UNEXPECTED LOVE KNOCKING AT YOUR DOOR | SARAH MAC ON FINDING LOVE ON CRAIGSLIST, HER IMMIGRATION JOURNEY, AND THE ART OF CREATING HONEST DATING PROFILES

Today, we're kicking off with the intriguing tale of my guest and dear friend Sarah Mac, who found love in the most unanticipated place - while seeking a roommate on Craigslist. As a talented writer and a creative business mentor, Sarah brings along with her a story, packed with unexpected turns and inspiring insights. She and her partner Alborz, who started as roommates, have built a beautiful relationship together, a journey that will make you question the unpredictability and charm of life.

Join our engaging conversation, as she shares her personal experiences of moving to Canada, exploring the boundaries of relationships, and finding the courage to listen to her heart. Her journey as an immigrant has been filled with challenges and opportunities, offering valuable lessons about making the most of every moment. Together, we also explore the power of manifestation, her path to self-discovery, and how it assisted her in finding clarity in what she truly desired in a partner.

Finally, we dive into the world of online dating, revealing tips and tricks for creating profiles that truly reflect your reality. Sarah, with her wealth of experience, offers expert insights into crafting a dating profile that exudes with, vision, and values. Get ready for a rich exploration of love, self-awareness, relationships, and the journey of taking the path less traveled, all contributing to our pursuit of happiness. So, tune in and let's embark on this unusual love story and the magic of manifestation!

Let's do this.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:32

Hey you guys, what is up and welcome back to the show. I am so excited and grateful to have you here, and I am also very excited and grateful for our guests today. She is none other than my good friend, Sarah Mack. Sarah is a writer and creative business mentor who works with coaches, healers and artist entrepreneurs who are ready for six figure years more freedom and fun in life and business. She supports creatives to sell high ticket coaching offers in digital courses and attract dream clients on repeat by sharing her authentic story online, which she's gonna bless us with today. Originally from the UK, Sarah now lives in LA and she's also a singer, songwriter, rapper, video artist and host of the Creative Magic Club podcast, so make sure to check that out. I will leave all her links down below so that you can connect and follow her on a line. Sarah's gonna be sharing an amazing story with us today. It is a story that I wish I could tell my grandchildren, if I had any, and it's all about how she met her partner in the most miraculous way, probably in a way that would make my mom's head spin if she ever were to find out about it. So here she is, the magical and inspirational Sarah Mack and her epic love story right here on the Femcast.

Speaker 1: 1:58

Sarah, welcome to the Femcast. How are you? Hi, I'm happy to be here. I'm so excited to have you. You're one of my biz besties and one of my like people who keep me in line in so many freaking ways. It's unimaginable, but, hallelujah, I found you. I feel the exact same.

Speaker 1: 2:22

Yeah, I'm really excited to have you here today because in the plethora of stories that you have to tell and you have so many stories like I love your stories there's one that is truly unique to you and that would probably make my mom scream at me for not putting like a roommate ad out sooner. But I'm gonna leave you to tell it because this is mind blowing to me, Cause this like this basically like blows all the advice that I've gotten out of the water. Now, this is not to give anybody any false hope, obviously, and I don't wanna give too much away here, but just you know what I'm talking too much. Please tell people why I've invited you onto the show. You have a very interesting relationship tale and you're here to tell all about it. I'm so excited.

Speaker 2: 3:13

Tell us. You know what's funny. I told this story on another podcast this morning.

Speaker 1: 3:17

Did you?

Speaker 2: 3:18

Yeah, it's one of those stories that I feel like it's gonna have its time. Maybe it's its time you know, maybe. I'm gonna make sure it more because it is such a good story. So I remind me to like preface this with the manifestation, like partnership manifestation work I did.

Speaker 2: 3:37

I'm gonna come back to that but I'll tell the story because it wasn't just like. You know, I was intentional around calling in my person, but this was not part of the plan. I put an ad on Craigslist when I was studying my masters in Montreal. Our roommate decided to move out and you know we were like, really I was living with my best friend and we were really clear that we wanted somebody who was good vibes and so we put a lot of love into the Craigslist ad and this was before I was did any type of copywriting. So, testament to my writing skills, I like, we were like let's just really clearly articulate like who we are and what the vibe is in the apartment. Had you know, we were just like stating the facts right, we were being accurate.

