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Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship cycles, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria — Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor.
I work with the women who are cycle breakers, grid shakers, and truth layers — the brave souls who came here to dismantle the inherited beliefs that told them they had to chase love, prove their worth, and beg to be chosen.
I help them break free from the karmic cycles and generational patterns that keep them stuck in toxic relationships and self-abandonment — so they can unapologetically choose themselves, reclaim their inherent worth, and become magnetic to soul-aligned love, expansive opportunities, and the liberated life they were born to lead.
Without ever shrinking, settling, or self-abandoning again.
I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, begging to be chosen, and abandoning myself again and again in the name of love. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
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The Betrayal Series Day 5: Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal: The Truth About Flashbacks, Red Flags + Healing Forward
What if the girl labeled “jealous” wasn’t insecure… but traumatized?
What if the woman who seems "too sensitive" is actually just learning how to feel safe again in a world that shattered her?
This powerful final part of The Sacred Reclamation Series: The Betrayal Edition here on The Femme Cast is for every woman who has ever had the rug ripped out from under her — who gave her heart to someone she trusted completely, only to be blindsided by deception that fractured not just the relationship… but her very sense of reality.
When betrayal trauma hits, it doesn’t just make you question the people around you. It makes you question yourself. You start to wonder if your intuition can be trusted, if your emotions are valid, and if you’ll ever feel safe loving someone again.
In this deeply raw and healing conversation, I share what rebuilding trust actually looked like for me after betrayal:
🎤 How emotional flashbacks hijacked my nervous system and made normal moments feel dangerous
🎤 Why I took a 7-year relationship hiatus — and how I knew I was ready to try again
🎤 The red flags I ignored, the lessons I learned, and the ways I began to trust myself again
🎤 What it really means to distinguish between a trauma trigger and genuine intuition
🎤 Why you’re not crazy, and how to find your grounding again after chaos
We’re talking about nervous system healing, emotional safety, and the long road back to self-trust. This episode isn’t a five-step checklist or some fluffy “just let go” advice. It’s a reckoning. A remembering. A reclamation.
Because the truth is — love never comes with guarantees. But you can make it feel safer by knowing you have your own back. That you know what red flags look like now. That you won’t abandon yourself next time.
Because not all of us have Chris Martin at a Coldplay concert publicly validating what we already knew deep down.
We’re diving into what it really takes to rebuild trust after being cheated on and manipulated — and how to feel safe loving again after the person you trusted most shattered everything.
This is your invitation to stop gaslighting your own body, honor your lived experiences, and return to the version of you who knows exactly what she deserves.
🎧 Tune in now to hear the truth behind the healing.
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Wow, you guys. Day five. Here we are. We made it. I'm so excited. Today is day five. It is the last day of the very first Sacred Reclamation series.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:This is the Betrayal Edition. Sorry, I'm at a loss for words right now. I just had my favorite lunch, so I probably should take a nap before I try to record this, but that's okay. I think the extra carbs that I had at lunch today is actually going to help my brain power. Maybe it'll kick in at some point, or it's going to make me foggy brained, we'll see.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So yeah, so this series is for you. If you're somebody who has been lied to, manipulated, cheated on, betrayed by somebody you loved and trusted more than anything else in the world, you probably put some stuff aside for, or some stuff on the back burner for, to make the relationship the central focus of your life. Lesson learned Hopefully, by the time you get to this episode, you've come to that realization, and today we're talking about trusting yourself and trusting love again, and this was really one of the most difficult parts in the journey for me. As I mentioned at the end of yesterday's podcast when I was introducing this conversation, the process to rebuilding your inner safety and trust after betrayal is a long process. It took me quite some time and my intention with this episode is I hopefully can collapse that timeline a little bit for you and make it a little bit quicker, a little bit easier, a little bit more painless, by sharing with you what helped me through this. Again, this took years and it was probably one of the most challenging parts of the healing, to be quite honest, because no matter how hard I did, the mindset work, no matter how hard I tried, no matter how what different situations I put myself in, the trauma was still there and was still very, very activated for quite some time, and so navigating new relationships became very difficult for me.