The Femme Cast
Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship cycles, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria Rei, aka The Femme Coach—Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor. I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, waiting for validation, and abandoning myself in the name of relationships. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
Join me as we say goodbye to self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics, and hello to radical self-love, emotional freedom, and true empowerment.
It’s time to choose yourself and step into the love you were always meant for. Ready?
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The Femme Cast
The Quiet Reset: Breaking Generational Cycles, Healing Ancestral Wounds & Becoming Who You Were Meant to Be
If you’ve been feeling deeply exhausted, disoriented, and like you don’t recognize yourself lately — you’re not alone. I’ve been feeling it too. In this episode of The Femme Cast, I’m sharing a raw, unscripted, channeled message about what I believe is really going on beneath the surface.
So many of us are going through what I’m calling a “quiet reset.” It’s not a breakdown. It’s not self-sabotage. It’s your soul calling you to slow down, tune in, and surrender the patterns that have been weighing you down — many of which didn’t even begin with you.
This season is inviting us to let go of who we thought we had to be, so we can remember who we really are — underneath the trauma, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and pressure to prove ourselves.
I’m speaking to the spiritual exhaustion so many of us are carrying — the weight of healing, of breaking generational cycles, and of constantly trying to keep it all together. If your body is saying “rest” but your mind is yelling “push through,” I hope this episode brings the permission, perspective, and peace you’ve been needing.
Inside this episode:
- Why burnout often signals spiritual misalignment, not failure
- The connection between inherited trauma and our relationships
- Why your soul chose this life, this path, these lessons
- What it really means to rest and let the Universe meet you halfway
- How to stop filling the emptiness and make space for the miraculous
You’re not broken — you’re becoming. This isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of your next level.
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Hey you guys, what is up and welcome back to the show. I am very excited and grateful to have you here. I am terribly sorry it has been quiet here at the Femcast For the last couple of weeks. I had recorded some episodes and I deleted them. There's definitely a shift happening. We're going to change gears for a little bit in terms of the kind of content we put out. So hopefully this resonates with those of you who have been following me for quite some time.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Um, many of you know, um, I did used to channel quite a bit and I've kind of moved away from that, but I'm feeling kind of called to move back into channeling a little bit again. Um, which is basically just, you know, speaking from intuition and not having a plan for what it is that I'm going to talk about. There are some things that have been unfolding that I think will be relevant for a lot of you guys and that is how a lot of the relation, toxic relationship patterns that we talk about here on the Femcast, the disempowering beliefs, the limiting beliefs that you know we, we often, I often share with you guys, and the struggles that I've had in the patterns that I've had, you know how they really all stem from generational conditioning and patterns and cycles and how you know, there's a part of you know why I'm here and why I do what I do. That I think will resonate with a lot of you, because I think a lot of you are actually doing the same thing that our lineage has been perpetuating from one generation to the next for centuries. And I think that this is not my first reset and I am going through a massive reset right now. And I am going through a massive reset right now, not my first reset, probably not my last, and that's okay. One of the things that you start to realize when you're on this journey is that you will be reset several times until you get to your you know, whatever you want to call it final destination, or you know who it is that you are meant to be, but we're always becoming, were meant to be, but we're always becoming. You know, and I always enjoy explaining I don't always enjoy being in the process of becoming, but I always enjoy explaining the process of becoming.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know we come into this world as pure as can be, and you know. Then we're conditioned, then we're traumatized, then we're hurt, then we're abandoned, then we're rejected. Then you know we take on the beliefs and the fears and the projections of the people around us. And then you know we veer from our truth. And then you know that happens in childhood and then, up until probably, you know, in our teens. Childhood and then up until probably, you know, in our teens. And then we slowly start to recognize and or we hope, we hope most of us will, and I think many of us who are alive in in in this era are going through this, but hopefully, you know, we'll wake up and realize that um start to see our patterns, we'll start to see the beliefs that aren't serving us and we start to, one by one, work through them and evolve through them. Right, and I think and I think it's very important to mention that everything that happens to us is very intentional and by divine design.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I believe that as souls and you know we're going to get a little bit more woo than we have been here on the femcast for quite some times, but I do believe as souls, we come here, we choose the life that we're going to experience, we choose the lessons we're here to learn, we choose the relationships we're going to engage with and energetically exchange with, because our soul wants to learn something, our soul wants to evolve through our experiences here. And so, yes, of course, of course we pick our family, we pick our friends, we pick our lovers, we pick our partners, we pick our bosses. We pick all of it. We handpick each and every one, no matter how painful we think it is. We pick each and every experience that we're going to have and we decide what lessons we're going to learn and evolve through in this lifetime, what troubles, trials, hurts, traumas we're going to experience and how we're going to use them to evolve as spiritual beings. And sometimes I have to ask myself, like what the fuck was I thinking when I chose this life? Me and my friend actually had this conversation the other day Like were we high, were we in, like I don't know, some sort of like heaven, peyote or something when we chose this life? Because, honest to God, we're like, how did we even choose to go through all these things that we've been through? But nonetheless, here we are and she's an amazing soul too and you know, she's been through her fair share as well, and she's also a generational cycle breaker and I believe, I really do believe that, if you're listening to this podcast.