The Femme Cast
Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship cycles, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria Rei, aka The Femme Coach—Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor. I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, waiting for validation, and abandoning myself in the name of relationships. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
Join me as we say goodbye to self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics, and hello to radical self-love, emotional freedom, and true empowerment.
It’s time to choose yourself and step into the love you were always meant for. Ready?
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Emotional Energetics™ & How I Move Through Difficult Emotions Without Getting Stuck (Moving Through the Storm, Part 1)
Today on The Femme Cast, we’re kicking off a powerful 5-part series called Moving Through the Storms, Upheavals and Massive Change, where I’m sharing the exact spiritual tools I use to navigate uncertainty, fear, and life’s biggest challenges with grace and personal power. Divorce, heartbreak, loss of a home, loss of a job, living on overdraft for what felt like an eternity. These were the tools that helped me through all of it.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed—whether in your personal life, relationships, or just with everything happening in the world—this series is for you.
In this first episode, we’re diving into Emotional Energetics™—how to actually move through difficult emotions without getting stuck in them. Emotions aren’t meant to hold you back; they’re meant to guide you. I’ll walk you through my personal process for recognizing, processing, and releasing emotions in a way that keeps you from spiraling into fear or anxiety. If you’re feeling emotionally charged, this episode will help you navigate your feelings with self-compassion and strength.
Let's do this.
And don't forget to come back tomorrow for Part 2, The Power of Surrender, Letting Go of What You Can’t Control & Reclaiming Your Peace.
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Hey you guys. What is up? Welcome back to the show. I'm so excited and grateful to have you guys.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I've decided to do a five part mini series on how to navigate difficult emotions uncertainty, change, transformation, upheaval, whether in life or in love. This is just about you know, when life just gets overwhelming and you're dealing with personal struggles, relationship challenges or just chaos out in the world that you do not know how to deal with or cope with or comprehend, it's easy to get stuck in fear and doubt. But what if the storm is preparing you for something so much better than you ever thought was possible? So in this five-part mini-series, I'm going to share my exact process for how I move through change and uncertainty with trust, grace and personal power. We're going to cover everything from emotional energetics to the process of surrender, mindset shifts, faith and reclaiming control. These episodes will help you to ground yourself, shift your perspective and take back your power from all of these circumstances, or at least, at least give you the tools in order to be able to do so, right. I mean, we're always it's never, it's never, it's never perfect, it's always a hot fucking mess. This just gives you some tools to be able to do some of the above right. So if you're feeling scared, if you're feeling uncertain, overwhelmed, stuck, emotionally drained and need a clear way to process what you're going through, if uncertainty in life or in love or in the world around you is making you anxious and you want tools to navigate it with peace and confidence, or if you're going through a difficult transition heartbreak, personal evolution, and you need support moving through it with strength and faith, this episode is for you.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I am going to be so honest with you guys and tell you that I have been leaning on these tools quite a bit lately and I am no stranger to change or transformation or upheaval. I've been through so many massive upheavals in my life, from divorce to losing a home, not once, not twice, but like three times and losing jobs. You know massive financial losses, heartbreaks. You know massive financial losses, heartbreaks, and you know I mean, if there's one thing I've gotten a lot better at, but sad but true but these are kind of the tools and the resources that I've cultivated that I kind of lean into when life gets fucking crazy, right and it feels really crazy. I'm going to be honest, like like there are days where I feel like I'm afraid to turn on the TV or like open social media, right, and what I'm going to see and I know that and you know this is like full confession, full transparency. The last time things got chaotic like this, I ghosted and I feel terrible. I feel like my oh my audience like a massive apology for that. Like I didn't really ghost the podcast, like I was still available on the podcast, but it was very sporadic, it wasn't like consistent and but I did ghost social media. I don't think I posted anything on Instagram for like a year and you know, I feel like I feel like I owe you an apology for that.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, it was a moment in which, you know, I could have shared a lot of my wisdom to help you move through it, but I don't think I was even moving through it in a very like, in a very empowered way. You know, I think it got the best, the situation got the best of me and my mindset right, and that's when I really cultivated a lot of these tools that I'm going to share with you today, cause I kind of I, you know I went through that moment, I went through that season kind of asking myself like how am I going to move through this, like the this is all beyond my control. It's freaking me out, like there's really nothing that I can do. So nothing that I can do. So how can I move through this and keep my sanity intact, right? And so these are kind of the tools that I cultivated in that season, and it was a very difficult season but I did move through it and I had a lot of miracles come through on the other end, you know, from making a massive financial bounce back from where I was getting a massive, taking a massive leap forward in my career and going from a part-time you know position, customer support role to, you know, basically, you know, borderline C-suite position, within a matter of a couple of years, like I, the transformation was like mind blowing.