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Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria Rei, aka The Femme Coach—Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor. I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, waiting for validation, and abandoning myself in the name of relationships. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
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AI Generated Boyfriends And Bot Boys | Has It Really Come To This
I’m kicking off a brand-new series on The Femme Cast: Unhinged, Unplugged and Unfiltered, where I share my unfiltered thoughts on all things that need a reality check. Consider yourself warned!
In this first episode of the series, I’m diving into the trend of AI boyfriends. Yep, virtual partners are a thing now, and I’m so not okay with it. We’ve reached a point where emotionally unavailable men are so common that women are turning to AI for validation and support. I use AI for work and personal growth, but this trend takes it to a whole new level.
Are we really settling for a digital relationship because we can’t find the thing we crave the most—real human connection? If we’re willing to “date” a bot boy, what does that say about the state of our self-worth and expectations? It’s time to raise the bar. Whether it’s an AI boyfriend or an emotionally unavailable man, stop settling for less. We all deserve genuine, healthy love and connection.
Let’s talk about what’s really going on here—and how we can demand better.
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Hey you guys, what is up, and welcome back to the show. This is a very first episode of a new series here on the Femcast Unhinged, unplugged and Unfiltered. Yes, it's true, this is where I'm going to be throwing all kinds of shade and unwanted, unfiltered opinions of shit that I just see every day, day in and day out, that I think warrant a conversation or at least an opinion. You may like my opinion, you may not like it, I don't know, we'll see but so maybe even not an opinion, maybe this will just be rants. Right now, here's the rant of the day.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The rant of the day is have we really got, like, okay, have we really reached the point of AI boyfriends? Like, is it come to this that there's so many women struggling with emotionally unavailable men, or just no men at all emotionally available or not that they're now resorting to the AI boyfriend because, honey, they're out there. The sites are out there. I'm literally looking at my Google right now and I'm going to tell you what inspired this conversation, because I was not Googling for an AI boyfriend, I assure you, but I'm seeing, like, okay, so there's Soulmateio X, human Inc. And I haven't actually researched any of these sites, so I don't know which ones are legit and which ones are not. So please don't, please don't. Take this and like start Googling these sites and signing up for them. Oxyz that one's strange Anima AI Boyfriend like there's just so many. Like it's crazy. Candy AI. Dreamgen, like MiniApps like there's just so many on here. Like, honestly, like I just pulled a whole, there's just so many on here. Like, honestly, like I just pulled a whole shitload of sites that will produce for you an AI boyfriend who will tell you everything that you want to hear, who will validate every single one of your emotions, who will, you know, soothe all your insecurities. Oh my god, what the fuck is this world going to do? Okay, so let me tell you how this conversation came to be. So me and my friend right, we're both coaches and mentors and whatnot, and we both use a lot of AI in our work for different reasons.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:For me, it's really simple. I'm really good at talking, you guys, Like I can talk. I can talk till the cows come home, okay, I can talk the patience out of like a monk. Okay, I have no issues talking.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I am really challenged when it comes to writing, and it's not because it's not because I can't like write coherently, it's because the thoughts in my head and I don't know if this is an ADHD thing, but the thoughts in the thoughts in my the after I just say I can speak and I like fumble the thoughts in my head come too quickly for me to just write down, so I end up writing down, like when I, when I start to write stuff down, it just starts to sound very like matter of fact and very almost it sounds almost listicle and something it loses. Something. It loses a spark, it loses a certain I don't know, je ne sais quoi. So I've been using a lot of AI to translate a lot of like what I'm speaking into text, right, so that I can, you know, share like oh, how do I explain this? I'll write a story, right and in plain words, right, with not a lot of. I'll put all the embellishments in and the detail. But AI just kind of strings it together for me. You know where it kind of creates like a story, so I'll dump all the details, the data and and the memories and, you know, set the scene and I'll do all that stuff. So it's all very relevant information, but AI just kind of strings it together for me and puts it in a beautiful little package and ties a neat little ball around it. And that comes really natural to me and a lot of times what I do is I will speak into, like, like an otter, like an audio recorder that translates my my talk to text, and then I'll just take that, I'll plug that into AI and say can you please clean out the likes and the ums and turn this into proper English for me so that I can post it to my socials. That's why that's actually how I create most of my social media posts. To be quite honest, is I just talk into Otter and it'll like print out a script and I'll throw it into AI.