Speaker 2: 4:29

Like we collect discos, balls, we love having dance parties, we love, you know, sitting around the dinner table having long philosophical conversations with our friends from all over the world. And Albus saw it. He was in Montreal studying his masters in immunology and he was living alone and he just wanted to live with roommates so he could connect with more people. And so he came, rang the doorbell, came for an interview and he was the only person that had responded to our ad. So I was really trying to sell the apartment. I wasn't really paying much attention to him so I didn't like you know.

Speaker 2: 5:07

I didn't really notice him. I was like you're fine, we just need someone to pay the rent, so please move in.

Speaker 1: 5:12

And apparently, I that's still your criteria rent, pay.

Speaker 2: 5:16

Yeah, exactly, and apparently I really made an impression on him and he was like I thought you're, even though we were like this is the best apartment, we'd love this apartment, we're so lucky to live here, he was like I thought your apartment was kind of skanky, but I thought you guys were really great.

Speaker 2: 5:30

So I decided to move in. It was an old apartment but I love that. I had a lot of character, you know, in the plateau in Montreal and-. And then the day he moved it well, he'd moved in I was traveling. I got back from my trip. He like knocked on my door in the morning. I'd arrived late that night and I walked out of my door and I looked him in the eye and I instantly was like I'm in love with this person and he does have like very dreamy eyes. He's has like big eyes.

Speaker 1: 6:04

I've met him, it's true.

Speaker 2: 6:08

And I was like that's a terrible idea. Here's my roommate, I'm not even gonna go there. That's way too messy.

Speaker 1: 6:16

So in the context of bad ideas.

Speaker 2: 6:18

That was probably one of the worst. Go on, yeah. So I resisted for like three months and we just became good friends, like we were hanging out having so much fun together. It was kind of unconscious because consciously I was like there's no way I'm going anywhere near my roommate because we had such a good thing going. We were having so much fun. It was such a great dynamic in our apartment.

Speaker 1: 6:42

Did your other roommate know how you were feeling Like? Did you tell her?

Speaker 2: 6:45

I told her yeah, I told her but I was like, don't worry, I'm not gonna go there. And then at Christmas that year so that was like what three months after, and my roommate left for Christmas, so it was just us in the apartment. So we got it on and I thought maybe this is gonna be like just a Christmas playing. I knew he'd been casually seeing somebody, but it wasn't serious, and he'd been bringing lots of girls home from the bars, which I was well aware of because he was my roommate. Did they sound happy when they were in the room with him? Oh no, I didn't hear that.

Speaker 1: 7:30

Is that too much information?

Speaker 2: 7:31

No, let's not do that to him. I didn't hear that no. But then when I had this feeling it was like end of the holidays, this girl that he'd been seeing was like due to be back in town, and my spidey senses started like prickling and I just had this feeling in my stomach with it just dropped, thinking of him with somebody else. And so I remember we were looking off my friend's cat, Maddie she's like the famous community cat from our friendship group in Montreal and we were looking after her and I remember like scooping her up. She's this big, fluffy, ironically Persian cat.

Speaker 2: 8:11

And I went in and sat in his room and I was like you know, I'm interested in seeing where this could go and like no pressure, one day at a time, no expectations, but if we're gonna continue to explore this, it has to be monogamous, Because that would just fuck with my head. Knowing that he was out staying with another girl, like that would just be too much energetically for me to be dealing within my own home. And he was like okay, who's like? That's fine. He's like I'm definitely interested in seeing where this is gonna go and like no expectations, exclusivity. I'm on board with that. This is just too easy, I know.

Speaker 1: 8:56

For all the people who say you know he's not gonna knock on your door while you're sitting and you're living in your pajamas. Actually, he can't.

Speaker 2: 9:02

Literally rang the doorbell. Well, I was sitting in my pajamas.

Speaker 1: 9:11

I threw that in. Were you actually in your pajamas, would you enter the door?

Speaker 2: 9:15

I mean, my general fashion goal is to feel like I'm always in pajamas.

Speaker 1: 9:19

Yeah, you have said that to me.

Speaker 2: 9:21

I can't pass for being out in public.