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It's probably what led to my seven-year relationship hiatus, to be quite honest, is that it literally got too exhausting going through this process and then, having gone through a relationship, as I came out of my hiatus I realized most of the triggers were gone. Some things were kind of triggered back, but I noticed that I was much stronger than I was before I went on that hiatus. The triggers weren't as active. I was able to kind of hold my energy for the most part. I mean, you know, obviously all relationships have sticking points, but for the most part I was able to kind of hold my energy for the most part. I mean, you know, obviously all relationships have sticking points, but for the most part I was able to kind of hold my energy. We were even in a long distance relationship which, to be quite honest, before my seven year hiatus I could not imagine being in a long distance relationship. I was filled with so much anxiety. So that in itself is a testament to how much work I had actually done, how much I had actually evolved through the process and how much these tools or these techniques that I'm going to share with you today actually really supported me in a massive way, because who I was before versus where I am now is like worlds apart from one another. So you know, hopefully you know, what I'm about to share with you will help. So this is the last day of the series. Of course, keep an. Hopefully, you know, what I'm about to share with you will help. So this is the last day of the series. Of course, keep an eye out. For next week we're doing the live activation, which is also free. You can sign up for that in the show notes below. Let's get into it.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So, learning to trust yourself and love after going through something like betrayal, very, very difficult thing to do because, unfortunately you know, and this is where sometimes you know girls I mean guys and girls, I think, men and women, um, but girls specifically and women specifically sometimes, I think, get a bad rap for being jealous, being insecure, you know, being all these things when you know certain things happen and they trigger and they automatically assume someone's cheating and you know what? Hey, listen, let's be fair, right, let's always. Let's always try and be fair and have a very real, balanced perspective. Yes, there are people out there who are very insecure. Of course, many of us struggle with insecurity. I've always struggled with insecurity, to be quite honest. But many of us struggle with insecurity. Yes, many women struggle with jealousy.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Unfortunately, it's a feminine wound of the patriarchal beliefs that, you know, we've kind of always felt, or taught for centuries, to be threatened by one another, to compete with one another, to always try and one up one another, because, you know, our whole purpose throughout time really was to be chosen. That was our only way of securing our future was being chosen by a man who can take care of us. So, yes, we, as women, we often very much compete with one another, very much throw each other under the bus, nasty things that girl like girl on girl crime is actually probably some of the worst crime I've seen when it comes to interpersonal relationships, of the worst crime I've seen when it comes to interpersonal relationships. But I mean like having said that right, sometimes the girl who you're seeing as insecure or jealous is actually experiencing betrayal trauma. And I say this because and I can say this with a thousand percent certainty, because I never had the pattern of being a jealous girlfriend.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I never checked my boyfriend's phones, I never stalked them to see where they were going, I never like questioned them or interrogated them. If I saw them talking to another girl, if anything, I would often point out other girls oh my God, oh my God, she's so pretty. Look at her. Oh my God, I love her outfit. Look at what she's wearing. Oh my God, I love her hair. Where did she get her hair done? Like I would actually point out, hot women to my guys, right, um and so like. I never had it in me to to be jealous, to be threatened to interrogate, to question, to investigate, to spy, to, um, you know to to to like break into his phone or anything, nothing like that.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so, and even in the relationship where there was betrayal, I didn't know it until it, like literally, like hit me in the face, like the signs were everywhere and I was clueless, clueless to what was happening. There were some red flags in the beginning, which we're going to touch on, like very early on, which I totally ignored and I brushed off to all childishness or boys being boys, or whatever. And you know, had I paid attention to those red flags? Those are the red flags, those are the exact red flags that came up and bit me in the ass later. So, you know, when I found out that it was happening, I was blindsided, like I did not see it coming. I felt like the rug was pulled out from under me and suddenly I felt like I put, like I would trust this man, I would trust this person with my life.