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And if there's one thing that I can say is that going into going into that period, it really felt like everything was just about to fall apart. And lately it's been kind of it's been very like like wow, can the world be any crazier right now? And so I'm kind of feeling that doom and gloom again. Honestly, you guys and I've been like I almost ghosted you again on social, but I'm like no, you know what. I'm not doing it this time, because this time I went through what I went through last time, came out on the other end, on top right, way better and shinier and glowier than I was in the beginning. Um, so I'm going to recreate it again with you guys and I'm going to share with you the tools that I use to kind of do that. You know and sorry, there's a train going by me right now, but I am not stopping this because I am on a roll Um, so I'm going to share that process with you. I'm going to share the steps.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I'm going to do it in a five-part mini-series so that they're short and digestible, so that you can kind of go back and listen to these and pick and choose which ones that you feel you need in any given moment. Please know I tend to do these in the order that I'm going to share them, but you can flip-flop back and forth, you can work on one for a while before you move on to the next. Like. This is really just intended to give you the tools and the like, the, the you need in your toolbox to kind of move through these times. So please just feel free to call on whatever it is that you feel you need, I, I would strongly recommend going through each of the the audios once from once, in order, from beginning to end.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So go one, two, three, four, five, listen to them all, try out the practices that I'm going to share with you and then, once you've done that, run through the first time of all of them in order. Then you know what, use them whenever you feel you need to use them in the order that you feel that you need to, and use them for the length of time that you feel like you need to like. The rest is up to you, right? I interchange these all the time and I will tell you that I have been leaning on these quite a lot lately, like quite a lot so, and they've been helping. They've been helping quite a bit so, and it's not perfect.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It's never going to be perfect. It's always going to be a hot fucking mess. The point is to get ourselves. You know I always think of like you know, hey, think about it. You know how you talk about the 80-20 rule in your diet. 80-20 rule adhere to you. Know if you can, if you can be. 80-20 rule adhere to you. Know if you can, if you can be feeling better than you were 80% of the time and just be a hot fucking mess 20% of the time. That's good. That is really good, especially in times like this, okay. So please don't try and get it perfect. Please don't try and be perfect. That's not what we're all about here. If you, if that's what you're looking for, then you probably want to get another podcast, because this is about really being human and being present and being vulnerable and being honest and having honest conversation, and there's going to be times where it's a little bit messy, and that's okay. The point is is that you have the tools and the wherewithal to kind of bring yourself back when you need to, and that's what we're trying to do here.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So I'm curious what's the biggest emotion that you're struggling with right now? Like to move through that's coming up for you. How have you been trying to move through it? Do you even know what the emotion is? Do you feel safe feeling your emotions? I'm really.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I really want to get a pulse check on where you guys are with processing and moving through difficult emotions. I'm really, I really want to get a pulse check on where you guys are with processing and moving through difficult emotions. So hit me up at the Femcast on the gram. You can just DM me there and let me know or you can just send me an email at mariaatthefemcoachcom. I usually get back to like I will be checking these and I'll try and respond to as many as I can. I'm usually quicker to respond on Instagram than email.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Just FYI, even though I have really thought about like ditching social media, like seriously thought about it, like fuck, like no, we're not, we're not going down this rabbit hole again. But here we are, like no, we're not going down this rabbit hole again, but here we are, but I don't want to ditch this time. So I'm going to hold on to the raft a little bit longer. We'll see what happens. So today is part one. So we're going to cover emotional energetics, okay, and how I use that part of it to move through difficult emotions without getting stuck or without them getting stuck in me, because here's what happens and here's how I discovered emotional energetics.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You guys, emotions get stuck in our body, right? Emotions carry so much energy. Like we're always about energy, right, and thinking positive things and having positive thoughts and saying positive affirmations. Emotions carry so much energy. People have actually said emotions are energy and motion and I can't remember who said that quote, but it's entirely fucking true. Like there's so much energy packed in emotion, especially the ones that are more intense on the scale, right, whether they be good or not, not, whether they feel good or not or don't feel good, um, it doesn't matter. They carry a lot of energy, and we know that energy can't be created or destroyed. It can only change its form.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So why the fuck are so many people telling you to ignore your emotions and just choose a different thought? It's beyond me. It's like we're literally holding on to the stuff that's changing us on a vibrational level and impacting us on a vibrational level, keeping it stuck in our bodies, totally mucking them, running amok with our energetic field and then wondering why we keep attracting all this crazy shit into our lives. It's because we haven't dealt with the feelings underneath. Right, you have to move through them. Emotions were meant to be felt, even the difficult ones, but hopefully this process can help you move through it with a little bit of ease. So, again, this isn't just for right now, this is not just for this season. Like this is anytime you're moving through difficult emotion being pain, sadness, hate, rage.