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you followed me, you've listened to this podcast and you've struggled with your relationships, for, you know, with a lot of the patterns that we've talked about on the show, you are also a generational cycle breaker. You know, and, um, you know whether that's conditioning that you know was passed down through your lineage, whether it's just generic. You know patriarchal conditioning that we've all been exposed to, especially as women. You know all of those are are really starting to crack and break open so that we can evolve through them. Right, and you know, not just past them, but through them, like, what have they taught us? What? Where have, where have we given our power away to these cycles and beliefs? And you know, who would we be if it wasn't for these cycles and beliefs that were handed, kind of handed down to us and kind of spoon fed to us our entire lives, right, and the examples that people made around us that we learned from, too right? That's also another big one.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, sometimes we don't know what we don't know, right. So when we see people behaving a certain way and we think that's normal, we think that's right and we think that's healthy, we tend to model the same behaviors and that's where family conditioning comes in. But sometimes we don't know that those behaviors that we're learning are not normal, they're not healthy, they're not meant to be perpetuated any longer. And it's not because the people around us were bad, I mean. Some cases, yeah, they could be. But in many cases, you know, it's how they learn to love, it's how they learn to be, it's how they learned what was right and wrong. Whether it is right or wrong is a different conversation. You know they were doing the best they could with what they knew.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, and you know I can definitely say that for my family and I've seen patterns. It's been so evident lately where I've been seeing patterns, not just within my own family but like my distant family, and you know we're calling cycles that. You know I saw it play out with my aunts and my uncles and you know that lived all the way on the other side of the world for me and I'm like there's something bigger here, there's a bigger conversation here, because I don't think, you know, it's not just environment, because if it was environment it wouldn't be with family that was, you know, thousands of miles away. You know I have very little exposure to them, but yet in my life I relived a lot of those same patterns. I perpetuated a lot of those same cycles and beliefs. So it was an environment a lot of those same cycles and beliefs. So it was an environment. Sure, some of the beliefs could have been passed down from my family, absolutely. But I think it goes bigger than that because, you know, as I've done the spiritual work and as I've dug into my lineage, what I've been learning is that these cycles have been perpetuating in my family for many generations.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And you know, I do believe that many of us alive today are breaking a lot of our patterns that have been evident in our lineage, that have been passed down from generation to generation to generation, because we're meant to do things differently. Now. We're meant to live different, we're meant to be different, we're meant to feel different, we're meant to believe different things, we're meant to be a more evolved spiritual being and therefore, the beliefs that we've carried with us for these last several generations can't come with us where we're going. And so I really do believe that a lot of us who are here and if you're listening to this podcast, I do believe that you fall into the same category too, where you know you have had one toxic relationship after another.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:No matter how many times you have set an intention that you're going to find healthy love and you're going to find a healthy relationship, you keep perpetuating these same patterns over and over again. You have been unable to break away and be yourself and you know you've struggled with the people pleasing aspect and people trying to please the people around you, and over giving and selfandoning and putting everyone else's prioritizing, what everyone else thinks before what you think and what you believe and what's truly right for you. And you know if that's been your story, that's something that you've struggled to break, even though you've been trying to. You know oftentimes you know you set the intention that you're going to, but as soon as you get pushback, as soon as you know someone makes you feel bad or you get the idea that someone's about to, you know, call you out or be upset with you or reject you in some way or whatever, you know you immediately want to backtrack and take back whatever power you just took and you you want, you're so tempted to just do what that person needs you to do or wants you to do in order to feel loved and accepted by that person. So you know, there's a reason why we've been perpetuating these cycles, there's a reason why we've had to face them over and over again and for many of us like we've had We've carried emotional baggage doesn't even belong to us.