Speaker 1: 9:26

I mean, it's a mind blowing, because there's so many people out there that I mean, and I'm not encouraging people to just sit on their sofa, and there's a preface to this which you're gonna share, which is really important, I think. But for all the people who have said countless times you're not gonna meet him in your living room, I say to you please, this is my real episode.

Speaker 1: 9:49

Okay, so let's backtrack a little. First of all, I applaud you for being the one to take the initiative and go like two feet in and say, hey, listen, I'm down for this, but these are my boundaries, which is never an easy conversation, especially with a roommate. So that much has taken a lot of courage for you, I think. Tell me a little bit about it.

Speaker 2: 10:08

Yeah, it was scary. It was scary like my hands were shaking and yeah, it definitely felt challenging to say that, yeah, to say that, but obviously I'm glad that I did. And it would have been way worse if I hadn't had that conversation.

Speaker 1: 10:24

Definitely, because, if you think about it, you would have been just torturing yourself mentally back and forth with him being with you and then your roommate coming back and him seeing the other person, like there was a whole can of worms there that really like when you actually boil it down the other would have been way harder for you to move through. This was like a rip off, the bandaid kind of moment, right.

Speaker 2: 10:47

Yeah, and I think you know, like anything, it's the non-attachment that is like where you're in your power. It's like you have to be willing to accept, I had to take the risk that he was gonna be like, no, that's not gonna work for me, and I had to be willing to walk away.

Speaker 1: 11:06

Yeah, I think you always have to be in a state of being willing to lose something in order to be in relationship with it in a powerful way, whether whatever it is, whether it's a partner, a friendship, a career, a job, money, like. You always have to be in a position where I'm okay without this external thing, and only then can you really come from a truly empowered place in relation to other people, places and things. Tell me a little bit about, because I know obviously we talk tons about manifestation. If I pulled up some of our whole texts, oh my God. So I mean leading up to this moment, right, what was your relationship experience before him? And then, what did you do to change that?

Speaker 2: 14:17

So I've always been like a serial monogamous. I remember as soon as I turned 14, I was like I want a boyfriend, but I like wasn't really into any of the boys. I was just like, please let there be a boy who's like I can be into you. For me to date, my first relationship was like three years and my next relationship was five years. So I'm one of those people who's just like always been in a relationship. So when I moved out to Canada and that my last serious relationship ended because of that, I set the intention. I was like I just have to be single. I have to like do that for myself or like not just jump into the next relationship with the next person. Also, I wanted to do the North American thing and like try and be in an open relationship. Turns out I'm not very good at that. It's like still like literally.

Speaker 2: 15:17

I arrived in Montreal and like one of the first guys I met was this like super cute Kebukwaf filmmaker and I was like hmm, and I started dating him. Yum, and then I was like I don't need anybody else, like this is fine, you know. Like it wasn't serious. He knew from the beginning that it was open because I would go and work in Vancouver in the summers and so you know I would have like flings when I was over there, and but I think it was just important for me to not just get really attached and like wrap my life up in somebody else's life. And it was a really great moment in my life, like doing my masters was the first time anyone ever asked me, like what do you really want to focus on? You know I had freedom to like choose what I was going to study, and in the UK our like undergraduate degrees are kind of different than they are in North America, where you kind of have a bit of more of an option here, like there you sign up for a subject and they tell you what you're going to study. They're like you can either choose this course or this course. They're not like study whatever you want. So it kind of gave me an opportunity not only to have way more freedom in my schedule but actual, you know, time to explore and to really ask myself, like what do I want? Like what is really interesting to me, what is really lighting me up Of all the things I can do? You know it's like oh well, I might as well pick the things that I most enjoy and that I'm the most excited by, and you know that was. It was just like a very creatively alive time for me.

Speaker 2: 16:46

And living in Montreal where, like, my cost of living was so low and I had time and those, just like the artistic community there is just so vibrant and I was so inspired. You know I was had taken up photography. I was like making short, experimental movies. I just felt like I was really creatively self-express, which is something I had really been longing for and hadn't really had in my career in film production before. That you know where I was just working long hours like driving trucks and moving furniture and like yelling into a radio on set. So I really felt like I was.

