and come out of it on the other side way more empowered and much more aligned with the life that I truly wanted, as opposed to the one that I was settling for all along. So if this sounds like you pay attention. Like I said, it's going to be five days.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Today we're talking all about how did I not see this sooner, really? How did I not see this sooner Really? How did I not see this sooner? I remember, you know, asking the question, you know when I, when I first, when I first realized what was happening, there was a big part of like, how the fuck did I not see this? Like? How was I blind to this? Like? The signs were all around me, it was everywhere, it was in his behavior, it was in the way he was getting dressed in the morning, it was the way he was manscaping suddenly, but never manscaped before. It was, you know, in the way you know he was, you know, out all hours of the night, disappearing all the time for hours on end. And you know all these things in in on the regular are not bad patterns. But for him, you know, having having known him for as many years as I had, these were all extremely out of character and some of the signs were so blatantly obvious, like when I would tell my friends later they would be like what were you waiting for? Like a slop in the head to like convince you that buddy was cheating on you?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I'm, like you know, in retrospect, in retrospect and this is true in retrospect I did trust this person with my life. You know, I would have put my life in his hands and trust that it would be fully taken care of, and I never, you know, I never, ever my life in his hands and trust that it would be fully taken care of, and I never, you know, I never, ever, ever gave that love a second thought or questioned it or or doubted it in any in any way, even though you know his behavior towards me had changed. His attitude towards me has changed. The way he was showing up in the relationship had changed. You know, he just was not himself at all and I just chalked it up to he's going through a hard time. He's stressed at work. He's been working so many long hours. They're constantly calling him at work Poor guy. He's so overwhelmed, yeah, anyway.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you know, having gone through that, you know there was a period where I was angry at myself. I was angry at myself that I didn't see it sooner. How did I not see this? How did I not realize this? How was I so dumb to let this happen? Right, as if somehow it was my responsibility, right? And I think I had that thought. I had like, how, how was I, how did I let this happen? How did I not see this happening literally right underneath my nose, right, um? And how did I give my trust to somebody so freely and fully who clearly could not be trusted, right, um?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you know, people will always tell you that you need to forgive the person who cheated on you. And you know, here's my take on forgiveness I think we I think we can hold the intention to forgive, but I think, at the end of the day, we need to forgive when we're ready. Um, we need to forgive when we're ready and we need to forgive when it feels right. I think if we do it too soon, sometimes it can leave us vulnerable again. And if we cling you know you never want to cling too long to something and hold on to bitterness and resentment. That's not good. But also, you know, telling yourself that you forgive someone and it's okay, and I forgive them. Sometimes, you know, that also has its correct, its divine timing, right, and I think we need to trust that. And I also think that there's a difference between forgiveness and how we choose to move forward in that relationship.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Sometimes people mistake forgiveness with being okay, so we can just kind of go back to normal now, right. And that doesn't have to be a partner. It could be anybody that betrayed you, you know. It could be a partner, a friend, a coworker, a boss, a sibling, a mother, a father. You know they do something that hurts you and you know you hopefully call them out on it, right, and have an honest conversation about it. And you know, maybe you do need to do some forgiveness work around that, right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I think you know people mistake forgiveness with okay, so we can just go back to normal now. So like why haven't you forgiven me? Like you should let it go and we should move past this. And you know, let's just put it in the rear view and it's like you know what Sometimes forgiveness means. I forgive you for what you did and you know, I realize where it was coming from and I realize your side of the story or your side of the reverse in a situation, and that's fine.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But I still don't choose to be in a relationship with you, and that is okay, you know, because sometimes if we, you know there's forgiveness and then there's trust, and if we don't trust that somebody is going to do that same hurtful thing again, why bring them back into your life? There's no reason for that. None whatsoever Permission granted to forgive and say, okay, au revoir, I don't need you in my life. You know that is a thing. Forgiveness doesn't mean you go back to the way things were right. So please note that. So you can forgive and say goodbye. Forgiveness and goodbye can happen simultaneously. You know there's no reason that says, because you've forgiven somebody, like I said, you have to go back to the way things were. No, that's not how things work. So you can forgive. You don't need to let them back into your life. You can acknowledge that they hurt you and that you don't trust them. To let them back into your life again, and that's okay and that's the healthy thing to do. If you don't trust somebody not to hurt you, not to cause you pain, not to, you know, re-traumatize you again and again it's a self-loving thing to do to not to let that person back into your space, into your world, into your life, assuming, obviously, that's coming from a very healthy place. So, you know, forgive that person. When you're ready, you can forgive them and let them go.