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so sometimes, you know, we'll have an emotional response to an experience that seems completely what's it called Like. It just doesn't like the punishment doesn't fit the crime y'all Like. It just feels like it's way more intense than it needs to be. But we feel it. It's very real, it's very visceral and it comes from a very real place. And that's because we've passed the karma, the trauma, the pain, the hurt, the fears, the beliefs have all been passed down to us from other generations. So sometimes we can be having a traumatic response to something that doesn't isn't really all that traumatic, but just because it reminds, it's reminiscent. The energy, the feeling, the, the, the, the, the, how it's making us feel, the sounds, the smells, the is, is, is bringing us back to a place in time that we can't even remember. But we just know it doesn't feel safe and that's all we can kind of recognize.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So I'm going through, and a reason why I share all this with you is because I do believe that many of you fall into this category if you've been listening to this podcast and if so, like my heart goes out to you it's not easy work and even in this period that I find myself in right now, you know where it's kind of like. You know, I know I've been misaligned, you know, and I have been for quite and I've been sensing it. I've known that it's been coming up for quite some time and it's not to say that it was wrong, like what we were talking about and what we were sharing, but it's come to a point where it needs to evolve and start. We need to start talking about different things, and I think I've been very resistant in doing that Because I've been trying to hold on to, you know, mentally, what I thought was the right thing for us to be talking about, the right conversations for us to be having. You know, and we're still going to be talking about a lot of these toxic patterns that we struggle with.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But I want to go a little bit deeper with you guys in terms of where they come from and why we're experiencing them, because I think there's a much bigger reason why we go through these things, or a bigger reason why we yeah, a bigger, much more important benefit to breaking a lot of these patterns and experiences that we're moving through, these cycles that we're moving through. And, yes, it means relationship, but also there is a higher purpose to all of this and I think that you know, what's become evidently clear for me in my life like, not just recently, this has been an ongoing thing is how much more I'm capable of when I'm not being sucked into these toxic dynamics constantly, you know, being sucked into these toxic dynamics constantly, you know and when I'm actually just taking my power back from a lot of these situations and really being intentional about where I place my energy and my and, and, yeah, my energy, my emotions, my thoughts, my healing, when I get really intentional on those things and I'm not diluting my energy because I'm focused on a toxic dynamic here or there, I can move mountains with that energy and I've only begun to scrape the surface. And that's the real scary part, and I think that, oh, it's scary and exciting, but I think that there is a part of our soul that is afraid of that, or, you know, our ego that is afraid of that power, and sometimes, what better way to keep us disempowered than to keep us in these toxic patterns. To keep us disempowered than to keep us in these toxic patterns. And maybe people knew just how powerful we as women really are and what better way to keep us disempowered than to keep us believing that we needed to chase being chosen and being caught in these toxic cycles in relationship so that we can be chosen, so that we can jump through hoops and perform and do our best to be perfect, so we can be chosen by a partner because our survival depended on it, when we were already chosen from the moment we were born and had the power to create worlds. And yet we've been squandering that energy focused on being chosen in toxic relationships At least that was my story.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Like I was doing, I was literally jumping through hoops of fire to be chosen from some of these duds I was dating for like the longest time you know, and it's like why? Why? My throat's actually starting to hurt right now. It's feeling very uncomfortable. There's so much that's wanting to come through. I actually pulled some cards before coming on here from the Magdalene deck. I haven't pulled on Mags in a very long time. Mags is my girl and every time I've been going through, every time I've ever gone through a difficult time. I pulled out these cards and I haven't pulled them out in a very long time and the cards that came out were Purgatory Code, creation, secret and Surrender, which is really where I'm at right now and I'm holding up, like the Surrender card is like right at the top, and I am.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I'm at a point right now where I am literally surrendering to what wants to come through me, literally surrendering to what wants to come through me, because I think that we get into our head about what we're supposed to be doing, the decisions we're supposed to be making, how we're supposed to be moving, moving through life and the life that it is that we want to create. But I think that sometimes that that that perspective you know, moving through the whole, figuring it out mentally, mentally deciding what you want your life to be, in itself is a trap, because we know on a soul level what we want our life to be and when we start to determine that mentally, that can often be distorted. It can be distorted with what our ego thinks we need to be in order to be loved and respected and cared for and chosen. It could be influenced by what other people think we should want and have in this life. But our heart, our soul, knows what it came here to do and create.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so when we surrender and we just kind of let the our intuition guide us to where it wants to go, beautiful things can happen beyond our comprehension. Because if you think about it, you know, many of us believe that we've kind of entered into a new world, a new era, and I'm looking at the co-creation card and I'm also looking at the purgatory card, which is all about letting go of everything that doesn't serve you. So I think we're in a place right now and, you know, let me know if you're feeling this but I was in a position where I was just ready to burn it all down and start over again, right, and then my intuition just quietly said no, no, no, no, we're not burning things down again. We've been there, done that. Sometimes you do need to burn your life down and start over. It is what it is.