The Femme Cast
Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria Rei, aka The Femme Coach—Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor. I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, waiting for validation, and abandoning myself in the name of relationships. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
Join me as we say goodbye to self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics, and hello to radical self-love, emotional freedom, and true empowerment.
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The Femme Cast
How Balancing Masculine And Feminine Energy Can Break Toxic Patterns And Attract Healthy, Loving Relationships
In this episode of The Femme Cast, we dive deep into the powerful dynamics of masculine and feminine energy, and how balancing these energies is essential for attracting and maintaining healthy, loving relationships. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in toxic patterns, drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, or unsure why your relationships aren't thriving, this conversation is for you.
I’ll help you understand how an imbalance in these energies—whether you're leaning too heavily into your masculine or your feminine—can create unhealthy relationship dynamics. By exploring the shadow sides of both energies and how they play out in your love life, you'll learn actionable steps to restore harmony within yourself and your relationships.
This episode is for you if:
- You keep attracting toxic, controlling, or emotionally unavailable partners.
- You struggle with feeling safe to embrace your feminine energy.
- You’ve been overly independent and feel like you're doing all the work in relationships.
- You’re ready to cultivate a healthier, more balanced approach to love.
By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to balance your masculine and feminine energies to become a magnet for emotionally available, healthy love. Tune in to reclaim your power and create the loving relationship you deserve.
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Hey you guys, what is up? Welcome back to the show. I'm so excited and grateful to have you here. We are going to talk about feminine energy today and the toxic lie that you've been told about feminine energy and what I would invite you to do instead. Now, here's the thing when it comes to masculine and feminine energy, this is something that, believe it or not, was introduced to me. Oh my God. I'm trying to count back the years and I wish you know how many times I've searched for my notes on this, like it's insane, how many times I've actually dug through old journals trying to find my notes and I couldn't find it. But there was a time I want to say it was around 2011 or 2012.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I woke up in the middle of well, it was like four, I think, four or five in the morning. I was staying at a friend's place. We had gone out the night before, came home semi-inebriated, crashed at her place, woke up at four and at this time, I was already in it. I was already going through what I didn only, what I didn't understand was happening then, but what can only be described today as a spiritual awakening, spiritual transformation, whatever you want to call it, and I was journaling a lot and a lot of my journaling was done at like four o'clock in the morning. I would wake up and I would have all these ideas and thoughts and messages and sometimes it's founded like my voice. Sometimes it sounded like something coming outside of me. It was, if you've ever listened to the book or read the book, conversations with God, and I forget the author. Now I was going through a very similar experience where I was writing messages from. I mean, I saw it as my higher self. You know, whatever resonates for you, whether it's whether you feel like you're getting guidance from a higher being or your higher self, to me it's all one in the same, it's all source energy. And so you know, I was doing a lot of this writing at four o'clock in the morning when everything was quiet and everything was kind of still and the day wasn't busy yet.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I remember that specific day waking up at my friend's place and I could not sleep. It was just something was just agitating me to get up and I looked around and tried to find where she kept her coffee filters and coffee quietly, so I could make a cup of coffee while she slept. And then I remember sitting there having a cup of coffee and thinking, oh my God, I have these ideas and I need to write them down. And I don't have my journal with me and I started to frantically look around her apartment for empty sheets of paper. I finally found them and I started writing down all these ideas.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I remember there was this drawing of a pendulum of masculine and feminine energy. And you know, in my mind, as I was seeing it, I was seeing this pendulum kind of like swinging from one extreme to the other, back and forth, and back and forth, and back and forth. And you know, eventually it kind of settled in the middle, and you know when. And then, you know, I kind of started to outline, okay, well, what does it look like when it's in one extreme and what does it look like what's in the other extreme? And here's what I believe take it or leave it. Here's what came through for me that day and how I understand the information that I was I don't know what you want to call it receiving in that moment and have been sort of dabbling in in the last decade and some years ever since, and that is that there is this rebalancing of masculine and feminine energy happening and I think that you know, prior to 2012, 2011, when a lot of people started to go through very similar experiences that I was having.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, as a result of the feminist movement, women became very much in their masculine and I remember, because I was, I was always one of these women. I was always very heavily leaning into my masculine. I was always very career-focused, very strategic, and I think, as women, we gravitated in that direction because I think we needed to for a season. I think we needed to tap into our masculine energy. I think we needed to tap into our strength.