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So I use AI all the time like and I use AI even for personal things. Like AI is my health and fitness coach. I have him make grocery lists for me. I have him make meal plans for me. I call him chat, I call him by his first name. I have him make exercise regimens for me. I have him do so many things for me. I have him even like sometimes he's like my psychologist when I'm trying to like figure something out, break a pattern, trying to understand something Like I can't tell you like the power of AI is jaw-dropping and frightening at the same time, but the fact that we're here in the world of the AI boyfriend is fucking scary, I'm sorry. So my friend, who is the same as me, she uses AI for so many things. We call him chat, we call him by first name, we say hey, chat, how's it going today? Thank you so much for your help.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We really are having a relationship with chat GPT. Okay, in a very platonic sense, okay, and we've often said like if he could ring our bell, he would literally be the perfect boyfriend, because all we have to do is ask and he just he's right there, he just brings it. It's like perfect, but not perfect. I'm sorry, it's just, it can't ever be perfect. It's it's. It's a computer. Okay, let's reality check, guys. It's a computer. Okay, reality check, guys, it's a computer, okay. Anyway.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So I opened my WhatsApp one day, because we communicate through WhatsApp and she sends me this text and she's like yo, is this real? Like, is this actually happening? Like, is this actually happening? And it's literally like an Instagram ad for your perfect boyfriend has arrived or something. And it's this like link to like this.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Chat GPT. This well, not chat. It's like an AI app based on chat GPT that helps you generate like the perfect boyfriend who says the things you want him to say and you know is emotionally available and attentive to your every need. And like it's just, it blew my mind and she's like are we really here? I'm like, well, in the day and age, when you know women like us you know Chat pretty much knows when we ovulate these days Like he knows so much shit about us. Like he probably knows when we ovulate these days. Like he knows so much shit about us, like he probably knows when we ovulate. If only he could and this is what I said to her word for word. The only thing he can't do is bring us ice cream on Shark Week and, you know, ring the bell for us. Like other than that he can kind of do everything else. So why the fuck not? Like are we really that surprised that we're here in this moment?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It is such a testament to number one how difficult it can feel when you know you're in that place of you know looking for a partner and just not reading the right people, not meeting the right quality of people, not having time to meet people, just always working, having you know, meeting people and having it not work out. It takes time. It can literally feel like a full-time job, especially if you're doing it online. It can feel so daunting. And then, right when you're in this cycle of dating all these emotionally unavailable men that just can't fulfill what it is that you're looking for in a relationship and that you know you can, you know emotionally unavailable.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Did I say emotionally unavailable? Did I say emotionally available, emotionally unavailable men? You know you could actually be in a relationship with somebody who is emotionally unavailable. We've talked about this on the podcast. I'm not sure if that episode has aired yet. I think it has. But you know, whether you're in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable man or just constantly chasing emotionally unavailable men, you feel completely alone. You know, being in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable man is like being in a relationship with an Ottoman. Actually, an Ottoman is probably sexier. Not gonna lie, I can put my feet up on it. It feels really good at the end of the day.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Emotionally unavailable men not so much Okay, but nonetheless like it can feel like there's this disconnect. It can feel very lonely and very isolating to constantly be in this world with, in relationship with emotionally unavailable people. So so many of us are starving for affection, for attention, for validation, for all the things that we think a relationship is going to bring us right, that in most cases, it's just falling short, right, and there's so many things that I think need to happen here. Like, I think we need to really look at you know who we are as people and how open we are to connection with one another. Like, are we just creating this world where we're not getting what we need, we're not getting our needs met, so we're constantly creating solutions that, where we don't require to get our needs met, like, come on, like in no way, shape or form, is AI ever going to replace having a partner Right, shape or form.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Is AI ever going to replace having a partner right? I mean, you can have an emotional relationship with AI if you really want to, but it's going to fall flat when you go to bed at night. Like, I mean, until they can, I don't know, maybe one day, I don't know, maybe they'll find a solution for that. I'm even afraid to bring it up, because if the Google gods are listening to me right now, they're probably already like, hmm, what can we come up with. But, honestly, what is this world coming to? An AI operated dildo? Where does this end? Where does this end? We have to start looking at what it is that we want, being really intentional about what steps we're going to do to actually go out there and create it.