Speaker 2: 17:27

And that's when I started doing the artist's way by Julia Cameron, which is like the most life-changing work. We've done that together. I've done it four times now and you know just that process of journaling and self-reflecting every day and really connecting to yourself and actually listening to yourself and being like what's bothering you, what's coming up and like what do you want, and really seeing the desires that bubble through and then actually having the freedom and the mobility to be able to give a lot of those things to myself. Like I really felt like I was being fully myself and I was giving to myself the things that really made me happy, and so I really felt like I was like living my best life, you know.

Speaker 2: 18:07

I was living the life that I really wanted to live and I actually dated. So when I met elbows, I very unconsciously turned off the guy I was dating. It wasn't like it wasn't a conscious thing in my mind where I was like oh, I'm really into this guy and I don't want to see this guy anymore.

Speaker 2: 18:23

So I was like suddenly I just I'm not feeling this anymore, so I broke it off with him. But I wasn't seeing elbows. So I dated this other guy in the interim who I met at like an after party which is never a good place to meet people to date and you know he was just like, he just flaked on me and like said he was going to do one thing and then didn't do something.

Speaker 2: 18:49

Like went on a big night out and didn't invite me and went up we were supposed to be hanging out together and he, you know, he like bailed on me to hang out with his friends and it made me so angry and I felt so disrespected.

Speaker 2: 19:00

And I was like you know, it was one of those moments where I was like this is really like, I'm not standing for this. Like it made me angry, you know, and I was like I am like no fucking way Am I ever settling for this, ever again. Like you know, I feel like those moments are really like, energetically, they're like big breakthroughs, right, Totally, I know the next person I'm going to invest my time in. Like it just helped me get clear on what I want. I was like ugh, this is not what I want.

Speaker 1: 19:31

Okay, cool. What do you want?

Speaker 2: 19:33

And so you know, I think I took, I paid. It was probably like because I was, you know, on very limited income at the time, I was on my bursary for my masters, but I invested in some type of manifestation like manifesting the one, like manifesting your soulmate, course, you know, through some like email marketing funnel and I don't remember the specifics of it. I think it was like four videos, and you know you just have to like make the list, yeah, and I made the list and kind of forgot about it. And so the funny thing was is I was already hanging out with Alboros at this time.

Speaker 2: 20:10

So I think I think just being around him was like raising my standards, because he is an incredible guy. You know he, so is in every way.

Speaker 2: 20:21

So, yeah, so. And then I think obviously, by the time we got together, I was like, oh, he's like everything on my list and more, yeah, and and also so many other things that I never would have put on my list. You know like we're so different. If someone had been like you're going to fall in love with a scientist, I would have been like, yeah, I would have been like so we can we just say can we say what his career is?

Speaker 1: 20:43

Because this is every mom's like we're at dream for her daughter, like what is the Alborze to keep?

Speaker 2: 20:50

He's a doctor, but I was like no, I was like really against him becoming a doctor. From the beginning I was like you're going to hate it, like you're just going to have to work so hard and like you know, he has a very artistic soul and I could like and I think, as he's a Leo rising, I'm a Leo, so I always saw that in him and like he loved we really connect over art and culture.

Speaker 2: 21:11

Yeah, and you know that's the biggest part of his personality, so I would always have little fantasies for him, just like breaking out of medicine and like becoming an artist. And actually his North node I forget which placement is, but that is a part of his Dharma is like his past life karma is medicine.

Speaker 2: 21:29

And then he's in this lifetime he's going to shift into more creative work and I can see that happening. You know he's like very interested in entrepreneurship and he's like dabbling, so I definitely see that for him and I think I've always connected to that part of him. And you know, there's a reason why he's attracted to me is like he that's. I am an embodiment of his rising sign. Yeah, so you know it makes sense. But yeah, I had huge resistance to him becoming a doctor. Obviously, like he went through medical school and then he went through four years of residency, which was absolute hell on earth. Yeah, that was a tough time. I tried to convince him to quit multiple times.

Speaker 1: 22:05

And during COVID he was in residency in New York City, right? So it's like it's not. It's not a light workload by any means. It takes a toll on you.