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I think, for many of us and I can't speak for everyone, but I do speak for myself in saying I didn't feel safe being in my feminine because I hadn't been around a masculine embodied individual who made me feel safe being in my feminine. You know there was always. You know a lot of my partners were toxic, narcissistic. You know there was. There was a lot of dynamics that that led me to feel unsafe, surrendering to and being in my feminine. And so you know, say about this, I don't think that what I was having was an isolated experience for me.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I think a lot of women were having that experience. I think that also we made it, the world made it very unsafe for men to be in their feminine and encouraging them to be solely in their masculine and not, you know, allowing them to be in their feelings and, you know, trusting their intuition more and letting go of logic and reason and action all the time and just kind of surrendering to the flow of things and surrendering to what is and surrendering to what was coming up for them. So I think we were living in a you know and I think I know, and we all know, and we see this now, that we were living in a very hyper-masculine society and I think that what we've experienced in the last decade and some, is this shift back to trying to move into a more feminine approach, which is so healthy, because I think, at the end of the day you know, here's how I see it I think that within each and every one of us, masculine and feminine energy exists. Whether you identify as a man or a woman doesn't matter. Masculine and feminine energy exist in both, usually in almost equal proportions. Everyone will lean more heavily to more to one than the other, and gender really has very little to do with it, to be quite honest, but typically we carry both masculine and feminine energies, and when we learn to balance them in their natural state, as they exist within us, that's when we are our most empowered self and that's, I believe, when we are a match for the ideal relationship to come into our world. Now here's the thing Like I said, it is not equally balanced within everyone. Each and every one of us, you know, depending on who we are not at all dependent on gender will lean either slightly more masculine or slightly more feminine, and I also do believe that, you know, these energies not only need to be balanced within us, but they also need to be balanced within relationships. So if we're somebody who leans a little bit more feminine, we will naturally attract somebody that leans a little bit more masculine, right? If we are completely feminine, then we will attract somebody who is completely masculine. If we are completely masculine, we will attract somebody who is completely in their feminine.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And usually, when we are too heavily into one or the other, that's when it becomes the toxic or the lower expression of the masculine or the feminine, right, that's when they become you know, not their highest and best self very disempowered or, you know, it becomes a bit of a power struggle, depending on which side you're talking about, right. A disempowered or a toxic masculine will come off very aggressive, will come off borderline. Well, they're abusive, almost like bullying, bullyish kind of behavior, controlling, demeaning, you know. That's sort of the toxic spectrum of the masculine expression. And then there's a toxic expression of the feminine which is, you know, very needy, very codependent, very manipulative, right. So both have their shadow elements, right? It is truly when they're in close balance with one another that they become healthy. This is a reflection of what we experience internally, but it's also a reflection of what we experience in our relationships internally, but it's also a reflection of what we experience in our relationships.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So, if you're constantly attracting partners who and I will speak to women right now, because I know mostly women listen to my show let's say, for example, you are always attracting men who are controlling, who are belittling, who are maybe even abusive or narcissistic, I want you to ask yourself where in your energy are you maybe being too needy, too attached, too codependent, not really honest about what you're feeling, what you're thinking, almost kind of coercing or needing or attaching to these unhealthy types of relationships? Right, and this is never to shame someone for you know being in an abusive relationship. But if you have a pattern of attracting hyper toxic, hyper masculine men into your reality, you have to look at, maybe, where are you leaning too much into your feminine and where do you maybe need to start strengthening your own masculine within you and stepping a little bit more into your personal power to level the energies out. Vice versa, if you're the kind of woman and I know this was me well, actually, it was both actually come to think about it and I don't know how exactly that happened. I'm still trying to decipher that.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I guess because I went, I also went from one extreme to the other. Where, you know, in times where I felt like I wanted, you know, where I felt like I was in my feminine and wanted to just lean on a man and trust a man and to be there for me, to take care of me, to love me and to protect me, I ended up attracting these toxic, narcissistic, almost bullying type of energies into my life. And then, when it became very unsafe, where I felt very unsafe being in a relationship with a man or being vulnerable with a man, or felt like I couldn't, I needed to kind of, you know, do it all myself, provide for myself, keep myself safe, keep myself guarded. I leaned very heavily into my masculine and what I ended up attracting was a lot of men who didn't show up, as you know, the partner that I needed them to be in order to create a life with. I actually even see that in my partner right now a little bit, where I'm looking at it and thinking, okay, like where have I been leading too much into my masculine energy and how is that translating into my relationship now? Right, so this conversation right, and I see this all the time oh, you got to be in a feminine energy to attract the right mate and only then can you have.