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But I think and I rushed through all that to get to the nitty gritty of what I kind of wanted to talk about today, and that is forgiving ourselves. I think the hardest part in all of it was learning to forgive myself for the betrayal, and not because I caused the betrayal. Um, although I did blame myself profusely for it in the beginning. Um, I think I needed to forgive myself, one for blaming myself for it. And two, letting myself off the hook for not having seen it. And three, letting myself off the hook for why it took me so long to leave.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know the situation was, it was complicated, you know, and there's no, these things are never white, like white or black, right, there's so much gray, right, and it's so. There's so much nuance to navigate with. Like, every situation is different, every experience of betrayal is different. You know you have to look at intent and you have to look at patterns and you have to look at. You know you have to look at intent and you have to look at patterns and you have to look at, you know, was this an ongoing thing or was this a one-time thing? Like I don't believe it's cut or dry. They cheated, you leave. You know, I think people make mistakes and I think it's how we deal with those mistakes and the heartbreak and how both parties show up to the relationship or don't, to work on it, to heal it and to rebuild the trust again, right, and that takes time and I think that if people are willing to put in the time on both sides and acknowledge their participation in the experience, I think there can be room for healing and I think there can be room for repair in the relationship.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But in the situation like mine, where it was very habitual, very repetitive, never acknowledged, never taken responsibility for, you know, constantly being gaslit to make me think like I was the crazy one, I was a jealous one, when I've never had a jealous bone in my body. To be honest, you know that for me I mean I I was angry as myself for not leaving sooner and for putting up with it as long as I did and for almost trying to convince myself, like to live in denial, that it never happened, that it wasn't true that it never happened, that it wasn't true that I needed to silence what I knew internally to be true and trust what he was telling me, even though what he was telling me and his behavior, his actions, were two totally, were saying two totally different. They were telling two totally different stories and two totally different versions of the truth. Right, he was saying all the right things verbally, but physically, like the way he was behaving in the relationship, the patterns that I was seeing, the late nights, the late night texts, the early phone calls, like it was everywhere, it was everywhere and it was happening literally right under my nose. One time she actually called while we were still in bed together on a Sunday morning and I could literally hear their entire conversation. Well, I had my head next to him, like next to his, on the pillow, and you know, it still took me a long time to accept, even though I knew in that moment what was happening, and that was kind of the beginning of my undoing or the beginning of my accepting what was happening, and then, ultimately, that led to the undoing of the relationship and then, ultimately, me. But it took a long time. It took a long time. It took a lot of fighting. It took a lot of fighting, took a lot of fighting with him, a lot of fighting with myself and a lot of fighting of what I knew to be true and not knowing what to believe. You know, there was his version and there was the version that you know my gut was telling me, and so I wanted to believe him, and so I think it made it easy to trust him over me. It became the convenient truth in the story and it became the less painful of the two options.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Right In the beginning, it was because the more painful thing would be to acknowledge what was happening, to own what I was believing was happening and to act on it accordingly, because that meant leaving the person that I love most in the world and that also meant now actually holding myself believing something that I had no proof or validation, like that he wouldn't prove or validate for me. You know, he would constantly be telling me it was me and it was all in my head and I was making, like you know, I was the one with with the issue, right, um, so there would be the pain of, you know, having to like, hold that and then be judged and then, you know, make a decision based on that and then be judged for it, right? And then, and then his, his judgment or his, you know, manipulation of that would then make me doubt myself, right? So I had to get to the point where I was