Speaker 2: 22:14

Yeah, it was like 70 to 100 hour weeks like really, really toxic work environment with like toxic leadership and, you know, emotional and like actual physical abuse, where they like he's not allowed to eat, he's not allowed to drink, he's not allowed to frickin sleep and he's like falling asleep at the wheel on his way home. You know like horrendous, yeah. But now he has a really great job finally and he's happy and he has slightly more normal working hours and I'm grateful that he's stuck it out.

Speaker 1: 22:43

I watch you guys go through this evolution and it's just like so crazy, right, Because you guys weren't. You guys were in separation at one point, when you were stuck in Montreal during the pandemic, he was in New York City. You're coming back and forth and back and forth and it was just you know, and he was in residency at the time, and the toll that that was putting on your relationship, like watching you come full circle to this place. It is just so like magical to see this, like you can see the happy ending now, you know for a while Not that you couldn't see the happy ending.

Speaker 1: 23:09

but it was just you know this situation, as easy as it was that he knocked on your front door. It came with a ton of, you know, challenges, and I think the important thing is you know relationships are always going to take work and there's always going to be sort of mindset shifts that we need to make in order to be in a relationship. But I think what's really, what's really beautiful is that you've come to this place now where you're both these beautiful like these two whole persons, like living their best life, like living out their dreams, doing what it is that they want to do, and sort of coexisting in those two, in those, those two worlds have come together so beautifully, whereas for the longest time it's been like kind of once over here, once up there. It's really nice to see.

Speaker 2: 23:54

And not a lot of work. Yeah, no, relationships are a lot of work.

Speaker 1: 23:59

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 24:01

Sometimes I'm like.

Speaker 1: 24:04

I just got another pet. Tell me a little bit about, because I want to. I want to get into, like what's in your head. Like, if we can, if we can backtrack to like the days before that you met Alborz and he literally knocked on your front door. You know you said you were the kind of like living your best life. You said something really important in that you know you were giving yourself what you needed.

Speaker 1: 24:27

And I think a lot of times, you know, we get into this pattern of thinking that if we meet this person, you know they're going to, you know complete right and I use their quotes right, they're going to give us the they're we're going to be able to do the things that we want to do with them. They're going to give us the freedom that we want. They're going to give us a stability, be the anchor and the security that we long and crave for. But you literally did that for yourself before having met him, and I think that's really important. And I also want to get an idea of like what was your belief like when you met him? Like how did you feel about yourself and life? Like what was? If you had to caption it as an affirmation like what would it be?

Speaker 2: 25:02

That's a great question. I was really on a high because you know. So, to backtrack, I first moved to Canada in well, I did an exchange semester in 2006 in Toronto and then I loved Canada so much that I applied for a one-year work visa. I went out to Vancouver in 2008, and then I got another one and then, you know, I had kind of like maxed out on work visas. So the reason I applied for my master's because I really wanted to live in Canada like I'd built this amazing life there.

Speaker 2: 25:40

I loved it, I really saw myself there and you know, I think ever since that first visa where I literally had enough money to last me one month, I went out there because I wanted to work in the film industry. And it's really hard to get into the film industry in the UK, there's like a lot of competition. So I was very prepped to expect that in Vancouver. But it's not like that in Vancouver. It's like one of the main industries that every other person you meet in, like coffee shops, works in film, and so it was actually surprisingly easy for me to land work and it was like a dream gig for me. You know, I was like driving around in like beaches and mountains and working on really awesome projects, meeting so many great people, and I think that really instilled in me just this belief that like I can have what I want and like magic and miracles happen when you take leaves. You know, like that was one of the big, like really good things that happened in my life.

Speaker 2: 26:35

And then so I applied, I applied for my master's in at Ryerson and I got rejected. But then I applied in Montreal and I got accepted and then they were, like you know, international student fees like 35,000 or whatever, and I was like you know, I just didn't have that money and then I got a full scholarship. So it really just felt like a miracle. You know, I was like I really felt like I was meant to be there and that so I had just arrived to Montreal and I was definitely in a phase of my life where I was like things just work out for me and I just felt so grateful and I was so happy to be there and it was really exciting and I think that was my mindset, you know it was like I was just, and I think it's that immigrant mindset, like when you get given an opportunity, you save it.