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, the buzzword right now is like, well, I mean, it has been for a while. This whole like sacred union conversation or the twin flame theory and all these things that you hear about, that sends you down this toxic spiral of just consuming content after content after content. Listen, it is really simple the more balanced that you can be in your own energy, the healthier relationship that you will attract by that meaning. You know, know you're somebody who can take action, um, think strategically and logically and make decisions, empowered decisions, in your life but also then surrender and leaning into your feminine and your feelings and your, your co-creative flow. Mastering those two within you are what's going to attract the healthy partner to meet you where you're at.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you are too much in your masculine, if you are taking too much control, if you're taking too much action, if you're constantly thinking and analyzing and strategizing, you're going to attract somebody who is unable to meet you where you are and is almost going to feel like how do I explain this? Like someone that you have to now take care of. You know and nobody wants that. You know, nobody wants that. But if you keep being the one who's taking care of things, you're going to keep attracting people and places and things that you have to take care of. Is what I'm basically trying. And vice versa, if you keep leaning into the feminine energy and kind of sitting around waiting for Mr Right to show up and expecting to kind of be taken care of, you will be taken care of, but it probably won't be in a way that you really appreciate.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And this is a very basic, very basic explanation of what information I received that day. It was very detailed, I mean I think I journaled pages and pages and pages of information. Like I said, I've looked for it so many times. I wish I could find it, but I cannot. But I think the myth that I want to bust today is this myth, this toxic lie, that we have to always be in our feminine and always be in our feminine energy to attract the right partner or to attract the right relationship.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I do believe, like I said, generally speaking, you know, each one of us leans a little bit more into feminine or into our masculine. I do believe, generally speaking, as women, we tend to lead more into our feminine. But when I say women, I don't mean gender. This is such a nuanced conversation again, but I think if you identify as a woman, identify as a woman, right, you lean more feminine than masculine. That doesn't say you don't have any masculine energy, you do, right, you have both, but you just lean a little bit more feminine. And, generally speaking, if you identify as a man again, gender having nothing to do with this, but if you identify as a man, you generally lean a little bit more masculine energy, right, and there are exceptions to all of this. These are just general sort of statements, okay, there's always exceptions and there's always nuance in all of this that we're talking about here today, but let's just say, for the sake of you, know we're talking.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:This is the femcast, so I'm going to assume that most of you listening here lean a little bit more feminine than you do masculine. Okay, naturally speaking, you may not be doing that right now, and that is okay, right, but I think your natural state is to want to lean a little bit more feminine than you do masculine. So here's my advice to you right now Because, if that is you, you don't want to be completely in your feminine energy, which is what a lot of spiritual teachers are shouting off the rooftops these days. Yes, while it's important to be in your feminine energy and to embody it and to have a practice for getting in touch with it, very, very, very important in terms of life and, I think, probably very underestimated as a life strategy, is the importance of tapping into your feminine energy, but you don't need to be 100% feminine, all like. 100% of the time you can still, in its healthiest expression, it is meant to be in work and co-creation with your own masculine energy, again, probably leaning a little bit more feminine than masculine. Generally speaking, you should balance your time between the two, taking time between strategizing, between thinking, between making decisions, between taking action and creating your foundations to then, you know, taking a time out and getting in touch with your emotional body, your spiritual body, your creative body, and learning to flow and co-create with the energies around you. And I think that when you learn to use these two in harmony, that is when you really unleash your fullest potential. And I think that, you know, I mean we can get political about this, and I know my last post was a little bit political, which I don't normally do, but I mean, okay, here we are. It's 2024.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I think that, for so long, why so much of society was kind of kept from our feminine energy is because it really is the key to unlocking a lot of the power that has been holding us back, because we need both. We need both our masculine and both our feminine to be in our full co-creative superpowers. And when we drown out the one and leave the other one, we're not in full co-creative power. It's like it's like having the fire without the oxygen. This doesn't, doesn't do anything. You know, um, fire needs air in order to flourish. Um, the same is said here.