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And to be in the situation right now where somebody that I trusted so deeply could betray me like that, who can I ever trust again if I can't trust him? And how can I even trust myself again if I put all my trust into somebody like that? So my trust was like it was fractured on so many levels. It was fractured in how could I ever trust another man? And it was also fractured in how can I even freaking trust myself? Like I put all my trust and faith, I would have put my life into this person's hands, and meanwhile this happens right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you know, trying to put it into perspective, you know when we talk about betrayal, trauma, or you know I was experiencing what can only be described as emotional flashbacks. Ok, emotional flashbacks are when something in your environment is very similar or reminiscent of a traumatic experience and now suddenly you're starting to feel all the emotions of that event. So like, for example, I also had this. I also had, like, um, I was having emotional flashbacks which is an easier way to describe it when I was in a really bad not a bad accident, but I was basically driving in a car with no brakes. My brakes failed. I was driving at I think the speed limit was 80 kilometers per hour. I was driving at about 90 or 100 kilometers per hour. This was when my speeding stopped. I've never sped again after this day.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So I was doing about 90 or 100 kilometers an hour. I was coming up to a red light on an intersection and suddenly I had no brakes, like zero. My gas pedal or my brake pedal was like flopping in the in the breeze, um, so I panicked, um, and I literally like, just because of like there was like a half lane between the left turn lane and the regular lane, I coasted through, like in between the cars and that little half lane, closed my eyes and prayed I didn't hit anything, um, and so I got to the other side of the intersection and then I pulled, and then I thought to pull my emergency brake. So everything was fine, nobody was hurt, nobody got hit, nothing.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But that feeling of being not in control of my vehicle scared me and that, that, that feeling of, you know, basically barreling into an intersection at a hundred kilometers an hour with no brakes, through a red light, when I know there's traffic traveling on either side, I mean that was horrifying. And so what ended up happening and this is so you understand what emotional flashbacks are like, right? So what would end up happening is, any time I was in my car after that period and I was doing 80 kilometers an hour or 90 kilometers an hour, or getting approaching close to what I was the speed I was doing that day in the car anytime. I felt my car going that fast. So as soon as I would hit like I think it was 90. As soon as I would hit 90 kilometers an hour, my hands would start to shake, my legs would start to shake, my palms would start to sweat and I would start to have a panic attack to the point where I was like almost in tears.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It took years for this to pass, years and it was very difficult, because I'm somebody who's always driven. I've been a, you know, I love driving. I actually used to drive. I used to go into like this little, like mini racetrack that we have just north of Toronto and like literally like, get into cars and do like small little like like not, they're not, they're not go-karts, they're like mini race cars basically, and basically be doing like 300, 200 kilometers an hour on a track, right. So I'm not somebody who was ever uncomfortable with speed and I was. I loved speed and I loved speed, I loved road trips, I loved getting in my car and just it was my escape. And now suddenly it became like this huge source of anxiety for me.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So that is how emotional flashbacks work there's something in your environment triggers a physical or emotional or mental memory of a trauma and now your body starts to react. You physically or emotionally, start to react as though you're reliving that trauma. So in betrayal trauma, it could be something like he gets a phone call from a girl or a text from a girl, or he's not at work but suddenly he's gone MIA for like three hours and he's not returning texts. It could be, you know, you come to see him at work one day, surprise visit, and you see him talking to another woman, right, and they seem kind of close. You know anything that you know you experienced in the relationship where you were lied to, betrayed and cheated on. So any of their characteristics that you later equated with oh, that was signs he was cheating.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you see that in anybody else, even if it's innocent, your body, your emotional response, your physical response is going to be oh my God, he's cheating. Bring me to safety. Like, do something to help me feel safe, because I don't feel safe right now. I am not safe, this is dangerous, and so like for me, like because I remember when the betrayal happened you know it was very specific things like you know, unreasonably late coming home from work, coming home all hours of the night, getting calls to go to work at like 10 o'clock at night, you know, mystery calls while we're in bed, by other women first thing in the morning going MIA for hours, even when, like, he's supposed to be off, and then not being able to reach him right and not returning my calls. Those were out of character for him, very out of character. And so when that started happening again, at first I didn't think anything of it. I thought he was distressed, he was busy, he was overwhelmed. Anyway, it turns out they were all signs that he was cheating. So now, like fast forward, not now, but after that relationship.