The Reinvention Queen Podcast | Reinvention After 40, Midlife & Your Next Chapter
The Reinvention Queen is a podcast for women over 40 who are ready to figure out who they are now, what they actually want, and what comes next.
Sometimes life blows up for you. Divorce. Career changes. Financial upheaval. Loss. Empty nest. Relationships that end. And sometimes you finally realize the life you built simply doesn't feel like yours anymore.
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Who am I now?
What do I want?
What does my next chapter look like?
I'm Maria, and I'm The Reinvention Queen. I explore midlife reinvention, starting over after 40, self-trust, confidence, career, relationships, purpose, identity, and the messy, beautiful process of coming back to yourself.
Through deeply personal stories, honest conversations, spiritual insight, and practical reinvention tools, I help women let go of outdated identities, reconnect with themselves, and consciously create a life that actually feels like theirs.
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And sometimes the woman you thought you were supposed to be is the very thing you're ready to leave behind.
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The Reinvention Queen Podcast | Reinvention After 40, Midlife & Your Next Chapter
How To Manifest Love Using My Love Letter Manifestation Method
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Have you ever scribbled a love letter to someone who doesn't exist yet? I know...sounds crazy right? But once upon a time, that's exactly what I did in my quest for a romantic relationship, and the results were nothing short of magical.
This episode is for you if:
- You're struggling to attract the kind of relationship you want, and everything you've tried so far feels awkward and misaligned.
- You're desperately wanting to uplevel an existing relationship.
- It doesn't even seem possible that you'll ever attract a healthy loving relationship, given the 'hot mess' that is your life at the moment.
If any of the above sounds like you, then join me on The Femme Cast for an intimate reflection on this unique journey, where I share how I went from online dating fatigue to manifesting more loving and aligned relationships, by using The Love Letter Manifestation Method.
This episode isn't just about finding love; it's a testament to the enchanting effect that living with intention can have on your life. Whether you're navigating the dating scene or deepening your current relationship, my personal anecdotes and insights offer a fresh perspective on attracting the love life you've always wanted, but never thought you’d find.
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Dating Struggles and Manifestation Methods
Speaker 1Hey you guys , what is up ? Welcome back to this show . I am so excited and grateful to have you here today . I am so excited for today's conversation . This was such a game changer for me . It was literally like tapping into magic and it was so much fun .
Speaker 1So this is my love letter manifestation method the fastest way to attract the relationship that you want with ease . This episode is for you If you're ready to find the right relationship , but have no clue where you're ever gonna find them . You've been trying to attract the relationship that you want , but it seems like you're always attracting all the wrong relationships . You're resorting to methods that really don't feel aligned for you in order to meet your potential partner , and maybe you're in a relationship also , but you're just looking to get a little more out of your partner . This episode is totally for you . Please stick around and pay attention . Okay , so let me give you a little bit of backstory here .
Speaker 1So I've had a very I was gonna say love , hate relationship with online dating , but that would be a total lie . It's like a hate , hate relationship . It's like a dislike , hate relationship with online dating , and this is not a new thing . This is like you know . This has been me like for as long as I can remember . I've never liked online dating , although I've tried it numerous times . I keep thinking I'm gonna be pleasantly surprised , even though the last 10 times were total dud and disappointment or whatever . I'm like maybe it'll work this time . I probably have a dating profile on every single fucking dating app out there . Like , if it's out there , I'm on it , but I'll be like the person who's been inactive for like five years and probably archived , and you probably just see that gray outline of a human on my profile . Honestly , like I feel like I've tried and like please let me know if you're out there and if you can relate to this . Like I feel like I've just tried so many times and every time I give it maybe like a week or two and I'm like no , I can't do this . Like let me know . Like , are you out there ? Am I alone in this ? Because this was a serious .