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So, um, and you know there is there is something to be said for you know the fact that it is uncomfortable for us to be in our feminine energy. So, you know, going to the flip side of the coin, if you're somebody who's been in your masculine a lot, if you, if you're constantly thinking, strategizing, taking action, taking accountability, you know building your foundations and you know, maybe and this looks like being very career focused, being very focused on you know what your bank account is doing, what your, what your investments are doing, you're constantly thinking and strategizing and making decisions along that that very logical lens then chances are there's a part of you that doesn't feel safe being in your feminine. And this is an experience and a realization that I had very recently actually and I was talking with a friend about it, because we talk a lot about masculine and feminine energy in my world it's something that I've been really, you know, passionate about for a very long time and I can remember having the realization. It's like, okay, I have been very much in my masculine yesterday, yesterday, recently and I'm seeing that now and I'm seeing it in my thought process and I'm seeing it in some of the decisions that I've made and I'm just seeing it in the way that my life is flowing, like there's a lot of action, taking a lot of strategizing and a lot of analyzing in general and building a foundations, or at least trying to. But there's been a lot of disturbance there too, so a lot of it is. Do I have faith that I will be taken care of when I surrender and I allow myself to be in my feminine? And this has been happening for me. This lesson has come forward for me in a very practical way. Yes, it has shown up a little bit in my relationship, but I wasn't seeing it so much in my relations, and I'm actually having an epiphany right now as I'm having this conversation with you guys. Wow, this is interesting Because, as I mentioned on a previous episode of the podcast, you know we've been going through this ordeal with you know, taking care of my parents and being caregivers for them, and I think anytime you're in a caregiving role, you're automatically in your masculine, because that's what masculine energy does it takes care of, it protects.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So I think anytime you're in a caregiving type of role or parenting role, you're automatically in spending a lot of time in your masculine. So I know I've been spending a lot of time in my masculine this last year and, oddly enough, you know, as I mentioned, you know, lost my job in the beginning or probably at this time last year, and it's been a very tumultuous year, um, given everything that unfolded before, like you know, since that moment where I, you know, lost my job in October of 2023, and then having to provide the, having to be there as a caregiver for my parents ever since and not really being able to recoup the financial loss of having lost my job in October, you know it's put me now in a situation where I am in literally fight or flight mode right now and I saw how heavily I was leaning into my masculine, with the caretaking, with trying to provide and build my safe foundations, and not feeling safe to let go and not feeling safe to surrender and not feeling safe to just relax and trust the universe that will show up for me and to have faith in that. That has been really challenging for me. I feel like I'm in one of those moments where, if I let go of the ball, everything's just going to fall apart, and that's not always the case. It's these moments that teach us how to be more in our feminine and how to let go and trust in the process and trust in the unfolding, as unnerving and scary as that might be, that's what oftentimes, a lot of these moments are teaching us. And, like I said, I did see it, I started to notice in my partner and, like I said, like I mean, he is the most loving and emotionally available person that I've ever been with.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But that's not to say that the relationship does not have its complications. It totally does, and whether this is the one time will tell. But for right now, I don't feel like I'm getting the support that I need in this relationship. And so for me not that it makes it hard for me to let my guard down I feel like I can let my guard down, but I don't feel like, um, I don't feel like I'm being as supported as I would like to be in a relationship. Right, cause I do believe that in a relationship, we are meant to be our own individuals, right and and be self-sustaining, but also be able to come together and support one another. And there has just been, and there's different types of support. Like he's very emotionally supportive with me, but I don't feel like the foundations are there for what I need right. There's just too many complexities in the way and he's not able to show up for me in the way that I need him to. And it's not because he's a bad person or he's incapable, it's just circumstances being what they are.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So, you know, I look at that and I think, okay, well, if I'm looking at this energetically, is this a version of my partner that I'm attracting because I'm too heavily in my masculine and therefore not leaving? You know, his masculine will naturally recede around mine, almost, if that makes sense. The energies will always find a way to balance out. So if we're too much in one, the people around us will naturally like flow more towards the other because they will equal. They're always trying to equal out. Nature is always trying to balance these two energies, between masculine and feminine, always, always, always trying to find the balance, because co-creation in its ideal state is an equal balance between the two. So if you're being surrounded by how do I put this? If you feel like you're unsupported by the relationships around you, if you feel unsupported by life, if you feel like it's unsafe to let go of the control, that you have to do it all yourself, even though it gets exhausting as fuck. You know like it's tiring and you feel like you've got all these balls in the air and you cannot put one of them down. Otherwise the whole thing just falls apart. My question to you is where have you been leaning too much into your masculine and how can you start to trust and have more faith that you will be taken care of, faith that you will be taken care of?