Speaker 2: 27:31

you're like the phrase that one of my friends uses is like an activity Nazi, where you're like I must take all the opportunities, no, it's like I will not say no. It's like some morning until night. It's like I enrolled in all the courses, I enrolled in all the extracurricular activities because I was like this is an opportunity that I've been given that's so unique I wouldn't have if I lived at home and I was so grateful for it and I was just like eating it up. So I think you know I was definitely in that mindset, was and I didn't know anybody when, I moved there, apart from my best friend who moved.

Speaker 2: 28:07

We moved in together. She wasn't my best friend then we literally had a friend of a friend and we connected that summer in Vancouver and realized we were both moving out there. She was my only connection and I didn't know her that well at the time. So I had that mindset of like I was just so open and like I was putting myself out there and I was doing so many new things, putting myself in so many different new environments and like really choosing things that were exciting for me, and I was really in like a very, very big upward spiral of enjoying my life and and doing living life the way that I really really made me happy.

Speaker 1: 28:41

Oh, that's amazing, and I think what you said there was actually like, really, really important because, even though you met him again not to say this repeatedly even though you met him, like literally knocking on your front door, you were actually so going out and doing the things that you love to do and and taking part, like participating and activities you love to participate in, which I think is important because, yeah, until we come into alignment with you can't attract what you want to attract, until you can kind of be in alignment with who you are and what you want to bring in, right, you have to be in alignment first and you did that. Was it hard? Cause you decided you moved around, like if anyone had challenges, like you had limited social circles, right, you were in a new place, like, and we all make excuses, we all make, I make excuses all the time. I don't think I've left my apartment in three days. I've showered, you know there's nothing gross going on, but I've not left my apartment in three days, right, and it's so easy, especially as an entrepreneur, to just like get comfortable in your little like cocoon and not go out there, but it is really important to get out there and do the things that you want to do If you want to attract the kind of people that you want to attract. I think it's not about them not showing up at your front door. It's about what energy are you being in for them to show up.

Speaker 2: 29:58

I think it's a key Cause if I'd written a Craigslist ad that was like I just like to stay home in my room and like you know, have our apartment nice and quiet and not really disturb each other.

Speaker 2: 30:08

He probably wouldn't have answered that. You know, Like I was already living a very desirable lifestyle. It was very magnetic, Not because of the specific things I was doing, but like I was having so much fun. I think, honestly, like that's my philosophy. It's like if something feels hard, just pick something that's more fun. You know, a lot of the time things feel hard is cause we actually are trying to do things that we don't actually want to do. So what are the things that you want to do? You know, like do those and, yeah, find the path of least resistance there. And I think, yeah, sometimes it requires being willing to make a radical change, like moving to a new neighborhood or like leaving a job or, you know, like moving countries. In my case, it's like it was big, big moves that like really paid off, because when I'm and I've seen this again for myself you know we were living in the Bronx in New York because we had to live there for his residency placements as he was working between two hospitals.

Speaker 2: 31:04

One of them was really far up north and it was like really far away from my friends and like I just didn't really vibe with the community that we were. There was just nothing there.

Speaker 2: 31:13

You know it's like very car dependent, or like hours of time on on transit and I wasn't happy living there and like my mood was down, my creativity was down, and like it impacted my business and it impacted my social circle and it impacted my health. And you know, we just moved to LA in July and I really took a stand for the neighborhood that I wanted to live in, cause that's one thing I've learned is like I need to be in proximity, where I can be kind of spontaneous, where I can access things without having to travel really far distances, where I'm like surrounded by people who are my community, who I feel really excited by and inspired by, and like that's huge. Because when I have that and those needs are met for me and I'm inspired by the place that I live, then I have so much more energy and to do other things or like take on bigger challenges. So I think you really do have to be honest about what is making you happy and what isn't making you happy and actually be willing to make the changes.

Speaker 1: 32:13

Yeah, and sometimes I think it's a bit of a stepping stone too, right, like sometimes the thing that will make you happy in that moment is such a it's such a little thing and we try to overthink it, I think.

Speaker 2: 32:23

We try to overanalyze it.

Speaker 1: 32:24

But if you just do this one, like for me, sometimes, if I'm in a funk and I feel like I'm low energy, like I'll put on my spot, if I playlist right and I'll start listening to some music and that's enough to get me to the next thing, and then the next thing gets me to the next thing and the next thing. And I think when you keep, when you look at it in small baby steps like that, I think you go through it a lot easier, cause I mean, you see, I know you struggled with depression anxiety, I've struggled with depression anxiety there are days where you just don't feel like doing anything like at all.