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I actually did a couple of episodes on the time when I literally burnt my life down. This is different. This is a very quiet, very soft surrender, because, because I've, I've kind of I've sensed the misalignment for quite some time, and again, it wasn't because I, what I was doing, was wrong. It's just that it was asking to evolve and I was resisting in the evolution because for some reason, I mistook that to mean, oh, it must've been, I've been doing it wrong. It's not. It's not that I've been doing it wrong. It's just literally asking to be evolved, and I've been trying to think of it mentally instead of surrendering to it intuitively.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so my invitation to you guys today and the reason why I've rambled on and I think I've rambled on for 20 minutes now is to reflect when are you in your life right now? Are you in this place right now where it feels like swimming through quicksand to get through your day? Does everything that you thought you wanted feel excruciatingly hard? Are you doubting whether or not you're in the right place, on the right path, with the right people, in the right relationships, in the right job? Are you constantly feeling like you're having to push and fight against yourself to get through your day and show up in all the places that you're showing up to, because deep down, there's something bigger that wants to be evolved through you?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And if so, I would invite you to listen to the upcoming episodes, because we're going to be talking a lot more about that as I move through this period myself. Now, I don't know what the outcome is yet of this. I'm just and this is why this episode is probably very scattered to you I don't even know what I'm going to call it. To be honest, I really don't. I don't know what I'm going to call it. I'm looking at these cards and I'm like what am I going to call this episode? What the fuck are we talking about here today? What I will say is you know, where in your life are you misaligned? What's been feeling wrong off? Today's a powerful day. It's a day of the scorpion the scorpion Scorpio. Full moon, the flower moon May 11th, I believe.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:What's been, what is it that's been kind of nudging at you to say, hey, this isn't right, this doesn't feel right anymore. We don't belong here. This isn't right for us. This isn't where we're meant to be. I don't like it here. This isn't what I would have chosen for myself if I had to do it over.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, and it's not to say that you know. It's not to say that we should like. You know, and it's not to say that you know. It's not to say that we should, like you know, throw the baby out with the bath water, like, just because things feel misaligned. You know, it's not necessarily time to start pulling the plug, like I said, it's not necessarily time to burn it down, but it is time to get quiet, and this is my invitation to you today, if you're moving through something similar, is to get quiet. Cut out the fluff. You know we all have a ginormous list of things that we have to do. How can you trim that down to the bare minimum? So do the bare minimum that you need to do in order to stay on top of things and get just the absolute priorities done and leave the rest. Let it go. Just let it go. Create space, create time for self-reflection, for exploration, for listening to and hearing what your intuition is trying to tell you about what it is that you truly want and what your next steps might look like, and do not try and rush this process. Do things you enjoy, that light you up, that give you energy.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I know I've been feeling burnout lately, and that's because I've been resisting this change. I've been fighting against myself. Burnout is literally you fighting against yourself, your natural rhythm, where your soul is calling you to go. You're fighting, going in a different direction, and that is exhausting and that's what creates burnout. So stop Stop forcing, stop forcing, stop pushing, stop doing anything that doesn't feel, that feels like you have to force yourself to do it. You know, unless it's like truly, you know, it's truly necessity, right, like my God, obviously we have to feed our children, if we have children.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Happy Mother's Day. By the way, you won't be listening to this on Mother's Day, but I am recording it on Mother's Day, so my intention is there for you. But, yeah, no, like I know that there's certain things that we have to do. I guess put them in buckets what are the things that you hate doing, that you feel forced to do, and then what are the things that you could kind of live with or without. You know what I mean.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And then look at the things that you feel forced to do and then break that down into two more lists of things that you have to do, like you absolutely have to do it, and another list of you know what. Maybe I believe, I think I have to do these things, but maybe I don't, maybe I can just not do them, you know, and the world will keep spinning and I'll I have to do these things, but maybe I don't, maybe I can just not do them, you know, and the world will keep spinning and I'll still have food on the table and you know it's not going to be the end of the world. So, and then, only do the things that you absolutely have to do, and if you don't have to do it, leave it. And that extra time that you make in your, in your day, in your week, you are only to use it for timeout, rest, reflection, meditation, journaling, whatever, whatever connection you know, tools that you have to connect with yourself, that that work for you. Do that time out in nature, um, walks in nature, um, listening Time out in nature, walks in nature, listening to meditation, music, painting, whatever you enjoy doing and how you enjoy quieting your mind.