like, no, no, no, I, I believe this is what's happened and it really doesn't matter what you say or don't say, or show me or don't show me anymore. I know the truth, I know what's happened and I'm going to make the aligned decision based on what it is. I know, um, which is always, you know, when we're coming from a healthy place, when we don't have a pattern of being jealous, you know of our partners and this, like I said, was a very new thing for me and when we truly do know what's happening in our relationship and we know when something is aligned or not aligned. It's important that we have the strength to walk away from something just based on the fact that this is what I know to be true and I feel this in my body and I feel this intuitively. I know that this is what's happening and I don't need any external validation to tell me otherwise. So it was very like, you know, the whole experience was actually quite empowering and healing for me because it learned, it taught me how to trust myself above all others, right, and I think that was the biggest gift, the second biggest gift in this, other than the whole, you know, hey, kind of catapulted my life in a whole new direction, but couldn't have done that without the self-trust. So that was an important piece.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But I think that ultimately, you know, the first few years, you know, still in the relationship, and then in the early years of recovery, you know, one of the first things I had to do was really forgive myself, and that was, you know, like I said how did I not see this sooner? How could I have let this happen? You know the heck did I do wrong for things to turn out this way? And I think that you know self-forgiveness it's one of those things where you know we have to acknowledge that we were doing the best that we could at the time. You know, at the time he was my universe. At the time he was the person that I would trust with my life and I had no reason in my mind not to trust him, right. And so, you know, we have to remember, you know, hindsight is always 2020. You know, we see now what was happening. We know now it was happening, we're able to see the patterns, we're able to see the thing, the signs, whatever. But back then we didn't see it. So all we could do was go, was make decisions and align our actions with what it is.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We did know right and that was all I knew at the time was that this person loved me and, you know, I would trust him with my life and you know that he was probably going through a hard time and that's where I was noticing the differences in his behavior. And instead of trying to attack him for it and instead of trying to blame him for it, you know I was trying to be a good partner, be a supportive partner to be, you know, to help, maybe kind of soothe or support whatever it was he was going through. I didn't know what was really going on beneath the surface. So you know what I think the forgiveness for me came from. I did my best and I did what I knew to be right at the time. I did what felt like the right thing for me to do, even if it wasn't. You know it felt right at the time and you know, if I struggled, even after I knew what was happening, right, and I struggled to accept it, and then, you know, it took me a while to accept it and then, okay, well, I struggled to leave right, even after I had accepted it.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Again, you know, this journey has not been an easy journey, right, it's been a gentle unfolding of learning to love and value myself above all others. And, based on where I was at the time, I couldn't make those decisions the way I would make them now. I couldn't. I couldn't because I was too afraid. I was too afraid of being alone, I was too afraid that I would never find somebody better.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Even though it was totally, like, dysfunctional and painful, there was still that part of me of, well, what if I can't find any better? Right? What if this is just? What if this is as good as it gets? What if we can get to the other side of this, right? What if we can get to the other side of this and heal? Because I, you know, you know, obviously there was love there. So what if? What if we can, you know, go through the motions, or you know the motions, or do the work, or get the support, or get the guidance and heal and mend our relationship right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I want to give it every possible chance and opportunity, tried to convince myself that maybe it was all in my head because the behavior did stop for some time. But then, after a very difficult season that I thought was actually going to set us on the right track, I just started to see it all over again and that's where I was like you know what, if, after this long and after everything that we've been through together, it still doesn't stop this from happening, nothing will, and so I just finally said I can't, I can't do this anymore and I left. So you know again, forgiveness for not seeing it, forgiveness for not trusting what I knew to be true, and forgiveness for not leaving mentally when knew to be true, and forgiveness for not leaving when I mentally, when I think I should have. Everything's a lesson right, everything that we go through, especially, you know, we do so much of our healing and our transformation through our relationships. They're our greatest teachers, because they're the ones that can hurt us the most. And if they're the ones that can hurt us the most, they are the ones that can actually create the most healing and transformation.