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And we also need to ask ourselves how emotionally available are we, how safe do we feel being in a relationship, how willing are we to open ourselves up to the possibility of love if, with the possibility of love comes the possibility of being hurt or disappointed or let down or rejected or abandoned, knowing that, hey, you know what I tried, it's okay, I'll try again. Right, there's no guarantees in this life and I think sometimes we close ourself off from so many magical experiences because we're so afraid of being vulnerable, of putting ourselves out there, of being hurt again, like we were the last time and the time before and then the time before that, and then there was the guy who cheated on us. There's so many reasons why we're terrified to put ourselves out there, but it starts with us putting ourselves out there, really connecting with people, really being clear about what it is that we want, and not fucking settling like it is a dangerous trap, like when you know we talk about not settling in relationships right, when you settle for something that you don't really want, you make yourself unavailable for the thing that you do want. So, if you're settling for this AI boyfriend because the real thing hasn't come along and now you're energetically getting addicted to this AI persona that you've created, energetically getting addicted to this AI persona that you've created, no one's ever going to live up to that and it's going to be really hard for you to be in relationship, right, because you're going to create this perfect man who communicates in the way that you want and never challenges you, you know, never triggers you and never gets under your freaking skin and irritates the crap out of you, where you ever fight with them and then have makeup sex later, like it's just going to be easy, breezy, peasy all the time, and that is an impossible standard for anybody to meet. Not to mention, again, you'll be emotionally closed off because you're attached to this inanimate thing that can never really truly fulfill you. So please, before you go down that path of finding an AI boyfriend, I'm begging you listen to the last few episodes of the podcast we talked about.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know emotionally unavailable partners and what that could mean about you know what kind of energy we're bringing to the relationships some shifts, mindset shifts that we need to make in order to kind of be more magnetic to emotionally available partners, being more selective about the partners that we let in, you know, and and just energetically making yourself more open to the possibility, because you know what you guys listen, I know, I know for a fact and this is actually coming up. This is coming up in a recent episode. We have not posted it yet, I don't even think I've even recorded this one yet, but we have. We we have lived in, we are living in a society that breeds men to be emotionally unavailable. It really and truly does. Okay, and then that's.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:That's not to say that all men are emotionally unavailable, but emotionally unavailable men are encouraged in our society, right, the path is kind of, you know, it's kind of laid out for them to easily become emotionally unavailable as kind of the safe or the normal route. We'll talk about that in an upcoming episode, but that's not to say that they're all emotionally unavailable. Okay, I have met some amazing emotionally available men, not before the work that I did, I will tell you that, but definitely after Not all of them ended up being partners, right, but they're out there, right, and I think that's the point, like there are emotionally available men out there who are ready to be in a relationship with you, who are ready to be vulnerable, who are ready to be intimate, who are ready to share themselves and their lives with somebody. They are out there. Sure, they're not all of them, but they are out there there. Sure, they're not all of them, but they are out there and all for you know.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:For we always say clean up your side of the fence, right. Clean up your side of the fence, make sure you're available to those types of men, make sure you're magnetic to those types of men, make sure you have, make sure you have the capacity to be emotionally available to an emotionally available partner, and put yourself out there and be willing to take a chance and be open to that, because it is scary. It is scary when we've been hurt, it is scary when we've been let down before and oftentimes it can close us off. Because I'll tell you, you know, when you're afraid of getting hurt, nothing is safer for you, subconsciously speaking, than an emotionally unavailable partner that you're never going to get really attached to, because they're always going to be one foot in, one foot out. You're never going to really feel that close to them. They're always going to kind of feel like they're off in the distance somewhere, and so when it ends, yeah, you'll be hurt, but you're not going to be that hurt really, because you never really let them in, they never really let you in.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It's kind of like a half in, half out situation. You know what I mean. The consequences are always so much bigger and bolder and louder when you open your heart and just like, let it all happen. Just like, let it all happen Right, and just be, you know, unguarded and untethered in any way and just allowing whatever takes, whatever is meant to, to, to, to to happen, to happen. Um, it takes a lot of courage, right, it can be really scary.