Speaker 1There's so many things I could go on about , all the things that I don't like about it , and maybe that's kind of the energy that I'm kind of coming in with and maybe that's why it's been such a pathetic disappointment for me and I'm owning that like I get it , I just don't enjoy it . It feels forced , it feels eh , it's like the best way I can describe it honestly and I think that you know , like , looking back , right , my first , so my first experience with online dating was just horrendous , right , and I just kept going because I just kept hearing , like well , this is what it's like , and you kind of have to sift through all this to find the one that you want , and I'm like , and so I stayed pretty , like I stayed on the app for quite some time and then I was like fuck , like no , like I don't know , I was exhausted . I was exhausted . I was coming home from work , constantly reviewing profiles , responding to messages , sending messages out , not hearing anything back , starting great conversation . Then it fizzles off . Or and this was my common complaint Like please , please tell me , I'm not the only one who struggles with this . You go out there , you start talking to the guy . He seems to check all the boxes , right , but he can't hold the conversation . Like , you feel like you're constantly trying . So what do you do ? So what do you do on the weekend ? So , you may like do you have kids , do you have a dog , do you have a cat and do you like vacation ? Do you breathe ? And all you get is like answers to your questions , but they never show any interest in asking you anything back . Oh my God , exhausting . Learn to hold a conversation , right . Anywho , that was like years ago and , like I said , like I tried many , many , many times to go back , but most recently , the last time I made an attempt at online dating was after my seven year relationship hiatus and I really started to feel like I was ready to get back out there Now .
Speaker 1During this hiatus , I did not go on the apps at all . I met a few people that I thought maybe you could be potentially my person , but I was . I didn't . There was no dating and I was quickly no , I'm not ready for this , this isn't for me . This doesn't feel right , like I just I was very quick to kind of shut it down . So , although I kind of mentally entertained a couple of options , nothing ever really transpired . It was always kind of dead in the water before it started . So and I was fine with that , to be quite honest , that it was my , that was my choosing right . It was this either not aligned , didn't feel right , didn't feel like the right time , didn't feel like the right person , et cetera , et cetera , et cetera .
Speaker 1After the seven here hiatus was done , I kind of felt like I was ready to start dating again . I feel like you know what . I'm in a place right now where I feel good , I feel confident . I feel like I know what I want . I feel like I'm really clear . I did the work that we talked about last week , where it's all about you know , trying to discover who you're your perfect person like , who he is and what he's like and how do you know when you find him right . That's what we talked about last week . So if that's something that you're struggling with , go and check out that episode . I swear to God and I'm just thinking out loud I could probably record an episode on my dating horror stories . Drop a heart somewhere in the comments or wherever you're seeing this if you want that , because , oh man , I'll share one today , but anyway .
Speaker 1So after my seven year relationship hiatus , I thought you know what , let me give it one more try . And here was my thought process right and going back in . People were like why are you going back in if you can't stand it ? Like you legit like hate going on the apps . I said , well , you know what ? Here's the thing I've done a lot of work , I've worked on a lot of my beliefs , I've worked out my self-worth issues , like I feel really good about who I am and what I have to offer . So maybe from this point , I won't attract the same type of people anymore . I started a profile .
Speaker 1Me and my friend , sarah , who I've had on this podcast before , were going through my profile , trying to make it like super juicy and all about me . Like not like you know , not like a bunch of fluff , but like literally , this is who I am , love it or fucking leave it right . And so and I think you have to really come at it from that attitude like because , honestly , like , if you're putting yourself out there and you're online dating , you're going through all this work , you're sifting through all this I'm not even gonna say the word sifting through all these options . Like , put it out there who you really are , because you don't want anybody who's not gonna love you for you . So put it out there , be real , say this is who I am , love it or fucking leave it . Like honestly , if you don't like it , swipe left , keep going . If you dig it . If you're down swipe , right , let's see where this goes . You know , just be open to that and be okay with that . You know , think of the swipe left as someone saved you a fucking headache . Okay , don't think of it as you're not good enough , you're not worthy , you're not pretty enough , you're not smart enough , you're not sexy enough , you're not whatever enough . It's gonna have nothing to do with that . They just saved you a headache cause you weren't a match . And so not to say that they're a bad person for swiping left not at all . It just means that you know you don't want to get attached to somebody who's really just not for you , and the person who's not gonna love your profile and love the things about you is really not the person for you . Okay , so that's a little rant on that . Maybe we will do like a healthy online dating although I don't know if I can speak to a healthy online dating experience , cause I've never really fucking had one . But anyway , okay , I digress .