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Do that. And then do some things that let you up, that inspire you, that get you motivated, that get you interested and see what happens. Something is trying to be, I believe, co-created through us in this moment and unless we stop the thinking, stop the rationalizing, stop the you know, the, the mind, the monkey mind, from trying to jump ahead and tell us what is the best thing for us to be working on, unless we quiet all that down and quiet the noise and get really still and in a state of surrender where we are being guided and being led. I believe you know we're not going to get as much out of this moment as we could Think of it this way. If we are truly in a new space, in a new world, in a world, a new timeline, what if the way that we're meant to do things is unlike anything we've ever seen before? So we don't even know what exists? So then how would we be able to think, oh, that's what I'm meant to be doing, if we have no conscious thought of that ever having happened before, or existing before, or even knowing that's an option because we've never actually seen it? I know this is extreme the way I'm explaining it, but we have to think about it. Like the world changes, it changes all the time New technologies come into being.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:There was a time when we didn't think the iPhone was even a thing. There was a time that we didn't even think the cell phone was a thing. I was born in the day of the phone, with the cord that you used to like. You know, they used to hang on the wall. It used to have a rotary dial and it had a long ass. You hoped you hope to hell that it had a long ass cord that you could then wrap around the entire kitchen into your bedroom under the door and into your closet so you can try and get some privacy. While you were talking to guys on the phone and hope to God, your father didn't pick up the other phone. Okay, and here we are. We have internet, we have email, we have text messaging, we have fucking cell phones. Okay, we didn't have cell phones. We didn't have cordless phones. So imagine if, back in the day, when all we had was the rotary dial phones and we were supposed to develop a new phone, we only looked at what we knew already existed. We would never have come up with the cell phone.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I know it's like a stupid example. It's not a stupid example. It's a good example, I think. But you know it's like a stupid example. It's not a stupid example. It's a good example, I think, but it's like a very logical example to a very illogical conversation that we're having. You need to stay open for something that may not be like anything that you've seen or experienced before or that you know to be true, or maybe we need to just be in this place of questioning everything we think is true. I don't know. But something's happening and there is a shift and I am feeling it and I you know.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I put this out there because I do believe that, if you follow me, that you're probably feeling it too, and so my invitation to you is get quiet, make space, do less, take time, do things that nurture you body, mind and soul and see what wants to come through. You See what where maybe you felt misaligned. Just take note of what has felt misaligned for you and start to pull your energy back from it and don't immediately run out and try and fill that time with something else. Let the vacuum be there for a little bit, let the space be there for a little bit and see what the universe wants to bring in to replace it. I just feel like this is a very magical time, and again I'm being drawn to the co-creation card. Okay, so we are obviously co-creators, we're constantly co-creating with the universe. So let the universe give the universe space to do its part is the message that I'm hearing. Give the universe space to do its part is the message that I'm hearing. Give the universe space to do its part.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you're feeling misaligned, my invitation to you is do less, take time, stop pushing, stop striving, stop filling your schedule, you know. Cut back on the things that you think you need to do every day and leave spaciousness, leave time, Leave energy stores the things that you think you need to do every day and leave spaciousness, leave time, leave energy stores so that when the universe comes in to present something to you, there's space for it, there's energy for it and there's time for it. Right, universe can't come in if we're not leaving space for it. So I think that's the message for today is leave some space, especially if you've been feeling misaligned. Stop doing the things that are feeling misaligned to you. If you can Focus, do only the things you have to do and focus on taking that time out and making space.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I have a feeling and I just totally punched my mic I have a feeling and I just totally punched my mic I have a feeling that you're not going to be disappointed on the other side of this experience, and I know it's hard, because I know that there's this energy of constantly needing to do and be and produce and bring value, and I want to challenge that belief. And what would the world look like? How would life and the world and how we show up be different if we recognize that just by being part of this world and co-creating with it, we're already bringing value? Value, wow, I mean, you know. Think about it. If you're, if you're really you know, if you're really breaking generational patterns that have been in your lineage for hundreds of years, isn't just you being here in this experience and doing the spiritual work to break a lot of those patterns a monumental contribution to society without having to feel like you need to? You know what I mean. I want you to start thinking of things a little bit more outside the norms of what we've been taught to believe and how we bring value and how work is. These are all conversations we're going to be having.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I don't even know if I'm going to post this episode, because I feel like I still don't know what the fuck I'm talking about. I just know I needed to share this, so we'll see. If you're listening to this, then I decided to post it. If not, then it's in my trash folder somewhere. So, anyway, let me know which part of this message resonated for you. Hopefully more to come on this and hopefully I'd like to share how I'm moving through this evolution, because I don't think this is something that's going to be very quick. I don't think it'll take too long, but I think it's going to be a season of evolution and I don't want to pause the show for a whole fucking season. And you know, maybe through this evolution you know we can kind of evolve together. So we'll see. Anyway, that is my message for you today Massive love.