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so I had healed so much as a result of this relationship, so much in my life had transformed because of that singular experience and you know it always goes back to you. Know, I was doing the best that I could do at the time with what I knew, with what I believed, with what my mind could comprehend, right, I was doing the best that I could do with that comprehend, right, I was doing the best that I could do with that and knowing what I know. Now, here is what I might do a little different, right, and that's kind of the mindset shift you need to take, right. So, when you're struggling to trust yourself, when you're struggling to forgive yourself for past mistakes, right, for letting the betrayal happen, for not seeing it sooner, for not knowing, you know, even though you're smart, you're powerful, you're capable, you're a confident woman, you know blaming yourself that you didn't see this side of the person that you thought that you loved and you know was going to be, you know your person. That is something that you have to remind yourself again and again until you believe it.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I did the best that I could do at the time and this was just a learning experience for me to help me to evolve, and some of you might be saying, okay, well, what was the lesson Like? Why, why did I have to go through this? Why did I have to go through being cheated on and lied to and gaslit about it for years? Why did I have to go through you know, why did I have to? Why did it have to take me years to be able to leave? Or why did I need proof before I could leave? Or why did I not see the side of his personality, you know?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And then, when you it's funny when these things happen there's this moment, and I remember, I'm trying to remember when, like so there was that moment with a phone call, right, and I hadn't included up until that point what was happening. All I knew is that I was seeing these kind of weird signs and weird behaviors, right. And when that phone call happened, suddenly there was like this mental flashback of all of the behaviors that I was seeing and I was like how the fuck did I, like it was right in front of me this whole time and I didn't see it and this person and who they were and what they were all about and what they were doing behind my back. It was right here, it was written on the wall, girl, it was in marquee lights. How the fuck did you not see this Right? And again, I think it comes from you.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Know, my lesson in all of this was, you know, I put and I can safely say this now my lesson and I'm not saying that this is your lesson, I'm saying this was my lesson my lesson was I put more trust in him to guide me, to know what is best for us and for our life. I put more trust in him than I did in my own inner voice. I put more trust in him and what he was telling me, even though my gut was telling me something totally different, and I would take his word for it and I would take it at face value, even though his behaviors were not congruent with what he was saying. And so I think my lesson in all of that was to learn to not put my trust in others over trust in myself again, to know that you know what I feel to be true, what I see with my eyes not what they're telling me, but what I see with my eyes to be true holds water, and I need to pay attention to that right and I need to be able to trust that I need to be able to make decisions based on that and I don't I don't need to have those decisions validated or confirmed in any way by anyone else outside of me. Right, I can make the aligned decision, knowing what I know and feel, and move forward and take aligned action and make aligned decisions in my life, and I think that was a power that I gave away in that relationship and that was my lesson in that experience.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So I acknowledge so in the way that we forgive ourselves. The way that we forgive ourselves is we say, hey, we're all here as spiritual beings having a human experience and we're all experiencing lessons so that we can evolve spiritually, so we can heal some shit right. Move through some shit so we can heal some shit right. So I had to move through this so I could heal that part of me that puts my trust into other people instead of trusting myself and what I know to be true. So I know that I needed to move through this for healing and it wasn't because I was a bad person and it wasn't because I wasn't evolved spiritually or because you know yeah, I was. You know I did have codependent tendencies and I did, I, I. That was a thing for me and I was a people pleaser, right, and this was just one of my lessons in learning to undo those patterns.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so I let myself off the hook by saying, okay, this was an experience that I needed to have in order to move through this. And I was, I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt. Beyond a shadow of a doubt, based on what I knew and believed at the time, I made the best decisions I could make and where I was emotionally and what I was emotionally ready to take on and move through, I made the best decision that I could at the time. Because I could tell you right now, if I had left when I first, when I first um caught wind of what was happening, um, my trajectory, my healing trajectory, would have been way different, because when I left, I was feeling very empowered and very ready to leave. And so when I, when I moved through that, when I, when I got to that time where I was able to kind of step away and say no, no, this is a decision I'm making and it doesn't really matter what you say, whether you agree or don't, or validate what I believe or not. This is the decision I'm taking and this is how I'm going to be moving forward with my life. I was able to do that from very empowered place versus. You know, had I done it before I, it would not have been the empowering experience that I would have wanted it to be.