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:When I started going out there and started dating again, the minute somebody would like disappear for a few hours I would panic. The minute somebody would, I would see them talking to another woman, I would panic. The minute I would see a text notification from another girl, I would panic because it would. It would literally bring me emotionally and physically like. I would physically feel it and emotionally feel it right back to the moment when I found out my ex was cheating. So that took a very long time to go away.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I'm not going to lie and I, you know, I think you know there's a couple of ways, there's a couple of techniques that I used to kind of move through that. But I think ultimately the most important thing is to really just be gentle with yourself. Be gentle with yourself, be gentle in the environments that you put yourself in and, you know, if you know, be really specific about what you're looking for. If you if I mean I would say to you you know, take your time putting yourself back out there. You know for sure you don't need to put yourself right back.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I know a lot of people say, oh, you know, you need to get back out there, you need to start seeing people, you need to start dating. Sometimes that is the worst advice when you've been through betrayal trauma, because there's so much stuff there that it's going to make functioning in a normal, healthy relationship almost impossible, because what's going to end up happening is, if you do have a healthy partner, you're still going to get triggered by the little nuanced things that happen every day, because they're going to emotionally bring you back to the experience and you're going to end up taking it all out on this relationship right and regressing back into those old fears, old pain points and experiences. So you know my advice is always take your time. You don't need to rush going back out there.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Do your healing work, feel the again, you know, moving through the emotional experience, moving through the difficult emotions, moving through the rage, moving through the grief, everything that we've talked about in the last few episodes. Really discovering what the learning, what the healing, what the transformation, the gift even though it may not feel like it when it's happening that that experience had for you and really reinforcing that and constantly reinforcing that in your mind and remembering I went through this because of this. It taught me how to do this. It showed me where I needed to grow, how I needed to evolve. It helped me transform in X number of ways, really acknowledging the purpose that that experience served, so that it's no longer a pain point, so much it is. It is part of your evolution, right, and really putting on that lens of it being an evolutionary experience as opposed to a painful experience, right, really looking at it from that lens as often as you can, even though they are painful and I'm not.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We're not denying the pain here. We're here to acknowledge the pain, acknowledge the hurt, the heartbreak, the rage, the sadness, the anger. Acknowledge all of that and move through that, give it space, give it um, give it purpose and, you know, get to understand what the message is that it holds for you. Right, and keep keep reflecting on all that and you're going to get to a point where you're starting to feel like, okay, I'm ready to dip my toes back in the water again. Now what? Well, it's still going to be a challenge in terms of trusting yourself and trusting others.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The best advice I can give you is three things. Number one remind yourself of all the ways you saw the red flags early on, because we always see the red flags and we chose to ignore them. So, acknowledge the red flags that you saw, even if you ignored them. That's okay. That's okay, it happens. These are the red flags I saw and, yes, I ignored them. Maybe this is, maybe you want to give a reason as to why you ignored them or why it seemed like it was harmless at the time. And then you know, reiterating to yourself the importance of doing the work so that you're strong enough to walk away when you see the red flags. Right, when you see the red flags, just you know, acknowledge that. You know we make decisions.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We want to ignore the red flags, because we really want the situation to work out, because there's a part of us somewhere that really doesn't believe that we can do better, because I truly believe and this is what I believe I truly believe, if we thought, if we knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that there was somebody else better out there, that you know that you know, cooler, nicer, funnier, better looking, you know, whatever, whatever it is that we're looking for, if we knew, without beyond a shadow of a doubt, that he was out there waiting for us, there's no way we'd stick around to see if this red flag sticks or not. No way We'd be like bye, I'm going to go catch that boat over there, right? So you got to think of it that way. You have to think of it as you know. I know my person is out there and my person wouldn't do this for me, wouldn't do this to me, like. So I'll give you an example.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So recently I, after my last breakup, I took my time. I didn't want to rush out there and start dating again. I waited a few months and it wasn't that. It was a difficult breakup. I ended the relationship and I was comfortable with that decision. I didn't regret it and I knew why I had made it and then so I decided, you know what, I think I'm ready to put myself back out there again. And so I started getting out there and started dating and you know, I met a couple of cool people and the one guy that I thought was probably like the best option of them all, like you know, we had. You know our sense of humor is matched. We had a similar perspective on life, like there was a lot of value alignment there, which is something that I look for.