Speaker 2: 32:54

What's your best go-to, do you think, to kind of get you out of your funk, or always, always, always movement, yeah, always Like, especially as a manifesting generator and human design. It's like we generate energy and even just going for a walk or doing some gentle yoga, getting outside in nature, like if I don't move my body every day, like the spiral starts going down you know, and it's just like constant movement and not like pushing myself or doing crazy workouts.

Speaker 2: 33:28

But I definitely see the correlation between the more I move my body in ways that feel really good, which for me is usually yoga and walking and dancing Like that spiral is just like the momentum starts going up and up and up and up and up and when I increase the like not necessarily the intensity but the quality.

Speaker 2: 33:52

Like sometimes working out a little bit. You know, like doing a longer yoga class or like instead of doing a 15 minute, doing a 30 minute and occasionally doing like a full hour long yoga class, Like it makes a difference for me.

Speaker 1: 34:04

It does, and sometimes I think it takes a good seven to 10 minutes to actually get out of that low energy feeling and actually start cultivating some energy so you can get a better workout in, right, I think?

Speaker 2: 34:16

Yeah, and breath work is really really like. You know, there's other is it called other? Ship this app that I have on my phone and they have two to three minute breath work exercises with some baby music and you know someone giving you a pep talk over the top, and it's like just breathing, Like if even if you're sick or like you feel like physically heavy or exhausted or fatigued just oxygenating your body. Like you'll, you'll literally start. I start having different thoughts and it just creates a different direction I gotta try that, okay, listen.

Speaker 1: 34:47

Last question, and this is for the people who are me Are there certain their listening to this going? Maybe I should get out there more and start dating. You know my relationship with online dating and how I feel that I make it blatantly obvious that I'm not a huge fan of online dating. But you wrote that craigslist ads so intentionally and beautifully and clearly it worked for you. If you were to give people three places to start, if they were going to write their online dating profile to make to really magnetize the partner that they would want, what would you tell them?

Speaker 2: 35:20

Oh, this is a great question. So what I tell all my clients like, this is my job, right, I'm like a messaging, I love it. And businessmen.

Speaker 1: 35:29

You're writing my online profile, if I ever get out there again.

Speaker 2: 35:32

Yeah, definitely, and it's like just tell the truth. Yeah, like tell the truth. You know, like it's not hard. You are you, your story is your story and what you desire is what you desire. Yeah, and I think sometimes that's hard for people in relationships who like well, I don't want to like turn people off or miss out. Like no, be honest, like be brutally honest about what you know.

Speaker 1: 35:51

you know like yeah, better to turn them off now than three months from now, when you're like exactly, if you really want to get married, say it.

Speaker 2: 35:59

If you really want to have kids or you really don't, say it. If you like want to explore, say it. If you've got like kinks, say it. You know like be explicit and I would just say, tell your story. You know, and like tell people, like share your vision, like what is your vision for your life? Like, what do you really want in your life? Like what, what, most importantly, what? What do you value? Know and get really clear on that for yourself.

Speaker 2: 36:25

Like what a deal breakers for you, what are the values that are just so inherent in all of the choices that you make in your life, whether it's family location, you know, like lifestyle, like when you like to have time off, when you want to imagine spending time together, like what you imagine doing together, what your hobbies are, what you're interested in your hobbies becoming. You know, like, like socially things that you're really into and what else. Yeah, I would just tell people like you know, if you zoom out, like what are the things that you're most grateful for in your life and about who you are, I think that says a lot. And and, yeah, tell, tell those, tell a couple of those stories, because that's really going to help people to connect to you and and I think creating that connection is is key to attracting someone who really resonates with you.

Speaker 1: 37:24

There you have it, and hopefully everybody uses that to create their online profile. Has a handsome tall doctor knocking on their front door. Sarah, thank you so much for being here. I'm so grateful to have you and so excited. I can't wait to have you back on the show. If any of you want to get in touch with Sarah, I will leave all her details down below. Thank you until next time. Massive love you guys.