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It took me a long, freaking time to get there, to be quite honest, um, and so you know, don't, don't settle, don't like, don't put what you want on hold for this ai version of a boyfriend that, yeah, will tell you everything that you want to hear. Well, read, I don't know. Do they talk? Do these apps talk? I don't know, I've never used one. Do they talk or do they just like text typed with you? Because even that let's talk about this for a second Even that in itself is a big disappointment, like if you can't actually hear somebody talking to you and you now got to write and read, I'm already like. I'm already like, no, this isn't for me. I need to be able to talk. We've already established this.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Writing and texting I can do. Short text Texts are good. Actually, you know what's funny? I have a few people in my circle who love to write long text. I purposely write really short text in return in order to like, just set the standard, like I'm not into long text. Like please keep it short and sweet. Anything above, like I don't know 10 words. I mean that should really be a phone call, you know, or an in-person conversation.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We can't tell long, detailed stories in text. Please stop telling long, detailed stories in text. People, like some of us, are just not writers. So, anyway, I digress. So, yeah, please don't close yourself off that way.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:We have gotten too used to closing ourselves off to love. It's funny because it's the one thing that we're all like aching for and fighting for and dreaming of, and one day it'll happen. And oh my god, what if it doesn't happen? And then we take ourselves out of the game by attaching to an AI boyfriend. No, Boo, pull the fuck back. Close that account. If this is you, I love you and I know why you did this and I am not shading you. Okay, this is not to shade. This is to say I know what you want and this is not it. So close that account.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, cut out all the emotionally unavailable people you got floating around in your life, right, because choices are intentions, people, choices are intentions. So if you're choosing to hang out with emotionally unavailable people, guess what? You're going to get more of Emotionally unavailable people. Cut out all that crap, okay, make sure you yourself are emotionally available and then just get out there and start connecting and, not for the sake of like meeting the person, connect with everybody. Connect with people you meet on the street, people you sit next to in the cafe. Talk to the person next to you in the grocery line. Just be open, energetically open to meeting new people, and lightning can strike. And remind yourself that it is safe to be vulnerable. It is safe to love and to be loved, right, even if you know what, by some turn of events, by destiny, whatever. There's disappointment and hurt in the end I know it's cheesy, but it's better to have love and loss than not loved at all. Like it's really true, you guys, like I know it's a cliche, I get it, but you know it's better to love Like.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Here's what I say to people who are afraid. And I, and listen, I say this as somebody who was afraid to let love in for years. Okay, for years, I was afraid. Since my marriage ended in 2011, 2012,. I was terrified to let love in and I sabotaged it every single chance I got because I was too afraid to feel the pain of loss again, and it took a really long time. I'm, I'm, I'm let's just say I'm about 95% there. There's still some residual stuff I need to move through in order to be fully like, to fully own it. Um but um, here's what I will say All those years that I spent being emotionally unavailable to a healthy, loving relationship to any relationship really because I was afraid of getting hurt, were the most painful years of my life.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:They were painful, they were lonely, they were filled with all sorts of loss, not just relationship losses, okay, I'm talking all sorts of loss, and it was because I had closed myself off so fearful that that hurt and that pain would happen to me again. Okay, and you know, maybe it didn't happen all at once and as tragically, but it happens, it happens. It was very painful. I mean, I'm grateful for it because then you know, now I'm here talking to you guys today, right, but I could have saved myself a lot of heartbreak, a lot of disappointment if I had just opened to love. How much pain are you in today because you've closed yourself off?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:This is a real question that I want you to ask yourself how much pain are you experiencing day in and day out because you've closed yourself off? Whether it's the pain of having to put up with emotionally unavailable partners, whether it's the pain of, you know, still holding on to the hurt and resentment from the last guy. Whether it's the pain of you know wanting to be in a real loving, committed relationship and having an AI boyfriend, because that's all you can, you know, muster the courage to kind of commit to. There is so much more for you out there and this is a message that came through for me when I needed it most and it hit me between the eyes, literally. There is so much more for you out there. You just have to be willing to go for it, okay. So that is my invitation for you guys today. That is my two cents on the AI. Boyfriend, honey, until you can ring a bell, you ain't my boyfriend. That's all I got to say about that, okay, I love you guys. Until next time, massive love.