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But you know, I kept saying again and again like listen, I move at a glacial pace, like you're just going to have to get over it. I move very slowly when I meet people online and that's just. That's just something that I live by now. Like I don't rush into things. I'm not in any um, I'm not in any way, shape or form looking to rush into the physical connection of a relationship. I'm fully prepared to take my time to really understand and know if this person is worth me really getting attached to, because I know me, I know me and sometimes, after being intimate with someone, I tend to get very attached, not attached like I just tend to get very vulnerable, right, I tend to really let my guard down.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I tend to really. That's when I usually make my worst decisions. That's when I'm usually more inclined to ignore some red flags, right, especially if there's a lot of attraction and a lot of chemistry there. Chemistry doesn't always mean a good flags, right, especially if there's a lot of attraction and a lot of chemistry there. Chemistry doesn't always mean a good thing, right that. It's easy to kind of get wrapped up in that and ignore some of the red flags when you're there.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Rather, you know, I would much rather just take my time, get to know somebody, see what kind of red flags I'm kind of dealing with slowly, and then, you know, build that, you know, intimate connection over time, and I know my person would want that for me. I know my person would be like yeah, you should totally value yourself. You shouldn't just, you know, be in a rush to get intimate with anybody. You know you should hold yourself to a higher standard, and I know my person would want that. Well, this person did not see it that way.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:This person kept trying to like, find ways to like conveniently get us alone and do things that you know put me in a position where I, you know, being a total stranger, like I didn't know this guy that well, I'd only met him, like you know, we only had gone out, maybe like once or twice and we chatted for like a couple of weeks, right, but being in a situation where I'm alone with somebody who I hardly know, or in a situation where, you know, there's not a lot of people around or it's dark, or I'm not OK with that, you know, not until I've really gotten to know, you're just definitely not coming over to my apartment until I really get to know who you are and what you're all about. You know, and I think, like on the second date, he's like why don't I? Just, you know, he always tried to find a way to get us alone together. No-transcript go through. I don't know, maybe if you're looking for a hookup, maybe it's a different mindset. But for me, you know, because I am looking for somebody to be in a relationship with, I am taking my bloody ass time because I know that my person would want me to take my time.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Why did I go on that tangent? Oh, I went on that tangent because I saw the red flags. I saw the red flags that this guy was pushing me beyond my boundaries, that I was expressing my boundaries to him and I was telling him, you know what I needed to feel safe in a relationship and what I was looking for and how I was looking to move forward. And he kept trying to push past that and he kept trying to like speed things up and I was like you know what? Like I've told you like three times, like this is how I, this is how I move through this experience. You know, take it or leave it. This experience, you know, take it or leave it. And he just would not let it go. Like he was nice about it, he wasn't mean about it, but he wasn't listening and that, for me, was a red flag. So I immediately walked away.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I walked away knowing from that mentality of I know my person is out there and my person would appreciate the fact that I'm being really careful and really selective about who I, you know, choose to be intimate with and have an energetic exchange with, because I mean, there's nothing more energetically, nothing that impacts you more energetically than being intimate with somebody on so many levels. So, knowing what I know, knowing what I've been through, knowing what I've experienced, I am way more careful and selective now of what, how I used to be, when, you know, when I was previous, before my seven-year relationship, before my seven year relationship hiatus oh my God, it was. It was a gong show, okay, um, like, I mean, I think I had more partners in a couple of years than I did in my entire life. Um, like, way more. Um, that's not to say that I had, like, you know, I, they were, they were all situationships, put it that way. So they were all people I, all people that I was seeing on repeat.