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Rage is a big one and you know so many people are uncomfortable talking about it. But it is very real and it does happen, and I usually find this is my take on rage take it or leave it. Rage is the thing that you know comes up when you've been ignoring your anger and your resentment for too long, and now you're actually not just angry at whoever's crossed your boundary or whatever. Now you're also angry at yourself. That's just my take right. And you've held it in for so long that you're ready to explode. That, to me, is what rage is. You've held it in for so long that you're ready to explode. That, to me, is what rage is.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so, whatever the emotion is that you're feeling right now, I'm going to move you through. We're going to guide you through this process very quickly and try it out, see how it feels, okay. So the first thing is to connect with the emotion. So you really want to get connect with the emotion. You want to get present with it and centered with it. So I would invite you to just take a pause, if you can, wherever you are right now. If you're not in a safe place, then then you know. If you're not driving, do this if you're not driving or operating any heavy machinery. If you are, then just come back to this later. But just take a pause and take a breath and get centered and kind of focus on your heart space.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I just want you to just ask yourself and just have this inner dialogue. And sometimes it takes a little while in the beginning to really start to have this open and fluid conversation with yourself and your emotional body. But I just want you to imagine your emotional body as like a separate energetic being. Maybe give it another color, like if you could see your energy field, your emotional energetic field, like give it a color and get a visualization of what it looks like in your body, right, and then just get present with it, get centered, get focused and ask yourself what is it that I'm feeling right now? And if you can give that emotion a word to describe it, whether it's sad, angry, happy, peaceful, worried, fearful, whatever, it is right Give it a name. And then I want you to ask yourself why am I feeling this way? And I just want you to see what comes up for you. Maybe you get an image, maybe you get a name, maybe you get the smell or memory of something right and what's a good idea. If you're really holding on to a lot of emotion.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:What really works here actually is actually writing it out. So write out what you're feeling. Write down all your thoughts, all your emotions, what you're afraid of, what you're angry about, why you're feeling this way. Just get it all out on paper. You know there's something so powerful about you know, when we move through our emotions and we give them an outlet right. For many years, this podcast was my outlet right, but I also journal a lot and I always give my emotions some sort of a voice, some sort of a media where they can go to to kind of be expressed and acknowledged. Because who doesn't want to feel fully expressed and have their emotions acknowledged right? Let's start doing that for ourselves, and that's what really this is all about. So I want you to get it all on paper. I don't want you to worry about who's going to read it. I want you to be as honest and as real and as vulnerable with how you're feeling as you possibly can. Don't worry about anybody judging you. Don't worry about being positive. This is not what this is about. This is about really being present with what's coming up for you right now, in this moment, be really raw, be really authentic, be very real.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Now, there's usually two layers to what we're feeling. The first layer, or the surface layer, is the feeling of, you know, when we're trying to understand why we're feeling that way. Right, so let's say we're feeling angry. So the first layer of anger is usually I'm angry because so-and-so did this. I'm angry because they said that I'm angry but that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, that, back and forth, right. Then there's a deeper layer of anger. Why am I really angry? Like, okay, they said this, they did this and whatever. But why am I really angry? Like, go beneath that goal. You can either you can either imagine yourself kind of going beneath it or imagine yourself seeing it from a higher perspective. Whatever works for you. What is the lesson in that experience for you? Right? And what was it? What was it trying to call from you that maybe you did do or you didn't do, depending on you know the emotion that you're feeling.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Usually, if you're angry, you know what is it that you're really angry about. From that moment, you know if you can see it from a higher perspective. Why are you angry at this person. Why did they trigger this emotion in you? And you can say because in that moment you know, maybe it's I felt very disrespected. In that moment I felt like they crossed a boundary. Maybe I felt like I didn't uphold my boundary as well as I could have. Maybe maybe someone didn't treat me fairly and I didn't stand up for myself Like I want you to find the deeper layer, and it might not be you that you're angry with at all.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I'm just giving some examples here. You know it could very well be an external circumstance that you're upset about and that's all well and good. But you know, it's very important to be able to take that higher perspective to what you're feeling, right? Because too many times we get caught in that superficial top layer of what we're feeling, why we're feeling and we just project blame, right? It is so easy to just get caught up in that whirlwind of, well, they did this and they did that and they said this and then made me feel this way. And listen, I'm not judging, I do this all the time, but it's really important that we recognize, okay, emotions are usually asking us to look at something a little bit deeper. It's kind of like an iceberg, right? If you look at an iceberg, right, they say like the tip of the iceberg is usually like one third of the actual like berg itself, and then the rest of it underneath is like this big, like massive, like formation.