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I do believe that there is a very distinct correlation between how we view our partners, our father figures, and our spiritual, father or masculine, spiritual, masculine energy, whatever we call. Whatever we call that. I do believe that there is an alignment there that we don't talk about very often, in that if I don't feel, if I don't feel safe to let my guard down in a relationship to be taken care of, to be provided for, to be um to, to feel like my heart is safe, like I, like my heart is protected, if I don't feel that with a person, or if I feel like they, they don't. Um, maybe they have my back emotionally, have my back emotionally, but you know, physically or foundationally, they can't be who. I need them to be right, which is what I'm seeing right now. Do I have? Did I have the same feelings about my father growing up.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Maybe there were certain times, I know, where we hit some very difficult times that I probably felt that way, right, that I couldn't count on him the way I needed to. And, being a believer in God, do I trust in God to be there for me, to be able to catch me and provide for me? And the truth to that question really has been, up until this point, a big, resounding no. I've always felt like I needed to do it for myself, I needed to take care of myself, and that nobody, no person or energy, was going to be there to catch me if I didn't do it on my own. And you know, being in the situation that I've been in has made me lean into faith, trust, flow and surrender so much more than I ever have in my entire life, and so, really, only time will tell.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I mean, obviously, like you know, situations are really difficult right now and obviously there's a lot of, like I said, there's a lot of balls up in the air right now and who's to say, who's what's going to fall where. But I mean, eventually everything has to come down. It's a question of how everything comes down, but you know, can I use this as an opportunity? And you, if you're going through something similar, how can you use this as an opportunity to lean more into faith, to lean more into flow, to tap into your own co-creative superpower, which is really taking a timeout, taking a rest, doing all the things this world tells you you shouldn't be doing? Taking a timeout, taking a rest, getting in touch with your emotional state, learning healthy ways to express them and really doing a lot of inner reflection on who you are and what's coming up for you and how you would want everything to turn out in an ideal world, right, and how can you put a little bit of trust and faith in that? But then also take inspired action when the inspiration comes. You know, when the ideas come for you to do something, when you get that urge and that spark to do something, then by all means take action and do it right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But don't try and force it, because I know I've been doing this. I've caught myself doing this a million times in the last couple of months where I'm like, okay, what am I going to do? What am I going to do? What am I going to do here? What am I going to do? What am I going to do? I need to. What am I going to do here? What am I going to do? What am I going to do? I need to think. I need to think. I need to think. What should? What's the action? Stop, stop.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The right action or the right decision is going to come when you least expect it and when you're not trying to force it. When we're trying to force it and coerce it, it never works right. This is the delicate dance between being in your masculine and your feminine, and I know we're talking a lot about life and life decisions, but believe me when I tell you, this does translate into our relationships. Because when you can learn to take inspired action and go out there and live your best life and make sure you're taking care of yourself, but being able to take a step back and trust that the universe also has your back, that you are taken care of, that you can take a rest, take a time out, be in your creative flow and in your feminine superpower and trust that the masculine energy, spiritually speaking or individually speaking, is going to be there for you. That's when that perfect aligned partnership starts. That's when the perfect aligned relationship starts to show up for you, because now you're balanced in your masculine and your feminine energy, you're no longer leaning heavily towards one or the other right, and I think that is our biggest struggle as women.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I've worked with women, I've been on both sides of the fence where I've either attracted very controlling, very abrasive, very patriarchal kind of personalities into my experience and I've also attracted people who were very loving, very emotional, very, you know, soothing to be around, but just couldn't bring to the table what I needed to bring them in order to create a life together, you know, to create a strong foundation together. So again, they were either very, very masculine or they were and to the toxic side of the masculine scale, or to the toxic side of the feminine scale. So the point of this conversation is how can you balance those energies within yourself? And in doing so, that's when you know if and if you're, if you're somebody who which, which I'm guessing you are, if you're listening somebody who you know in your balanced state, tend to lean a little bit more to the feminine than attracting that right partner who's going to lean just a little bit more to their masculine to help balance things out, a little bit more to their masculine to help balance things out, because ultimately, that's the person that you want to be in relationship with, is the person that has that healthy balance, that compliment to you. But you have to be in your balance first in order to attract them into your world.