Speaker 1So , after my seven year relationship hiatus , I jump back on the app . So I'm like I'm doing it . We're going full throttle , like it's happening . Did the thing set up the profile , did all the stuff , took the nice full profile picture . Right , added some fun little lifestyle pictures so somebody can really see what I'm all about . I start talking to the sky .
Speaker 1You guys , this guy was like he was hot , like he was like , and he was like in his 40s . He had like a great career . He had like , from what I could tell . Anyway , right , beautiful home , cute dog that you just want to like . You can just see yourself , like you know , going out on the weekends and taking your dogs for a walk together , right . Suddenly the postcard , the picture , the picture , perfect . Life starts to come into focus , right , and you're like oh , this guy's great .
Speaker 1We weren't talking 15 minutes before disaster struck . Okay , we're up in the chat and we're getting to know each other . And he's like can I ask you a personal question ? Right away I feel a twitch in my solar plexus . I'm like oh fuck , here it comes , guys , when I tell you what happens next , when I tell you what happens next , I literally blocked the app immediately from my phone . I uninstalled it . I was like I am done . So he asked me . He's like I'm trying to remember exactly how he worded this . Do you have ?
Speaker 1I think he used to ask something along the lines of do you have a problem if somebody really loves your feet Already . I'm like oh , because I hate feet , I hate my own feet . Like , I cannot touch my feet . I put lotion on them every morning and I'm like eek . I'm like , I beg your pardon , he's like .
Speaker 1If your partner , he's like oh , no , no , oh , this is how it started . He's like what's your favorite pair of shoes ? That was the first question . I'm like , huh . He's like what's your favorite pair of shoes ? I'm like and I can't remember what I said at the time I think I might have said ballet flats , because those are , like usually my go-to right . He's like would you ever , if it pleased your partner very much , would you ever wear the same pair of shoes every day for 30 days with no socks ? If it turned on your partner ? Take a wild guess how I responded please , bye , ha , ha , ha , ha , bye , bye . Oh , hell , no , we ain't going down that road . So listen , no judgment . I know people have foot fetishes out there . I get it . It's a normal thing . Not for me . Like , just not . Like I said , I don't even like my own fucking feet . So I was like wow , is this what the world has come to ? So I deleted the app uninstalled .
Speaker 1I'm like , how am I ever gonna meet the fucking guy ? Like , seriously , and my friends are telling me , like you're always creating content in your living room , you ain't gonna meet him in your living room . I know I get it . And then my parents , too , are always on my case . So , like you know , you gotta go out , you gotta do things . You're never gonna meet him at home . But then they always want me to spend my time over there because I'm always taking care of them , cause I'm a for those of you who don't know most will care give it to my parents . So I'm with them three or four times a week . So it's like , guys , I'm not gonna meet him here in the living room . Maybe I'll meet him when we're running to the pharmacy or the doctor's office , but he might not be in my age group , right , okay . So I'm like , how am I gonna meet this guy ? I'm like you know what fuck it . I am not gonna stress this anymore , I'm just gonna trust that he's gonna show up .
Speaker 1So I went about and started , like you know , just living my best fucking life . You know doing the things that make me feel good
Manifesting Love Through Daily Letters
Speaker 1. You know , I was going to the gym . I was planning my vacation , you know , I was planning my next steps in my career , cause I knew I was in for a big transition at this point . You know , things were all dialing up . I'm like , okay , I'm just gonna keep enjoying this .
Speaker 1And so what I started to do and I remembered this because I used this way back in the day to actually heal a relationship that was very broken so I'm like I'm gonna pull out that love letter method again . I'm gonna see what happens , but this time , you know , I'm just gonna like talk to , like , this imaginary person , right , I know now what I'm looking for in a partner . And so I'm just gonna take this method and every day I'm gonna write , I'm gonna write them a little note , like it doesn't have to be a long letter , and you guys know I do my daily practice , every day , religiously , so I tack that onto my daily practice . And I wrote a little note and I was like , you know , dear , whatever give him a name , and I would just write everything I was grateful for and everything we had in our life together . And I was , you know , expressing how much I loved being in his company , how much I love being in his presence , how much I loved just feeling him next to me . You know how much I loved our being together , how much I love the life we created together , how much I love the home we had together , right , and I just kind of went on and on and on and on , and I also went on about a lot of the characteristics that I had honed in on that you know were so important to me , right , I love you for being so honest with me and for being committed to us , like things like that . You know that I knew really would make the difference for me in a relationship that I was really looking for , that I hadn't experienced up until that point .