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But the intimacy came pretty quick and you know, it got toxic pretty fast, right, and I got attached pretty fast. So I didn't want to go down that path again. So I learned from my past. I looked at my past traits, I looked at my past red flags and I said, okay, this is what I, this is what a safe relationship looks like for me going forward. And I was really clear about identifying what that looked like and I was really clear about giving myself permission to walk away if it didn't look that way. And I think that was one of the things that helped me not only rebuild trust in the whole dating process again, but really rebuilding trust in myself again. And that was a muscle I got to flex over time and that's why I think a lot of the times these things do take time is because you do need to flex and work on them over time. And so this helped me to kind of, number one, know that I had the strength to walk away if I saw any red flags. And, two, know that I could trust myself to make the right decisions right and know that I could trust myself to walk away if I did any red flags. And, two, know that I could trust myself to make the right decisions right and know that I could trust myself to walk away if I did see red flags. And this was huge in terms of helping me to make myself feel safe again.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But on the chance that I did get emotional flashbacks if something did happen that kind of brought me back to that moment where I was betrayed and made me feel the feelings again and the panic again and the fear again and the sweatiness and the palm sweating and the anxiety I would literally just recall. I would recall the events, that it was the same, the behaviors that it was reflecting back from what happened previously. So like, say, for example, if somebody I was with went MIA for hours and I didn't hear from him, and I would start to panic, and I would panic and tailspin and spiral and do all these things and then finally I would be like, okay, you know what? I know that I'm spiraling right now because so and so used to do this and this was a sign that he was cheating on me and I didn't see it. And I've equated this to mean that anytime a guy does this, it means they're cheating, which is entirely untrue. People can do this kind of behavior all the time and it not mean a thing. Just because he's doing this doesn't mean he's cheating, right. So I almost started to reason myself off the cliff.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I also brought myself back to the fact that, with my previous partner, these were all very uncharacteristic behaviors that came out of the woodwork, that were indicating that he was, you know, seeing somebody else in the relationship. But you know, in this case maybe this was normal behavior for him to take a while to you know with this new person. Maybe it was normal for him to take a while to you know with this new person. Maybe it was normal for him to take time to call back. Normal, healthy, well-rounded adults take time getting back to you. They're not always quick to reply. You know people have lives, they have work, they have meetings, they have demanding schedules. Some people have children to worry about at this age. You know Family, maybe elderly parents are taking care of. Like me, hello, like I can't always reply to text messages when I get a text, sometimes it takes me hours to respond, even if I'm not at work, right?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So it's about reasoning with yourself, talking yourself down, talking yourself off that cliff, getting yourself to stop spiraling and taking some deep breaths and making sure you go back to those signs that you're safe in the relationship, right? Or what signs to look for to indicate that you're not safe. And maybe there are some new ones, sure that you never noticed before. But at the end of the day and I think this is what kind of makes it all puts a nice little bow on all of it At the end of it all. Yes, you experienced some red flags in the past relationship. Yes, you ignored them. Maybe there are some new red flags here that you haven't paid attention to or you're not aware of.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:However, you know by looking at that last relationship that none of it was a waste, that it evolved you and transformed you in ways that you never even dreamed of. It opened you up to possibilities you never could have imagined for yourself. So, in actuality, and as painful as it was, it was probably a good thing that you went through. At least it was for me, and that's what I always kept coming back. Even if the worst happens and it happens again and I get cheated on, I know I'm going to be okay and I know it's happening to me for a reason, and I know that on the other side of it I'll be sitting here just as I am now going. Yeah, I'd go through that all over again, just to experience a transformation that I did Right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you have to kind of be your own best friend and talk yourself off that cliff. It's not about believing that everything's going to have a happy ending. It doesn't. Love never comes with a guarantee and if you're not willing to accept the risk, it'll be very hard to find love again. So you have to be willing to accept the risk. You just have to make the risk feel not so scary and not so dangerous, and that is really your only criteria is to make it feel a little bit safer and you're going to be okay. You've got your wits about you and you know what you're doing and being able to trust yourself again and being able to trust other people again. Okay, and that is really the goal, so I hope this helps. This is the last of the series. Make sure to join us for the activation. It's going to be absolutely powerful. The link are in the show notes below. Make sure to leave a positive rating or review on Apple, itunes or or Spotify or wherever you're seeing this, and until next time, you guys, big kiss, massive love.