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you have to look for the evidence that you were doing the best that you could at the time and that in some way, shape or form sticking around or whatever, whatever it was whatever the mistake was that you're that you're beating yourself up for. You have to acknowledge that, for, whatever it was, it was serving you at the time to do that very thing that you are beating yourself up now for right, and it made sense at the time to do that very thing that you are beating yourself up now for Right. And it made sense at the time and it was the best you could do at the time and it was serving a very powerful purpose at the time and that now, in hindsight, you're able to see the lesson. So the whole thing and how it unfolded actually benefited you in the end. So, whatever your situation, whether somebody cheated on you, whether somebody manipulated you, whether somebody gassed at you into thinking that you were crazy and you were the problem and you were just imagining things, or whether somebody actually presented themselves as a totally different person than who they actually were, and you feel like you were completely fooled and blindsided by who you were actually with right, and now you're blaming yourself for it.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Go back, imagine yourself. Go back to the person who was not the person now. Who knows who, in hindsight, is 20-20. Go back to the person there. What was she ready to accept? What was she ready to accept? What did she need to learn? Where was her mindset at the time in terms of what she believed to be true about this person? That was all necessary, even if it was false. It was necessary because it helps you get to the point to where you are today.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you imagine that every relationship, every experience that you have with someone is in some way, shape or form, transforming you right, even though they may be difficult, even though they may be painful, even though they may be triggering. If you can imagine that every single relationship in your life is in some way shape or form transforming you, teaching you or healing you or guiding you, then you're able to take the little nuggets of wisdom that these relationships can bring and kind of. You know, let yourself off the hook. We're all messy, we're all human, we all make mistakes. We never do anything perfectly and we're never. We're always evolving. So the person that I am today is not the same person I was a week ago. It's not the same person I was a year ago. We're always seeing where we could have done things better and that's just part of being human, because we've evolved. But a week ago, a month ago, a year ago, 10 years ago, I wasn't thinking the way that I am right now.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you have to give yourself some grace for that and you have to remember there was an important reason why you needed to go through that experience. So, although you may think you fucked up by staying or making or not leaving, or not trusting, or not listening to or not having seen it sooner, everything happened in divine timing and you have to trust that. So, if you can just trust yourself saying I did the best that I could at the time, and I know that everything unfolded in divine timing, so, for whatever reason, that needed to play out the way that it did, and I choose to honor that, and I choose to accept that and I choose to make that mean nothing about me, and that is the. You have to just keep looking for evidence of those things. Keep looking for evidence of how that was the best you could do at the time. Keep looking for the evidence of how moving through that experience was important for you. And then just hold yourself in that forgiveness and the forgiveness will get easier when you start to realize it wasn't a mistake. You didn't fuck it up. You were meant to move through that and it was meant to transform you and, if you let it, it was meant to elevate you, which is what we're gonna be talking about in the coming days in the series. So that about wraps it up for today.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Tomorrow we're going to be talking about the rage you're afraid to feel and let me tell you there was so much rage after this, Um, and I know it's scary and I know it's uncomfortable, but it is actually serving you in a really powerful way. So we're going to talk about that tomorrow and there's also going to be a masterclass. So the details for everything is in the show notes. Make sure to check that out and make sure to follow me at the femcast on the gram. Okay, if you guys love this episode. Please leave a positive rating and review, and I love you for with all my heart. Um, help these episodes get out, cause I know there's a lot of women out there who actually need this right now. Um, and that is it for today. Until tomorrow, you guys, massive love.