Speaker 1I put it all down in this letter and then , you know , I would do this every day for 30 days , right , and you know , come heller high water , I would sit down , I would write a note to my ethereal partner telling him how much I love him and how amazing he is and how much I appreciate him and enjoy him and adore him , all the things that I love about him and how , and very as again , specifically , how I love how he , how he is , is towards me , how he approaches me , how he engages with me , right , being very specific and almost making it seem like a diary , right , and this was , I think , the important thing . I made it seem like a diary as though I was writing it at the end of the day of us spending an entire day together . Right , and what did our day look like ? I love the dinner we made together today , babe . It was amazing . I love the , the um , I don't know . I love the coffee or the hot chocolate you made me after dinner , right , and I loved snuggling up with you to watch that movie together . I know it wasn't , I know it wasn't what you wanted to watch , what we watched it , and we had an amazing time and I appreciate you so much for it .
Speaker 1Like things like that , right , and I would just go off and I would do this every single day , and then I would
Manifesting Love Through Gratitude and Self-Love
Speaker 1leave it , I wouldn't even think about it , I wouldn't go online , I wouldn't look for him , I wouldn't keep my eyes peeled every time I went to the store , I wouldn't constantly check my messages or my inbox or my notifications . I Just went about and I lived my best life . I went to the , like I said . I went to the gym , I got my hair done . I Planned my meals , I got together with my friends , I planned an awesome vacation , did some shopping , you know , did whatever I felt like I needed to do In order to be my best self .
Speaker 1As we're planning this vacation , me and my friend , I'm starting to get this inkling that I'm gonna meet somebody on this trip out of nowhere . I'm like , wow , this is crazy I'm , and I start having dreams that I'm gonna meet someone and I have a dream about meeting him and where I met him in the space and everything . I had this dream that I was in swing in turquoise water and A hand came into the water , pulled me out of the water and I looked up and I said it to you and I can still remember , like the water , the scenery of the beach . I can remember everything , like there was like a Turquoise , blue water , white sand beach and these beautiful palm trees and these cliffside rocks , that kind of like . It was like a little like cove Lo and behold . And so sorry that that's when I got started to get the idea I'm gonna go back to the .
Speaker 1I started to get the idea I'm gonna meet somebody on this trip , I think right . So we booked and then my sister and I were randomly walking through them all one day and we went to this gemstone healing gemstone shop and she was looking for something . I was totally doing something else . She was taking forever . I'm like , oh my god , what is taking so long ? So I go in there . Anyway , the girl in this shop is amazing . She's reading my sister and basically giving her some advice with some things that she was Experiencing in her life at the time . And then she looks at me and she's like you're about to meet someone . She says whoa ? And I'm like really . And she said to me she goes I see turquoise water . And I'm like , holy fuck . And this was literally the day after I had the dream . Like I had the dream , I think , maybe the night before or two nights before , and then we ran into her and she said I see turquoise water . She goes are you going away ? I'm like uh-huh . So it was confirmed , right , it was confirmed , it was happening . And I really tried and I think this is really important , you guys I tried really hard not to get attached to the idea that I was gonna meet somebody , because I knew that the only thing that would push this away is if I now started to attach to this idea that I was gonna meet someone and , you know , make that the be all end all of this trip .
Speaker 1So , anyway , weeks went on , packed my bags , got to the airport , off we go , had an amazing time , beautiful beach , beautiful resort , but there was like multiple beaches right and so , and oh , we spent so much time by the pool . I'm not a pool person , but this pool was fucking priceless . And so we're spending all this time by the pool , we're doing all the things , we're going all the restaurants , we're , you know , we're having all the fun . And then , probably about three or four days , and I start to feel that , oh , so obviously I did myself , I did allow myself to get attached to the idea , because now I'm feeling the disappointment that it didn't happen . So I said to my friend you know , I'm really disappointed . I really thought for sure this was gonna be the trip that I would meet someone . But doesn't like it's gonna happen . There's a little like nobody . The resort , it was dead , it was like low season . So I'm like there's like nobody here . Oh , lo and behold , I Think it was like the second last or the third last day .