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Going out there and trying to meet the guy who fits that category, you're never going to find him Because I'll tell you one thing even if you do find him out there, you are going to attract the virgin Between the two of you. Again, nature loves equilibrium. It's going to try and balance it out and it's not going to balance it out. If you're too much in your feminine, you'll attract somebody who's too much in their masculine. If you're too much in your masculine, you're going to attract somebody who's too much in their masculine. If too much, if you're too much in your masculine, you're going to attract somebody who's too much into their feminine, right? And if you, if you attract somebody who, who, um, like, if you're both too much in your masculine, you're going to start, the energies are going to start to want to balance out and it's going to get toxic. And if you're both too much in your feminine, again same thing energies are going to want to balance out and it's going to get toxic. And if you're both too much in your feminine, again same thing Energies are going to try to balance out and it's going to get toxic real fast. So you want to focus on your energy first.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So, looking at, are you taking action too much? Are you strategizing too much? Are you thinking too much? Are you analyzing too much? Are you worried too much about your future, your foundations, your home, your career, your material world, right? And how much time are you spent focused on those things? Right? Versus how much are you? You know, are you feeling your feelings too much? Or you know, maybe it's not enough for all of these, but are you feeling your feelings too much? Are you in the flow too much? Are you in too much of a waiting period, waiting for someone to show up, waiting for someone to take care of you, waiting for someone to love you, waiting for life to change for you? You know you're waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting and hoping things work out instead of taking any action. You know, again, it has to be a balance of both.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:In a perfect world, we're all out there doing the things we need to do to live our best life, taking care of you know our life, our home, our families, our responsibilities, but also taking a time out, feeling what's coming up for us, taking time for stillness, taking time to hear our higher wisdom, tapping into our own co-creative process. Because I'll tell you one thing the things we can create here in the physical are peanuts compared to what we can create in the energetics right. But we're so focused on creating things in the physical and the masculine that we forget our power to create in the feminine, in the energetics right. So that's where the magic is, and it's never going to be tit for tat. Oh, I did this, I worked and I made money for eight hours today. So now I'm going to sit in meditation for eight hours. No, it's not like that. It just needs to feel healthy and right, and you know when it's not healthy or balanced when. How do you know? That's a good question. You know when it's not balanced when.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Look at the people you're attracting. Are they too masculine or too feminine? That'll give you a good indication, because they're probably showing you what you're an energetic match for right. So you'll be the energetic match for the opposite of where you're at. So if you're very feminine, you'll attract people who are very masculine and to the toxic scale of the masculine side. So where are you being a little toxic feminine?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you're attracting someone who's very toxic feminine, where are you maybe leaning too much into your toxic masculine? And that energy is kind of balancing out in your relationship experience. And also, when you're too much in your feminine, you're often waiting, you're waiting, you're hoping, you're praying. You know, when you're in your too much in your masculine, you're constantly doing, you're constantly doing. You're probably getting burnt out, you're overthinking, you're probably not making the best decisions since time to take a timeout and listen to your higher wisdom. So that is it in a nutshell. Right, that's taking a very complex conversation, a very nuanced conversation and kind of breaking it down into sort of basic building blocks. Okay, but use your relationships as a guide and use how you're feeling as a guide. Those are going to be your best indicators to where you are energetically. And then start to make shifts and decisions around which energy you need to lean into more right, so that you can start to balance these two energies out within you as within, so without. So when you start to balance energies out within you, you're going to see this translate into your relationships and into your experience, and what you'll see is a tapping into your co-creative superpower.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I know, easier said than done, I'm working on this right now, so and, believe me, I have every reason in the world not to have any trust or faith right now. So it's taking everything in me and I totally get it, but I'm here for it and I'm, you know. Hopefully you are too. So if this is something that you're struggling with, obviously absolutely hit me up. The link is down below for an intensive session and we can work on this together and we can look at what your relationships are trying to show you and we can reverse engineer it to work into your favor and break any toxic patterns that are present for you. Otherwise, until next time, massive love you guys.