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Emotions are a lot like that. They're so much more complex beneath the surface than we give them credit for. So it's important when we're having this conversation, when it comes to emotional energetics, that we talk to the whole of our emotional body, not just the surface level that we get so caught up in because we spend so much time in that top like 5%, right, and we think that's all there is to it. But it goes so much deeper. And this is where emotional energetics is so powerful, because you start to unpack everything that's contained within those emotions, what they're trying to show us, what they're trying to tell us, how they're trying to get us to navigate through life. And the first part of it is to have that conversation right with our emotional body.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you know, do that and then ask yourself, okay, like now that I've acknowledged what's coming up for me, I've acknowledged the feelings and why I'm feeling this way and what it's asking of me, what do I need right now, and how can I fulfill that need for myself Now? It's very important here that we also are mindful of again. There's a superficial needs, and then there's the real need. Right, the superficial or the unhealthy need would be, maybe a need to go out and have some fun. Maybe you want to go have a drink, maybe you want to turn on the TV and binge watch your favorite show, or maybe you want to, you know, hop, start doing some. You know scrolling incessantly on social media or shopping online you know these are all the things that we do to distract ourselves from what we're feeling.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I want you to go deeper. What do I really need right now? I need to be heard. I need to express myself. I need to have a good cry. I need to scream myself. I need to have a good cry. I need to scream into a pillow. I need to go to the gym and punch a bag for like half an hour, whatever right. I need to laugh. I need to sleep, I need to rest, I need to hydrate.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:What is your body? And it could be your physical body too but what are your bodies asking for? You want to look at your emotional body, like whichever is calling your attention. Maybe your emotional body needs you to cry. Maybe your physical body needs you to rest or hydrate, right. Maybe your mental body needs you to just stop thinking and just calm your mind. Maybe do some meditation, right? What is it that you need and how can you fulfill that need Right? And maybe you're getting like words, like okay, maybe you need peace. Okay, well, maybe that's how I can give myself. Peace is through meditation. Maybe you need rest, so maybe I can take a nap and that's how you give yourself that rest. Maybe I need to express myself. So I'm going to keep writing and journaling about what's going on for me and why I'm feeling this way, until I feel like I've satisfied that need Right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We have to get really good at soothing our own needs, and this is something that we're not really taught and this is where a lot of the toxicity and a lot of our relationship comes from. So very, very, very important. And then you know, once you've done all that, you know you've kind of acknowledged what you're feeling, why you're feeling that way, what do you need and how you can you fulfill that need? I just want you to breathe into the feeling, expand it if you can safely Breathe it in. Breathe into it, watch it expand and dissipate. Breathe in, watch it expand and dissipate on the release. Breathe in, watch it expand and dissipate again on the relief, and keep doing that until you feel neutral. Maybe it's not as intense, maybe it's a little bit more manageable. This is a cycle that will you know, when you work with me.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We go through this again and again and again to get you to like, move through a lot of the emotional stuff that's coming up for you, so that you can break a lot of those toxic patterns and those energetic attachments that you have to people who just aren't good for you, because a lot of times it comes from avoiding the stuff that's going on within us. Number one, we're avoiding it. Number two, it's attracting toxic partners on our behalf. It's such a hot mess, it's crazy, but you know, practice this. Practice this throughout the week. Practice this a couple times today, if you can, practice this whenever you feel that you need it.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:This is such a powerful practice and it's literally the first step to breaking all your toxic relationship patterns and helping you to cope with things that sometimes can be a little overwhelming and cause us to kind of just escape, right. Let's stop the escaping, because that's what we're doing. When we're attaching to toxic partners. We're actually it's a form of escape, because what better way to escape what's going on inside of us than to attach to somebody who's totally toxic, we can't control, we have to constantly please and worry about and navigate and self-abandon. Self-abandonment is literally escapism, just in a different it just we just think that they're the reason we're doing it. But it's not. It's actually, it's actually ourselves we're running away from. Um, they just, they just become the convenient excuse to do it. Sorry, I have to cough one second. Okay, I'm good, I didn't choke on my own spit, which I've been known to do from time to time. Anyway, um, so that is it for today.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You guys, let me know how this works, try it out, give me feedback and let me know how you're moving through emotions and what you're struggling with and what you've been trying, and has it been working? Do you even feel comfortable feeling your emotions? Hit me up with a DM at the Femcast on Instagram If you love this episode. It would mean the world to me if you would leave a positive rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify or wherever you're seeing this, help, this episode get out there to help people, especially right now. So until next time you guys, massive love.