Speaker 1Oh , I meet him in the water , exactly the way my dream described it , and it was amazing and , honestly , it was like one of those experiences where you meet somebody and you feel like you've known them your entire life and it's funny because you know at first glance like I can't even explain it at first glance you wouldn't think like he was my type in any way , not to say that you know whatever , he's anything wrong with him , but just not somebody I would typically go for in some ways . In some ways , yes , and in some ways , though , but the important thing is is there was this knowing again , like I saw in my dream oh my God , it's you . And so all this , 30 days after , or about a month or two after I had started the love letter manifestation method , and it was beautiful . It was such a beautiful romance . I did leave a few things out of the letter that I should probably go back and clarify because there are some logistical challenges , but nonetheless , it was just this beautiful , epic romance and you know something that I will treasure for my entire life , and I do believe that all of this came about because of the love letter method . So it can work really quickly , it can , you know , be really powerful , and I think the important thing is to remember not to get attached to when or how , because you can literally it can literally work its magic anywhere .
Speaker 1I think the important thing , the important thing to take away from all of this , is when you do this method . You do it , do it every day , feel the feels like you're actually experiencing the love and the gratitude , and then leave it aside and go on and live your best life , and I think that's where you meet your most aligned relationship . Your aligned relationship is not going to meet you when you're searching for it . Your aligned relationship is going to meet you when you're out there , being who you are , enjoying your life fully and feeling complete within yourself . That's when that relationship will show up .
Speaker 1Any other time , you know , whenever you're searching for a relationship and you feel like you need that relationship , it's because you need it to fill a void or a hole , or fill a gap or soothe a fear or a limiting belief or that give you some external validation that you need . So when you break away from that need and you can actually come back to I'm me , I'm a hole , I'm perfect , just as I am , and I'm out there living my best life and I know exactly what I want in a partner , because this is it . I'm writing it down every day and I'm appreciating it before it's even here . That is so powerful and obviously , doing the work behind the scenes , right . I mean , that's a given , because if you have any like you know , if you have stuff that you're , you know , bringing into relationship to relationship , to relationship with you , you have to start to work through those patterns and beliefs so that you can break the cycle of self-sabotage , so you can actually attract a healthy , loving relationship .
Speaker 1So , if this is something that you want to do , it's so simple . I just want you to grab yourself a journal and or you can use a notes app in your phone , whatever is more convenient for you , whatever feels more aligned , and every day you're going to write a little thank you note , thank you for what you did that day , thank you for how they treat you , what it is you love about the way they treat you , what it is you love about them , how they show up , what it is you love about your life together . I want you to get really , really , really specific and again , it doesn't have to be very long a couple of like , maybe like a paragraph , right , but it's more . It's not about how much you write , it's about how much you feel when you're writing it . It's really the important thing , and so I strongly encourage you to do this and give yourself 30 days . Give yourself 30 days and see what happens . Let me know in the comments , wherever you're seeing this , what comes up for you and what transpires over the next 30 days . I would love to see how this works .
Speaker 1I've used this in so many different ways . I've used this with partners , I've used this with friendships , I've used this with careers like it never , ever , ever , failed me , and it's such a beautiful way to bring love and gratitude to an experience that you've not yet experienced yet , so you can be an energetic match for really calling it in right . So , so , so , so powerful . So let me know . Let me know how this works , let me know what transpires . And remember love yourself the way you want to be loved , and I promise you you will be , and that's really your only homework , aside from writing the letter , is making sure that you're loving yourself so that this person , when they come in , will mirror that love right back to you .
Speaker 1Okay , if you're ready to create a massive uplevel in your relationships and your life . Head down to the link below this podcast and book a up level and flow session with me . These are powerful 90 minute sessions where we will get laser focused to create massive change and transformation in your relationships . If you've got a question , if there's anything that you're struggling with , curious about or just dying to know , hit me up at Maria at thefemcoachcom and let me know all about it . Who knows , you just might inspire the next episode of the Femcast . And , last but not least , please , if you love this episode , it would mean the world to me if you would leave a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Spotify or wherever you're seeing this . That is all for now , you guys . Until next time , massive love .
